WWYD - no invite

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Don't throw your own party next year. Everyone will still go to the other party and you will look like losers. Your first step should be to understand why you weren't invited this year. Maybe there's something about you that is off-putting and you will eventually lose more friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Don't throw your own party next year. Everyone will still go to the other party and you will look like losers. Your first step should be to understand why you weren't invited this year. Maybe there's something about you that is off-putting and you will eventually lose more friends.

WTF. This is so off-base.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Don't throw your own party next year. Everyone will still go to the other party and you will look like losers. Your first step should be to understand why you weren't invited this year. Maybe there's something about you that is off-putting and you will eventually lose more friends.

project often lady? lose friends often? really mean and useless response

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

Did they apologize for not sending you an invite?

They did get an invite to that party. Keep up

[Anonymous]

Something is wrong with your neighbor. +1 on putting your energy where it is appreciated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just out of curiosity do people really say "holiday card?" I mean is that I thing, to send generic cards where it's unclear what the holiday being celebrated is? Otherwise why not just say "Christmas card" or "Yule card" or "Hanukkah card?" I don't get it.

And no you can't just show up.

Yes, people say happy holidays. That’s still legal in 2017.

I send holiday cards. I also say merry Christmas. It’s not that hard.

And others would prefer not to. It’s a personal choice. Is it that hard to understand not everyone thinks like you?

You do you. Keep up.

[Anonymous]

Stop the housesitting. Throw your own party. Don't be a doormat.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m still co fused about why you didn’t go to the party that you WERE invited to, and why it is that you are pinning your social status on the neighbours (social pariahs, really?)

You weren’t sitting st home with nothing to do.. you chose to be home, sulking about the neighbours, despite the other people calling you to check in.

[Anonymous]

I think OP handled this as well as anyone could have.

If you are having a party next NYE - make it an intimate gathering with no overlap of neighbor’s guests.

I hope it was an oversight, a mis-sent evite, some explaination. But ghosting/crumbing stinks.

[Anonymous]

Munch favorite NYEs are at home with indulgent things. Sometimes just a couple of close friends, sometimes just us. I think op handled it fine, but in this instance I would have gone to the other party. Agree w no overlap if you do host your own gathering next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes the neighbors had a party. It wasn't like we were peering through the windows but one could tell.

We did end up cozying up by the fire. Having lots of champagne and having a movie night with the kids.

Think we will throw our own party next year...

Happy 2018!

Oh and forgot to add: we did get a call from the hosts of the other party, asking us to please swing by. So that was a feel-good moment (hey perhaps we are not social pariahs after all).

Why didn’t you go to the other party, especially after they called and said they still wanted to see you? You bailed on them. Why not spend time with people who want to be friends with you, and don’t spend time worrying about neighbors who don’t value your friendship they way you thought they did? Missed opportunity here.

+1

Also it seems you already committed to housesitting for the neighbors, but do let this be the last time.
Hope your New Year's resolution is to put your energy where it is appreciated.

You are kidding, right?

OP, just a find a polite reason to tell them go f*ck themselves.