Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??

[Anonymous]

My dad is blue collar but very savy and successful (owns large company) although uneducated. I thought I was marrying "up" by marrying a math PhD. Ohhhh how I wish I married a man more like my dad. DH is completely useless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really has to do with feminism. It has emasculated the men on the coasts. It’s pretty sad really but this is what we get.

Sometimes I feel bad when I see a little boys in this area. There are a few moms at school who are constantly telling their boys how bad “men” are. Another tells her son not to rape women like that’s the default for all boys. The kid does not even know what it means. When those boys grow up, women will want them to be masculine like you all do. Bet they will have a hard time.

Stop lying. No mom is out in public talking about rape with her “little boy.” If anything, rape is a sensitive topic to women since it’s a crime that is typically only committed against women.

Let me guess - you also think that efforts to stop discrimination against black people undermine white men?

I applaud any efforts to teach men that rape and violence is wrong. If you disagree you need to do some soul searching and figure out why you have so few morals unlesss the morals benefit you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad is blue collar but very savy and successful (owns large company) although uneducated. I thought I was marrying "up" by marrying a math PhD. Ohhhh how I wish I married a man more like my dad. DH is completely useless.

+1

[Anonymous]

I wonder if there’s a link between sexual abilities and the ability to fix things at home. My husband isn’t skilled sexually and also couldn’t repair a doorknob to save his life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if there’s a link between sexual abilities and the ability to fix things at home. My husband isn’t skilled sexually and also couldn’t repair a doorknob to save his life

Probably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really has to do with feminism. It has emasculated the men on the coasts. It’s pretty sad really but this is what we get.

Sometimes I feel bad when I see a little boys in this area. There are a few moms at school who are constantly telling their boys how bad “men” are. Another tells her son not to rape women like that’s the default for all boys. The kid does not even know what it means. When those boys grow up, women will want them to be masculine like you all do. Bet they will have a hard time.

Wow. You’re more or less implying that raping women is masculine. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really has to do with feminism. It has emasculated the men on the coasts. It’s pretty sad really but this is what we get.

Sometimes I feel bad when I see a little boys in this area. There are a few moms at school who are constantly telling their boys how bad “men” are. Another tells her son not to rape women like that’s the default for all boys. The kid does not even know what it means. When those boys grow up, women will want them to be masculine like you all do. Bet they will have a hard time.

EXACTLY. I am a mother who REQUIRED my son to spend time alone with his Dad and not watch Oprah, like my neighbor. And I threw out all of the totally ridiculous "participation" trophies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really has to do with feminism. It has emasculated the men on the coasts. It’s pretty sad really but this is what we get.

Sometimes I feel bad when I see a little boys in this area. There are a few moms at school who are constantly telling their boys how bad “men” are. Another tells her son not to rape women like that’s the default for all boys. The kid does not even know what it means. When those boys grow up, women will want them to be masculine like you all do. Bet they will have a hard time.

Wow. You’re more or less implying that raping women is masculine. Disgusting.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is mostly a generational thing. We now treat boys like girls. Young guys play fewer sports and are less adventureous than previous generations . Boys don't learn how to fix things like cars and houses because they are too busy studying and gaming, especially in urban areas. And then add the brainwashing by the fem Nazis, and this is what you get. It's kind of sad because it's resulted in boys missing out on a lot of valuable life experiences.

Kinda true. Everyone gets a trophy for participation, it’s never ok for a kid to be upset and we must do whatever we can to make him happy lest his self esteem be hurt, and every boy is free to cry anywhere, anytime. And mamas are ridiculously protective now. Boys must not engage in any physical activity unless there’s a class for it. There was a thread here recently re bike riding lessons!! Pretty sure kids used to figure it out without a class . . . . All of this is more common in/near the wealthier metro areas. Maybe it’s creating more confident women, but it’s creating girly boys who just aren’t as confident and competitive as a few decades ago.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop forcing gender roles onto men. The 1950 called and want you back.

To each their own. I and OP want the man to be the man in the relationship. I don't want him crying over a chick flick and sitting around gossiping about friends and commenting on the spice combinations in a dish -- I have girlfriends for that.

Your ideas of gender roles are stereotypical and stupid.

/Women who does not like chick flicks or crying at movies

Stupid because they do not match your ideas? And you honestly think you are "enlightened"...lol
As other poster said..to each their own.
Yeah, well see how many women will want your grown-up boy and you as a MIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really has to do with feminism. It has emasculated the men on the coasts. It’s pretty sad really but this is what we get.

Sometimes I feel bad when I see a little boys in this area. There are a few moms at school who are constantly telling their boys how bad “men” are. Another tells her son not to rape women like that’s the default for all boys. The kid does not even know what it means. When those boys grow up, women will want them to be masculine like you all do. Bet they will have a hard time.

Wow. You’re more or less implying that raping women is masculine. Disgusting.

I know you think it's this binary thing. Don't rape. But still be traditionally masculine.

But, the "don't rape" message isn't as simple as "don't stick your penis in a woman after she says, 'no, stop.'" There is a strong, related message of telling boys to be very careful to avoid making women uncomfortable when expressing their romantic interests. That leads to men who are cautious, careful, and deferential to women because they don't want to inadvertently cause distress or offense. This is the opposite of masculine. The women who want traditional masculinity want a man (in whom they're interested) to sweep them off their feet. So, it's going to be tough for boys for a little while until a consensus on gender roles re-emerges. That's too bad for them, I guess. But, it's not that big of a burden when compared to the burdens we're trying to lift off of women imposed by centuries of patriarchy and toxic masculinity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really has to do with feminism. It has emasculated the men on the coasts. It’s pretty sad really but this is what we get.

