4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

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Team 4 year old all the way. And I have teens and regularly get compliments on their manners. The people who pointed out that the child only learned compliance to satisfy her irrational mother, not actual manners, are correct.

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If she wasn't ready to eat or even hungry they probably did not taste good to her, but in OP's defense, narcissists don't see their children as individuals with their own feelings and desires and needs. Op was hungry, ergo, EVERYONE NEEDED TO EAT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she wasn't ready to eat or even hungry they probably did not taste good to her, but in OP's defense, narcissists don't see their children as individuals with their own feelings and desires and needs. Op was hungry, ergo, EVERYONE NEEDED TO EAT.

That's also likely true.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

You don't not get Christmas. You don't get basic parental decency. Evident by your husband begging you to show your FOUR YEAR old forgiveness today.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I guess it's mean. But she didn't wake up till 8:45 and I'm just heavily pregnant and was starting to feel faint, so I had to eat and didn't want to miss out on her opening her presents. Plus she's been begging for these "special pancakes" all week.

Regardless, saying that was really mean !

Then have a snack and let her finish opening the presents! I think you don't get that you were the mean one in this scenario.

No kidding! Also, she woke up at 8:45 so you had plenty of time to eat before hand. I'm hoping it's hormones and not your personality!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

You a damn lie. I have a master's degree in education and it is plainly obvious you don't know the first thing about child development or how kids work. You probably babysat as a teen but that is not a background in child development.

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So, OP you were raised in a different country, religion, you dislike this many presents and giving, your were hungry, you wanted her to like pancakes she asked for days, you have a background in child development, you are puzzled why your DH thinks your should be more forgiving on Christmas, you would have been slapped for such behavior, you stopped the child playing with a present.. You created this whole situation, why don't you let your Christian DH handle Christmas from now on since not only are you thinking your child should be grateful she didn't get smacked on Christmas you seem put off with anything that is not exactly like you wanted it to be. Of course your pancakes were disgusting, you were utterly acting utterly disgusting. But here is one positive, about your DD, not you, she is sharp as a whip!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

You still don't get it, OP. You do not have any decent background in childhood development or you never would have set your child up like that. And is sending a 4 yr old to her room on CHRISTMAS MORNING the only way you could think of to reprimand her?! It makes no difference that you did not grow up Christian or celebrating Christmas - can you understand that? Your child was excited about the day she has been anticipating for months.

You seem incapsble of going with the flow of a very happy day and are stuck on the fricking pancakes!!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, and I suppose I am being defensive, but I cannot believe you would put up with such rudeness. I told her as soon as she came down that she could open 2 presents (not including Santa's present and her stocking) that she'd need to eat some breakfast. She wasn't even opening presents when I gathered them around the table, she was working on playing with one of her presents.

I would have been smacked if I had ever said anything that rude to my parents. DH grew up in a more traditional American household and didn't feel like I did anything wrong, I was the one feeling guilty for sending her to her room. He just said let's be a little more forgiving today in general.

Op, for all the smacking over rudeness you got as a child, you missed a lesson on being kind to children on Christmas morning. Per your op, you were the one who needed to eat, and you were the one who didn't want to miss the present opening. You made the morning about you and your needs, when most of us would have let the child enjoy their presents. I don't think we're going to get through to you, but I wish you would rethink how you handled this.

+1 This, a thousand times over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You paused opening gifts for Xmas? I’m upset for her!

+1. I know, right? The kid is right to feel annoyed!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

You are a narcissist, OP. You will not listen and you refuse to admit that you were 100% wrong in everything this morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

It's not okay, so you tell her, gently, not expecting a 4 yo to act like she's not 4. And, having a "background in child development," you don't try to bully the child into submission.

[Anonymous]

Your pancakes probably tasted like sh*t. No one enjoys narcissism and bitterness added in as the secret ingredients.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, don't listen to these people OP. Never okay to tell someone their food is disgusting. If your daughter did that to any of these posters under any circumstances, they would be posting about you as the mom the next day. Interrupting gifts to eat can be tricky depending on momentum. Still no reason to allow daughter to insult you.

OP here, I know! The only thing I'm getting from this is that my timing was probably off, but I can't imagine that it would ever be okay to tell someone that their food is disgusting! And it would be different if it were a really bad breakfast but my DD had been talking about these Santa pancakes all week! I actually thought she'd be mad that I made them without her (she usually begs to do pancakes together).

Funny thing is I do have a background in childhood development and I never would imagine it being okay for someone to let their child behave this way. I just don't have much of a background in Christmas. I didn't grow up Christian but we probably had 1 or 2 gifts, not the 10+ we give DD bt us and my family.

You are a narcissist, OP. You will not listen and you refuse to admit that you were 100% wrong in everything this morning.

Yep. I don't think OP is capable of understanding what people are saying here.