MIL Calls Baby 'lil Piggy' when he's being fed. I'm I being too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

My dad called my son "girly girl" every time he cries. I asked him a thousand times to stop. I could get a flying pile of shit if you think I'm being "sensitive" on this Board. Anyway, I finally said, "test me. One more time and your babysitting services are no longer welcome". (acknowledging that he is my daily sitter and I didn't care, and stopping the retort of "then you won't have a free sitter''). Guess what? Never said it again. It's not WHAT she is saying -- it's that she is completely disrespecting your wishes not to say it. I'd say "test me, granny. I asked you a dozen times. Say it again and your feeding services are no longer welcome."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This little piggy saying has been going on for generations. Most of our parents used it, you just don't remember. You sound like a pain in the ass daughter in law.

Exactly.

And this lil piggy went wee, wee, wee all the way home!

How clueless can OP be??

That's toes, no?

Doesn't matter. OP would be outraged that MIL is calling the kid's toes fat, too.

[Anonymous]

We called our DDs pudding, stinkbottom, buddha baby, little pudge, etc. all endearing. All stopped by age 14 mos. .

[Anonymous]

PP again. People who are saying the kids not a pig and pigs are cute so it's okay make no sense to me. My son ain't a girl and girls are cute so I should let my dad call my son "girly girl". I call BS.

[Anonymous]

There's definitely something if about only saying it when the kid is eating. It's not a nickname then -- it's just name-calling. It's wrong.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Must be so tiring to keep on clenching LOL Drop the dime, ladies. And yes, babies are fat. OP, your baby is fat too. It's normal, so get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the hill to die on. Toughen up.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP again. People who are saying the kids not a pig and pigs are cute so it's okay make no sense to me. My son ain't a girl and girls are cute so I should let my dad call my son "girly girl". I call BS.

That is totally different...that's your dad denigrating your kid's behaviour.
OP is talking about grandma being cute with the name....not calling the kid fat...
if you cannot tell the difference you need therapy and a drink

[Anonymous]

How do people not see that grandma calling the baby little piggy isn't the same as calling the baby fat which in this culture is not a compliment. If someone polishes off a bag of chips, that person is called a pig. Same thing. Not complimentary. OP is allowed to not want her baby subjected to rude name calling. Maybe the PPs are from a culture where calling someone fat pig is OK. This culture isn't one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do people not see that grandma calling the baby little piggy isn't the same as calling the baby fat which in this culture is not a compliment. If someone polishes off a bag of chips, that person is called a pig. Same thing. Not complimentary. OP is allowed to not want her baby subjected to rude name calling. Maybe the PPs are from a culture where calling someone fat pig is OK. This culture isn't one of them.

No one called the baby a fat pig.
You need a double dose of lexapro today sister!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Too "sensitive" is not exactly it Op, ... but you might have married into a rather icky family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This little piggy saying has been going on for generations. Most of our parents used it, you just don't remember. You sound like a pain in the ass daughter in law.

Exactly.

And this lil piggy went wee, wee, wee all the way home!

How clueless can OP be??

That's toes, no?

Doesn't matter. OP would be outraged that MIL is calling the kid's toes fat, too.

Doubt it. Of course it matters. MIL wasn't reciting the nursery rhyme and wiggling his toes, she was calling him a little
piggy while feeding him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This little piggy saying has been going on for generations. Most of our parents used it, you just don't remember. You sound like a pain in the ass daughter in law.

Exactly.

And this lil piggy went wee, wee, wee all the way home!

How clueless can OP be??

That's toes, no?

Doesn't matter. OP would be outraged that MIL is calling the kid's toes fat, too.

Doubt it. Of course it matters. MIL wasn't reciting the nursery rhyme and wiggling his toes, she was calling him a little
piggy while feeding him.

Crossovers are OK in the world of affection for little kids.

[Anonymous]

Sound like either a bunch of new moms or people who hate their MILs.

Take from a more seasoned parent, do NOT fall on your sword over this one. Your MIL is not being mean - and she is using it in a very loving context. You mentioned it to DH and he thinks you are being too sensitive. So you make an issue. Not only do you potentially chill your MIL's willingness to lovingly interact with your child when you are around but you look like a nutcase troublemaker to your DH. YOU are the one who will look like you are starting crap.

When DC becomes verbal and it still bothers you, then say something then. But it is nonsense to try to police your MIL's loving moments with your DC while spouting some "boundaries" nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sound like either a bunch of new moms or people who hate their MILs.

Take from a more seasoned parent, do NOT fall on your sword over this one. Your MIL is not being mean - and she is using it in a very loving context. You mentioned it to DH and he thinks you are being too sensitive. So you make an issue. Not only do you potentially chill your MIL's willingness to lovingly interact with your child when you are around but you look like a nutcase troublemaker to your DH. YOU are the one who will look like you are starting crap.

When DC becomes verbal and it still bothers you, then say something then. But it is nonsense to try to police your MIL's loving moments with your DC while spouting some "boundaries" nonsense.

I'm an FTM with a horrible MIL and I think OP is being hugely oversensitive. But it sounds like OP has body image issues she is projecting onto the baby, so it's not coming from nowhere.