Sometimes I feel bad when I see a little boys in this area. There are a few moms at school who are constantly telling their boys how bad “men” are. Another tells her son not to rape women like that’s the default for all boys. The kid does not even know what it means. When those boys grow up, women will want them to be masculine like you all do. Bet they will have a hard time.

Wow. You’re more or less implying that raping women is masculine. Disgusting.

I know you think it's this binary thing. Don't rape. But still be traditionally masculine.

But, the "don't rape" message isn't as simple as "don't stick your penis in a woman after she says, 'no, stop.'" There is a strong, related message of telling boys to be very careful to avoid making women uncomfortable when expressing their romantic interests. That leads to men who are cautious, careful, and deferential to women because they don't want to inadvertently cause distress or offense. This is the opposite of masculine. The women who want traditional masculinity want a man (in whom they're interested) to sweep them off their feet. So, it's going to be tough for boys for a little while until a consensus on gender roles re-emerges. That's too bad for them, I guess. But, it's not that big of a burden when compared to the burdens we're trying to lift off of women imposed by centuries of patriarchy and toxic masculinity.

I'm 100% fine with that, and it's not the opposite of masculine. Lots of very masculine men are incredibly deferential to "their" woman- most, in fact. And they still manage to be in shape, learn how to change a tire, etc.

You've obviously never, ever been to the south.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is mostly a generational thing. We now treat boys like girls. Young guys play fewer sports and are less adventureous than previous generations . Boys don't learn how to fix things like cars and houses because they are too busy studying and gaming, especially in urban areas. And then add the brainwashing by the fem Nazis, and this is what you get. It's kind of sad because it's resulted in boys missing out on a lot of valuable life experiences.

Kinda true. Everyone gets a trophy for participation, it’s never ok for a kid to be upset and we must do whatever we can to make him happy lest his self esteem be hurt, and every boy is free to cry anywhere, anytime. And mamas are ridiculously protective now. Boys must not engage in any physical activity unless there’s a class for it. There was a thread here recently re bike riding lessons!! Pretty sure kids used to figure it out without a class . . . . All of this is more common in/near the wealthier metro areas. Maybe it’s creating more confident women, but it’s creating girly boys who just aren’t as confident and competitive as a few decades ago.

+1

I'm old and I'm not happy. Everything today is improved and I don't like it. I hate it! In my day we didn't have hair dryers. If you wanted to blow dry your hair you stood outside during a hurricane. Your hair was dry but you had a sharp piece of wood driven clear through your skull and that's the way it was and you liked it! You loved it. Whoopee, I'm a human head-kabob. We didn't have Manoxidol and Hair Wings, in my day if your hair started falling out when you were 16 by 19 you were a bald freak. There was nothing you could do about it. Children would spit at you and nobody would mate with you so you couldn't pass on your disgusting baldness genes. You were a public menace, a chrome dome by age 20 and that's the way it was and we liked it! We loved it. Hallelujah look at me, I'm a bald freak oh happy day! Not like today, everybody feeling good about themselves. I hate it! In my day we didn't have these thin latex condoms. So you could enjoy sexual pleasure. In my day there was only one kind of condom. You took a rabbit skin and wrapped around your privates and tied it off with a bungee cord and you couldn't feel nothing! And half the time you didn't even know your partner was there. And we used the same one over and over again! 'Cause we were ignorant morons! Just a bunch of hairless, head-kabobs standing around with rabbit skins on our dinks and that's the way we liked it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is mostly a generational thing. We now treat boys like girls. Young guys play fewer sports and are less adventureous than previous generations . Boys don't learn how to fix things like cars and houses because they are too busy studying and gaming, especially in urban areas. And then add the brainwashing by the fem Nazis, and this is what you get. It's kind of sad because it's resulted in boys missing out on a lot of valuable life experiences.

Kinda true. Everyone gets a trophy for participation, it’s never ok for a kid to be upset and we must do whatever we can to make him happy lest his self esteem be hurt, and every boy is free to cry anywhere, anytime. And mamas are ridiculously protective now. Boys must not engage in any physical activity unless there’s a class for it. There was a thread here recently re bike riding lessons!! Pretty sure kids used to figure it out without a class . . . . All of this is more common in/near the wealthier metro areas. Maybe it’s creating more confident women, but it’s creating girly boys who just aren’t as confident and competitive as a few decades ago.

+1

I'm old and I'm not happy. Everything today is improved and I don't like it. I hate it! In my day we didn't have hair dryers. If you wanted to blow dry your hair you stood outside during a hurricane. Your hair was dry but you had a sharp piece of wood driven clear through your skull and that's the way it was and you liked it! You loved it. Whoopee, I'm a human head-kabob. We didn't have Manoxidol and Hair Wings, in my day if your hair started falling out when you were 16 by 19 you were a bald freak. There was nothing you could do about it. Children would spit at you and nobody would mate with you so you couldn't pass on your disgusting baldness genes. You were a public menace, a chrome dome by age 20 and that's the way it was and we liked it! We loved it. Hallelujah look at me, I'm a bald freak oh happy day! Not like today, everybody feeling good about themselves. I hate it! In my day we didn't have these thin latex condoms. So you could enjoy sexual pleasure. In my day there was only one kind of condom. You took a rabbit skin and wrapped around your privates and tied it off with a bungee cord and you couldn't feel nothing! And half the time you didn't even know your partner was there. And we used the same one over and over again! 'Cause we were ignorant morons! Just a bunch of hairless, head-kabobs standing around with rabbit skins on our dinks and that's the way we liked it!

LOL!!!! I love it! You get the post of the day prize PP. That sums it up perfectly. 10/10.

[Anonymous]

^^^ when you fight Mother Nature fertility declines and you become extinct.


Mother Nature always wins.