4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

OP, what your daughter said was not appropriate, but completely understandable. That’s the part you’re not understanding. She reacted to her disappointment with the maturity of a small child because that’s what she is. You, as the adult, easily could have predicted and managed the whole thing better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

You a damn lie. I have a master's degree in education and it is plainly obvious you don't know the first thing about child development or how kids work. You probably babysat as a teen but that is not a background in child development.

Same thing I said! Now she's just talking and saying any damn thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week!

But in the end, when it came down to it, the presents trumped the pancakes. I mean, she's four.

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Christmas 2040

"Honey, want me to make some Christmas pancakes?" Asks well-meaning husband of the four year old, who is now 27

She shudders

"Thanks but... for some reason... I've always had a weird aversion to eating pancakes at Christmas ever since childhood."

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Anonymous wrote:Christmas 2040

"Honey, want me to make some Christmas pancakes?" Asks well-meaning husband of the four year old, who is now 27

She shudders

"Thanks but... for some reason... I've always had a weird aversion to eating pancakes at Christmas ever since childhood."

And, the now 27 yr old shivers and says, "I know my mother is going to try to guilt trip me today about something. I don't even want to talk to her."

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Oh bullshit. A four year old is plenty old enough for self control, and she can learn not to say whatever pops into her head. Christmas is supposed to be about religion, not a freaking gift grab.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh bullshit. A four year old is plenty old enough for self control, and she can learn not to say whatever pops into her head. Christmas is supposed to be about religion, not a freaking gift grab.

As the OP stated she's not a Christian, but thanks for your projection!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh bullshit. A four year old is plenty old enough for self control, and she can learn not to say whatever pops into her head. Christmas is supposed to be about religion, not a freaking gift grab.

Oh, please. Christmas is NOT about religion in our house and four-years-old is not old enough to handle disappointment and frustration like an adult. You are an idiot, PP.

[Anonymous]

What can't you admit that you made a mistake this morning, OP? The whole thing was your fault and you handled your child's momentary rudeness very badly.

This is a learning opportunity for you. Take it.

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My 9-year-old just said "I hate you" to me. She was mad that another family member got a gift that she wanted. I also got her the same thing, but I didn't want to give it to her in front of the other family member, since I thought it would take away from the specialness for the other family member, since it was the only gift we got them and my daughter got a ton of stuff. When I tried to gently pull her toward me to whisper to her that she got one too, she pretended I hurt her (which I certainly did not), started crying, then said "I hate you."

Now I'm on DCUM venting and feeling like I've failed as a parent. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 9-year-old just said "I hate you" to me. She was mad that another family member got a gift that she wanted. I also got her the same thing, but I didn't want to give it to her in front of the other family member, since I thought it would take away from the specialness for the other family member, since it was the only gift we got them and my daughter got a ton of stuff. When I tried to gently pull her toward me to whisper to her that she got one too, she pretended I hurt her (which I certainly did not), started crying, then said "I hate you."

Now I'm on DCUM venting and feeling like I've failed as a parent. Ugh.

Show her the gift that she wanted and then tell her she isn't going to get it now. Nine is NOT FOUR and your daughter is being a brat. You should start another thread - your situation has nothing to do with OP's situation unless you are also a narcissist and not telling us the whole story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What can't you admit that you made a mistake this morning, OP? The whole thing was your fault and you handled your child's momentary rudeness very badly.

This is a learning opportunity for you. Take it.

This. Come on, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 9-year-old just said "I hate you" to me. She was mad that another family member got a gift that she wanted. I also got her the same thing, but I didn't want to give it to her in front of the other family member, since I thought it would take away from the specialness for the other family member, since it was the only gift we got them and my daughter got a ton of stuff. When I tried to gently pull her toward me to whisper to her that she got one too, she pretended I hurt her (which I certainly did not), started crying, then said "I hate you."

Now I'm on DCUM venting and feeling like I've failed as a parent. Ugh.

Show her the gift that she wanted and then tell her she isn't going to get it now. Nine is NOT FOUR and your daughter is being a brat. You should start another thread - your situation has nothing to do with OP's situation unless you are also a narcissist and not telling us the whole story.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:What can't you admit that you made a mistake this morning, OP? The whole thing was your fault and you handled your child's momentary rudeness very badly.

This is a learning opportunity for you. Take it.

This. Come on, OP.

+2. Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 9-year-old just said "I hate you" to me. She was mad that another family member got a gift that she wanted. I also got her the same thing, but I didn't want to give it to her in front of the other family member, since I thought it would take away from the specialness for the other family member, since it was the only gift we got them and my daughter got a ton of stuff. When I tried to gently pull her toward me to whisper to her that she got one too, she pretended I hurt her (which I certainly did not), started crying, then said "I hate you."

Now I'm on DCUM venting and feeling like I've failed as a parent. Ugh.

Show her the gift that she wanted and then tell her she isn't going to get it now. Nine is NOT FOUR and your daughter is being a brat. You should start another thread - your situation has nothing to do with OP's situation unless you are also a narcissist and not telling us the whole story.

Agree with all of this. You should start a new thread.