4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting

[Anonymous]

They were delicious, btw. I sent her to her room. I think she's mad bc we only let her open a couple of presents before pausing for breakfast, but I feel mean for sending her to her room on Christmas morning. Should I have handled it differently?

[Anonymous]

Wait, which one is the 4 yo?

[Anonymous]

I would have just said, "that is a rude thing to say."

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should have let her open all her presents first. Do you not understand how Christmas works?

[Anonymous]

You paused opening gifts for Xmas? I’m upset for her!

[Anonymous]

Yes, you overreacted! Of course she is excited and wants to open her presents!! Why did she have to stop for breakfast?!

I agree it was a rude and unacceptable thing to say to you but you set yourself up for failure.

[Anonymous]

I would have sad, “WOW, that was rude. Try that again in a kind way with ‘Thanks for the pancakes mom.’” And then I would have given her another chance for a re-do.

[Anonymous]

I think that's a big vocabulary word for a four year old and you can be proud of that, at least! Give yourself a break, op, it's Christmas. Some things you have to laugh off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They were delicious, btw. I sent her to her room. I think she's mad bc we only let her open a couple of presents before pausing for breakfast, but I feel mean for sending her to her room on Christmas morning. Should I have handled it differently?

Yes! Clearly you should have handled it differently - like not expecting a four-year-old who has been looking forward to opening her presents for the last two months to stop to eat.

[Anonymous]

Yes. You should not have made her stop opening gifts.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I guess it's mean. But she didn't wake up till 8:45 and I'm just heavily pregnant and was starting to feel faint, so I had to eat and didn't want to miss out on her opening her presents. Plus she's been begging for these "special pancakes" all week.

Regardless, saying that was really mean !

[Anonymous]

"Fyakrit, that is not polite and you hurt my feelings. How would you feel if you made something and someone said that to you?"

That's all I'd do.

[Anonymous]

Have you been told you're too controlling before? Because that's what I'm getting here. I can't believe you wrecked your own kid's Christmas morning for breakfast.

[Anonymous]

My 5 yo is not into anything. He had peanut butter and jelly last night and fruit this morning. Are you seriously so sensitive about PANCAKES? And yes, the circumstances under which she ate them did not help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I guess it's mean. But she didn't wake up till 8:45 and I'm just heavily pregnant and was starting to feel faint, so I had to eat and didn't want to miss out on her opening her presents. Plus she's been begging for these "special pancakes" all week.

Regardless, saying that was really mean !

Then have a snack and let her finish opening the presents! I think you don't get that you were the mean one in this scenario.