Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??

[Anonymous]

It’s city guys. I live in PA less then 4 hours from DC, an hour from Philly and only an hour and a half from NYC and the guys where I live are manly men, country guys with quads, fixing things, loving sports and the outdoors.

Love country guys.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it depends on how you define manly, right? The guys where I'm from can barely stay employed, but think they are hot sh*t because they played high school football and can shoot a buck.

I'll take my politics loving husband, who works hard to support our family, over one of the back home rednecks any day.

[Anonymous]

East Coast big city guys? Yeah. Not so manly. However, my exH and current boyfriend are from the small town south. They have advanced degrees and move in rarefied circles but take pride in being able to fix cars, build things, and generally be a man. I appreciate that.

[Anonymous]

As someone who moved to Colorado from DC: an emphatic YES. Yes they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Wow this is very sexist. Guess you are a trump voter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Wow this is very sexist. Guess you are a trump voter?

Why are women not allowed to have a preference in what they like in a partner? Do you think guys are allowed to have a preference? Is it ok that some guys expressly want women who will stay home and have a hot dinner waiting on the table for them when they get home, while others want their wives to work and see dinner/household chores as something to be shared by the couple?Is that sexist?

[Anonymous]

It's not the preference, it's that the preference is (subtly or not) is coded as the right one -- real men, "manly men," are X Y Z, and I like the good ones, not the fake/unmanly/womanih/whatever ones that you all seem to like.

That's gross.

[Anonymous]

What kind of weird adult cares about college football? That's for small town goofballs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think that's bad, don't ever move to the West Coast. Manliest guy I knew was gay - he could fix anything. Everyone else was useless.

Hahahah. So true though. Lived in LA for a few months. Went on 1 date. Dude had prettier hair than I did and spent a good portion of the date talking about his hair care routine.

Lol. LA men are pathetic. Seattle men are manly though.

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP is just not attracting hot guys.

[Anonymous]

I read this whole thread and now feel stupider. 20:13 is one of the few posters who make sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of weird adult cares about college football? That's for small town goofballs

Spoken like a true DC person. Some adults must care about it bc college football is a $10 billion industry. Just because you'd rather be freaking out about whatever was on NPR or what Trump just tweeted doesn't mean no one else is watching football.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Yep, welcome to metro sexual hell. The women here like them that way, meek and quiet. They can control them better that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think that's bad, don't ever move to the West Coast. Manliest guy I knew was gay - he could fix anything. Everyone else was useless.

Hahahah. So true though. Lived in LA for a few months. Went on 1 date. Dude had prettier hair than I did and spent a good portion of the date talking about his hair care routine.

Lol. LA men are pathetic. Seattle men are manly though.

Bwahahahahahahaha. The passive aggressive pansies in the PNW are pretty much the definition of "not masculine". They make LA guys look like American Gladiators in comparison.

[Anonymous]

"And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives."

Yes, nail on the head OP.