MIL Calls Baby 'lil Piggy' when he's being fed. I'm I being too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

[Anonymous]

Let it go.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be ok with her calling him lil piggy and would ask her to stop (and keep asking her if she doesn't).

[Anonymous]

Wow. Seriously?

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm on your side. If say I liked that nickname, I'd be fine with it, but I don't like it, in this case. It'd be more tolerable if it was a name I was fine with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm on your side. If say I liked that nickname, I'd be fine with it, but I don't like it, in this case. It'd be more tolerable if it was a name I was fine with.

But the relationship between a child and his grandparent is not your own. As you said you don't like the name but its not your name to like. Its a term of endearment between her and her grandchild. She isn't abusing him.

The only reason a person would live and die on this hill is if they didn't like their MIL and wanted to exert control over the MILs relationship with the child. Which says way more about the mother than the grandmother.

[Anonymous]

It is your child. Tell her you want her to stop saying this.

This is about boundaries. She is overstepping her boundaries here. You'll need to set much more difficult boundaries later on. Start now.

[Anonymous]

No! I hate it. Tell her to stop.

[Anonymous]

Do you like your MIL? If not then I can see you getting upset. I tell my son he has chubby legs! (He's only 8 months) If my in laws said something like that I would be annoyed but I hate my in laws...so there you go....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm on your side. If say I liked that nickname, I'd be fine with it, but I don't like it, in this case. It'd be more tolerable if it was a name I was fine with.

But the relationship between a child and his grandparent is not your own. As you said you don't like the name but its not your name to like. Its a term of endearment between her and her grandchild. She isn't abusing him.

The only reason a person would live and die on this hill is if they didn't like their MIL and wanted to exert control over the MILs relationship with the child. Which says way more about the mother than the grandmother.

100% this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let it go.

My preschool age son yelled at my MiL for teasingly calling his baby sister a little piglet. But he was 4 and didn't know any better. OP is not. It's just a term of affection for a baby and the precious snuggly chubby creatures they are only for a short time. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

My mom called me piglet as an endearment when I was very small and it didn't scar me even a little.

[Anonymous]

I am embarrassed for OP and anyone else that can't handle life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm on your side. If say I liked that nickname, I'd be fine with it, but I don't like it, in this case. It'd be more tolerable if it was a name I was fine with.

But the relationship between a child and his grandparent is not your own. As you said you don't like the name but its not your name to like. Its a term of endearment between her and her grandchild. She isn't abusing him.

The only reason a person would live and die on this hill is if they didn't like their MIL and wanted to exert control over the MILs relationship with the child. Which says way more about the mother than the grandmother.

100% this.

100 percent not this. It's an annoying name. I love my mom, but it would annoy me. It has nothing to do with control.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha!!