WWYD - no invite

[Anonymous]

Please give us an update, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just out of curiosity do people really say "holiday card?" I mean is that I thing, to send generic cards where it's unclear what the holiday being celebrated is? Otherwise why not just say "Christmas card" or "Yule card" or "Hanukkah card?" I don't get it.

And no you can't just show up.

Yes, people say happy holidays. That’s still legal in 2017.

I send holiday cards. I also say merry Christmas. It’s not that hard.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just out of curiosity do people really say "holiday card?" I mean is that I thing, to send generic cards where it's unclear what the holiday being celebrated is? Otherwise why not just say "Christmas card" or "Yule card" or "Hanukkah card?" I don't get it.

And no you can't just show up.

Yes, people say happy holidays. That’s still legal in 2017.

I send holiday cards. I also say merry Christmas. It’s not that hard.

And others would prefer not to. It’s a personal choice. Is it that hard to understand not everyone thinks like you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

Anything in their tone or words that gave more context? As in, were they surprised you weren’t there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

Did they apologize for not sending you an invite?

[Anonymous]

Will it be awkward the next time you talk to your neighbor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

Did they apologize for not sending you an invite?

DP - this wasn't the neighbors. This was another party op was invited to but she and dh decided to stay home instead.

[Anonymous]

Will you conveniently forget to pick up their mail and water their plants when they are away?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

You won’t throw your own party next year, you’ll just talk about how you should throw one and who you’d invite.

There will be no competition to see whose party is better, just another party you’re not invited to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

You won’t throw your own party next year, you’ll just talk about how you should throw one and who you’d invite.

There will be no competition to see whose party is better, just another party you’re not invited to.

PP - don't take being alone on holiday nights out on others. Hows that for a resolution?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

Why didn’t you go to the other party, especially after they called and said they still wanted to see you? You bailed on them. Why not spend time with people who want to be friends with you, and don’t spend time worrying about neighbors who don’t value your friendship they way you thought they did? Missed opportunity here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend that always forgets to invite a mutual friend to parties. The reason is because they use an old email chain and just copy and paste the addressees without double checking. Now I always ask if said friend is coming. And half time it’s “oh shit” and they text the mutual friend about the event.

Your friend needs to get it together. Adulting, not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

Why didn’t you go to the other party, especially after they called and said they still wanted to see you? You bailed on them. Why not spend time with people who want to be friends with you, and don’t spend time worrying about neighbors who don’t value your friendship they way you thought they did? Missed opportunity here.

+1

Also it seems you already committed to housesitting for the neighbors, but do let this be the last time.
Hope your New Year's resolution is to put your energy where it is appreciated.