MIL Calls Baby 'lil Piggy' when he's being fed. I'm I being too sensitive?

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Anonymous wrote:Have you seen a Christmas Story OP?

I posted the clip earlier.. no one saw it

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Anonymous wrote:Have you seen a Christmas Story OP?

I posted the clip earlier.. no one saw it

Thats such a cute scene. I also love when Randy is hiding under the sink and says "Daddy's going to kill Ralphie!"

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Anonymous wrote:I call my son stink man. Doesn't mean he really stinks!

Janet Lansbury (of RIE fame) says not to call kids names like this, even in an endearing way. It makes them feel self-conscious for no reason. Normally, I'm not nutty about stuff like this, but here's an anecdote - my DH has an 11 year old son. Since the age of about 4, my DH would call him stinky feet and pretend his feet stunk. He didn't mean any harm, but his son actually has an enormous complex about it now.

Don't all parents play this game with their kids? I've done it with all four of mine.

My kids nicknames are: Monkey Mash, Spider Stew, Booger Bear & Pigeon Pie. Hell my dad still calls me Princess Monster Face sometimes and I'm 44.

I understand what you are saying but how come kids are not allowed to call their parents/grandparents lovingly piggy. I mean why is it the person with more authority is allowed to say sth in a loving manner and the weaker person is not allowed to say any such thing? Makes no sense to me and that's why I only use sweet nick names that I would not mind to be called either.

Um ... who said the "weaker person" is not allowed to use a term of endearment? Your post makes no sense to me.

Do you really think grandma would allow her grandchild to call her miss piggy while she's eating?

That's what's wrong with the dynamic. It's not a nice nickname. It's not sweet or kind. It's mildly making fun of the kid.

+1 This! My MIL would run out the room crying telling me my kids have terrible manners.

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Anonymous wrote:If youve ever had a weight problem as a kid then you would cringe at the word pig.

exactly. It's super rude to call ANYONE a pig under any context. Calling someone a pig, esp while eating is never complimentary.

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Anonymous wrote:This little piggy saying has been going on for generations. Most of our parents used it, you just don't remember. You sound like a pain in the ass daughter in law.

Exactly.

And this lil piggy went wee, wee, wee all the way home!

How clueless can OP be??

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OP, I think you're too sensitive, and here's why: You noted that your son has chubby cheeks but is not overweight. A normal assumption would be that your MIL is using Little Piggy as a term of endearment because he's a messy eater (as all babies are!), not because he's fat. You are projecting your own insecurity about weight onto this.

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I love giving nicknames to kids, had no idea it could upset their parents ... It's a form of affection, you need to let that go, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope that would kind of annoy me too. You recently had a baby...you're allowed to be sensitive. Say something half-joking once or twice and if she doesn't take the hint, make a more direct comment.

1) She just had a baby so she's allowed to be sensitive? Huh? That doesn't track.
2) You just advocated passive-aggressive communication. To OP: No, please don't do this. The other pps were right that this isn't worth being upset about this. Your feelings really are NOT valid. But if you do choose to make a stink, do so directly and not with half jokes.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you're too sensitive, and here's why: You noted that your son has chubby cheeks but is not overweight. A normal assumption would be that your MIL is using Little Piggy as a term of endearment because he's a messy eater (as all babies are!), not because he's fat. You are projecting your own insecurity about weight onto this.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Not okay. Your husband needs to say something to her and she needs to stop. She doesn't get to call your child lil piggy.

Better yet, divorce stat.

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Anonymous wrote:If youve ever had a weight problem as a kid then you would cringe at the word pig.

exactly. It's super rude to call ANYONE a pig under any context. Calling someone a pig, esp while eating is never complimentary.

This is what is wrong with society today. Butthurt over E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you're too sensitive, and here's why: You noted that your son has chubby cheeks but is not overweight. A normal assumption would be that your MIL is using Little Piggy as a term of endearment because he's a messy eater (as all babies are!), not because he's fat. You are projecting your own insecurity about weight onto this.

+1

+2 He's a BABY. He's supposed to have chubby cheeks. It's cute.

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Anonymous wrote:This little piggy saying has been going on for generations. Most of our parents used it, you just don't remember. You sound like a pain in the ass daughter in law.

Exactly.

And this lil piggy went wee, wee, wee all the way home!

How clueless can OP be??

That's toes, no?

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Pigs are so sweet. I see nothing wrong with this. If you see something wrong with a hungry little baby being called a piggy, you're thinking of your own body insecurity. Everyone loves a chubby baby, it's a healthy sign.

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I think it's insensitive and impolite. Children understand everything we say from such an early age. It doesn't sound particularly sweet or loving to me.