Euthanize or attempt to re-home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would put her down. Reluctantly. But I'd never trust anyone else to care for her the way you're doing. So if you truly can't continue, I'd euthanize.

+1 and thank you for not considering the suggestion to let her be outdoors. That would be a worse death than being euthanized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have done your best. The kindest thing at this point would be humane euthanasia.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have done your best. The kindest thing at this point would be humane euthanasia.

It's ok to put her down OP. You have tried your best for 16 years. It would be heart breaking for you and tramatic for your cat yo go to a shelter.

+1 exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please, do not ever get another animal again, ever. No matter what. I hope this little old cat's face stares at you forever.

Until you've walked in OP's shoes kindly STFU.

[Anonymous]

If she's so timid, rehoming likely won't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To start: yes, I know I'm a horrible person for considering either option. We've struggled with keeping/parting with our now 16yr old cat for more than five years. We're at the end of our ropes and it's no longer sustainable. So these are my two remaining options: euthanize or re-home.

Cat is lovely but incredibly timid. Lives only in our bedroom and bathroom. Won't leave our room to use litter box. Litter box is now in our shower. She reliably uses the litter box to poop (95%, other 5% in our shower) and tries to pee there but ends up peeing in shower at least half the time. And flings litter everywhere so we are combatting litter in the shower. Box elsewhere in bathroom doesn't work because she pees outside of it and it soaks into grout.

She's 16. She's in good health. She just needs a home with NO noise/children/activity with room for a very large litter box. She's nice. But would never tolerate another animal or busy home.

So what's the kindest move here? We are more than five years into biting the bullet and waiting for nature to take its course. She seems like she's planning to live forever. Our room smells like a toilet all day every day. I don't even want to sleep there anymore. We have worked HARD to make this work. But it's time for her to move on. I just want to do the kindest thing knowing that neither is really a great choice.

Op,

Imagine you wanting to adopt a cat. Would you adopt a kitten or a 16 year old that does not poop in the liter? If you wouldn't why would you expect others too? Euthanize is the best solution if you absolutely can't wait a few years. You had the best years of her life and I can't imagine abandoning them when they are old.

[Anonymous]

Euthanize

[Anonymous]

I would opt for a humane euthanization. If she is that timid, she will be miserable suddenly thrust into a strange situation with unfamiliar noises. Would have her checked by vet first to make sure there isn’t anything treatable that can be done first. At her age, and with peeing in the house, no one is going to adopt her.

[Anonymous]

Use a different kind of litter - pellet litterlike feline pine or yesterdays news doesn’t scatter. Scoop it with your plastic newspaper bag.
Or, you can put reusable diapers pads in the litter box and wash them in hot .

Leave her in the bathroom - what is the problem?? Giving away a 16 year old scared cat is cruel and heartless.

[Anonymous]

You made it for 16 years, what is different now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there are no-kill cat shelters, find one of those. and please don't get pets again

This would be worse than killing her, knowing her personality. It would be hell for her. We've managed to be pet owners for 16 years but I guess I could have left her in the shelter to be killed when she was a kitten instead of giving her 16 years of living her life.

JFC. She is 16! You have, at best, 4 more years until she passes. You owe it to her to stick it out. YEah, it stinks. But you owe her. SHe's going in the shower. Big deal. She's now ruining your couches and floors. It's an inconvenience, yes. Doable, yes.

She may also have some health issues (kidneys come to mind). Get her checked out.

Be a decent human and stick it out. And don't get any more pets.

If you can't do that, honestly, euthanize her. But you will be an awful person if you do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, please, do not ever get another animal again, ever. No matter what. I hope this little old cat's face stares at you forever.

Until you've walked in OP's shoes kindly STFU.

I'm a np and have walked in OP's shoes. And also, as she asked for opinions, no poster needs to STFU.

The cat is not ruining anything. It's become an inconvenience. That's what makes OP so awful.

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of sympathy for you, OK. I’ve been there and it’s miserable. Can you give her a restricted area that’s pee proof? I’ve seen large “kitty condos”...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, please, do not ever get another animal again, ever. No matter what. I hope this little old cat's face stares at you forever.

Until you've walked in OP's shoes kindly STFU.

I'm a np and have walked in OP's shoes. And also, as she asked for opinions, no poster needs to STFU.

The cat is not ruining anything. It's become an inconvenience. That's what makes OP so awful.

OP here. Cat has ruined thousands of dollars worth of things and still does ruin things in a semi-regular basis. I've dealt with that for years. She doesn't do that every single day though. To a PP asks what is different: I can't stand being in my own bedroom. I just tried to take a quick nap after waking up at 3:30 this morning and being unable to go back to sleep, and then hosting a family holiday. I'm exhausted. But the smell of cat waste is overpowering IN MY BEDROOM. If I want to sleep in my room, I have to inhale cat waste odors. My closet is also connected to my bathroom and my clothes are subjected to the same. I don't have an extra bedroom and if I close the door to my room she pees in the hallway or on a kid's bed. It's not "inconvenient". It's disgusting and overpowering and unfixable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I have a lot of sympathy for you, OK. I’ve been there and it’s miserable. Can you give her a restricted area that’s pee proof? I’ve seen large “kitty condos”...

I wish I could but there's literally nowhere in our house that would work where she'd have any human interaction. Our utility room would be it but no one goes there and it's not a living space. She'd be locked away alone.