He loves me, has great benefits, good income, sex is terrible

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you sound incredibly selfish. Most likely the sexual issues are a result of your selfishness in bed as well as out of it.

I am a widow. My first husband of 13 years died. We were both high drive, sex and companionship was never an issue. I am not selfish. I am sadly trying to figure out what my life will now be. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op: just marry him for the money and cheat on him to get good sex.

You know, the same thing you did with your baby daddy.

Thanks so much. This is OP. My "baby daddy" and I were married for 13 years. He died. I never had sexual or companionship issues. ZERO was lacking in our relationship. Thanks for giving an a**hole response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op where r u? Why wouldn't you have a conversation with HIM about this? It's not like he'll dump you! He will either talk/improve or not. Then u can decide.[/quote I have had a conversation with him. It goes no where. It is not a concern of his even though it is a concern of mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op: just marry him for the money and cheat on him to get good sex.

You know, the same thing you did with your baby daddy.

Thanks so much. This is OP. My "baby daddy" and I were married for 13 years. He died. I never had sexual or companionship issues. ZERO was lacking in our relationship. Thanks for giving an a**hole response.

Sorry to hear you lost your husband. On another note great response.
Not to be an a**hole but have you thought you may not be inspiring a good performance? Just a thought, I had been with women that complained about previous partners ( I know tacky) and found out why they were less than inspiring and pretty humdrum. Not saying thats the case here at all. If all else fails just take the lead and drive the train, if he doesnt follow or get it he never will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op where r u? Why wouldn't you have a conversation with HIM about this? It's not like he'll dump you! He will either talk/improve or not. Then u can decide.[/quote I have had a conversation with him. It goes no where. It is not a concern of his even though it is a concern of mine.

OP, does he care about your needs in other ways? Or is he indifferent in general to things you care about if they aren’t important to him?