Are east coast/DC/NYC guys just less "manly"??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not the preference, it's that the preference is (subtly or not) is coded as the right one -- real men, "manly men," are X Y Z, and I like the good ones, not the fake/unmanly/womanih/whatever ones that you all seem to like.

That's gross.

Not saying my preference is the right one. If you want to get with guys whose weekend activities involve watching the news and reading the classics, more power to you. I'm just surprised there are SO many of those men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Hey OP, why don’t you try dating NYs Finest or Bravest, or do you only date white collar?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Yep, welcome to metro sexual hell. The women here like them that way, meek and quiet. They can control them better that way.

+10000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Hey OP, why don’t you try dating NYs Finest or Bravest, or do you only date white collar?

I'm actually considering that. I run across more white collar men -- at work, friends, friends of friends etc. But I honestly was thinking that maybe an NYPD or NYFD guy is more for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

There are different types of manliness, don't you think? I've always been super-attracted to extremely intelligent men.

To me, a really manly man is one who is mature, kind, responsible, and confident. It's in no way related to sports or fixing things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Yep, welcome to metro sexual hell. The women here like them that way, meek and quiet. They can control them better that way.

+10000

I like to control my men and you don't have to be a gossipy pansy in order to be controllable. Find a new excuse. I've dated very masculine, hugely attractive men who did what I said. In fact I find the more masculine a man is- genuinely masculine- the more he tends to supersede to his woman. THat's kind of one of the tenets of masculinity. It's the pansy losers who are always in power struggles with women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives."

Yes, nail on the head OP.

OP's right on this one. Never met gossipy men until I moved to DC. Gossiping with guys back home was next to impossible as they'd look at you like you had 3 heads and wonder why you were telling them something about such-and-such classmate's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of weird adult cares about college football? That's for small town goofballs

Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Then teach them, OP!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

There are different types of manliness, don't you think? I've always been super-attracted to extremely intelligent men.

To me, a really manly man is one who is mature, kind, responsible, and confident. It's in no way related to sports or fixing things.

So you're not at all attracted to muscles, athleticism etc?? It's JUST kindness and being able to be confident at his boring job?

[Anonymous]

Howdy ladies. I drive a pickup truck, chop down trees, fix vehicles, install appliances, run marathons, hunt, fish, and blow my noise with sandpaper. Please tell me where to meet a woman who appreciates a man like this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Such small mindedness.

People can have preferences. A woman can prefer a manly man. Just like some men can prefer good looking trophy wives who don't want to work, while others want wives in mommy jobs, while others want wives who pursue a high power job.

But if a man prefers a woman who wants to stay at home with the kids, that's tantamount to spousal abuse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Howdy ladies. I drive a pickup truck, chop down trees, fix vehicles, install appliances, run marathons, hunt, fish, and blow my noise with sandpaper. Please tell me where to meet a woman who appreciates a man like this?

He cuts down trees, he eats his lunch, he likes to pick wildflowers.
He puts on women's clothing and hangs around in bars.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you think that's bad, don't ever move to the West Coast. Manliest guy I knew was gay - he could fix anything. Everyone else was useless.

Hahahah. So true though. Lived in LA for a few months. Went on 1 date. Dude had prettier hair than I did and spent a good portion of the date talking about his hair care routine.

Lol. LA men are pathetic. Seattle men are manly though.

No they are not!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By no means am I suggesting that a guy needs to be benching his body weight; or watching 8 hrs of football per weekend; or be spitting and scratching his crotch to be a real man. But having only lived on the east coast for 2 years, I am kind of shocked by how un-manly well educated white collar professional guys are in DC and NYC. Seems like everyone's hobby is watching the news (politics in DC; CNBC in NYC). They seem incapable of fixing anything - whether it's a closet door that's off its hinge or a flat tire - they are willing to call a handy man or mechanic and are ok with that guy thinking they have no idea what to do. And they seem kind of gossipy/critical about how others are living their lives. Just seems odd to me that a guy would be ok spending his weekend reading a book and criticizing how some other dude is choosing to rent a home rather than buy. I just feel like guys back home -- including drs/lawyers/med/law students were more into sports, working out, home renovation, cars etc. Is this a DC/NYC thing? I've seen it in guys I've casually dated, guys at work etc. -- all ages 25-35.

Yep, welcome to metro sexual hell. The women here like them that way, meek and quiet. They can control them better that way.

+10000

I like to control my men and you don't have to be a gossipy pansy in order to be controllable. Find a new excuse. I've dated very masculine, hugely attractive men who did what I said. In fact I find the more masculine a man is- genuinely masculine- the more he tends to supersede to his woman. THat's kind of one of the tenets of masculinity. It's the pansy losers who are always in power struggles with women

Touched a nerve didn't I sweetie? Thanks for proving my point.