"I/We will never be that couple" - things that annoy you about other couples

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Anonymous wrote:Couples that look like they actually LIKE each other. I am so jealous .

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:Calling each other "Babe" nonstop. The kind of people who do this seem like they are chewing gum, even when they aren't chewing gum.

Ah, you beat me to it. A good friend, who is otherwise a lovely person, does this with her husband. Every single sentence ends in "Babe." Every. single. sentence. Last time we were over there, I thought it would make a great drinking game.

"babe" is the worst endearment ever. the "2 a-holes" sketches with Sudekis and Wiig demonstrated this perfectly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couples who constantly bicker. Jesus, get a divorce already.

Couples who try to involve outsiders in their arguments. "X is always doing this, don't you agree Y??" No I don't, leave me out of it.

Couples who never have sex

Couples who have nothing to say to each other at restaurants. That is sad.

Couples who only have their kids in common

All of This.

I've never seen so many couples arguing and fighting in public as I have here. So annoying and bizarre. Just stay home if you want to fight, don't ruin our dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Couples who constantly bicker. Jesus, get a divorce already.

Couples who try to involve outsiders in their arguments. "X is always doing this, don't you agree Y??" No I don't, leave me out of it.

Couples who never have sex

Couples who have nothing to say to each other at restaurants. That is sad.

Couples who only have their kids in common

All of This.

I've never seen so many couples arguing and fighting in public as I have here. So annoying and bizarre. Just stay home if you want to fight, don't ruin our dinner.

Totally agree. Then again, all of the above items describe my parents perfectly so maybe that's why I react so negatively to this nonsense. No, Mom, I'm not going to involve myself in your week long fight with Dad over the correct way to season a pot roast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email.

Grandparents are the only couples who can get away with joint email addresses.

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Anonymous wrote:1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email.

Grandparents are the only couples who can get away with joint email addresses.

Not sure what to tell you. We're not grandparents and we're getting away with it. Should we also get separate PO Boxes?

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Anonymous wrote:1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email.

Grandparents are the only couples who can get away with joint email addresses.

Not sure what to tell you. We're not grandparents and we're getting away with it. Should we also get separate PO Boxes?

NP, this is not a good analogy. Physical mail is rarely personal anymore, and when it is, the sender can address you or your spouse independently and when they do, I presume you don't open your spouse's mail and if you did, your spouse would know. Email is much more commonly used to share personal confidences between intimate friends and with some email software your messages are pre-loaded in a viewer. Even if not, it's easy to read and then "mark as read".

I agree this is more common among older people. I do know one or two of our generation (30s) who had this but they got these addresses in the early days of email and they eventually got individual addresses. It totally puts a chill on emailing confidential stuff to friends except in the rare cases where you are equally close to the spouses, and even then you'd probably phrase things differently. PP if you never use email for personal stuff then ok I get it, but do you not have any long-distance friends? Do you text with them too?

I am 100% faithful but I have separate email and do not generally share my email or phone password with spouse and don't ask for the same. Some amount if privacy is healthy.

A pet peeve related to the email thing is couples that always insist on hanging out together, never individually. This is especially true for newer couples. They haven't figured out yet that in order to have a deep relationship with another couple, you need to have the various 1-to-1s and not just the double date every time. Or maybe they just don't want a deeper friendship with us which is ok too!!

Another vote here for the Facebook anniversary gushing. It doesn't annoy me but I cringe a little. There have been a few cases recently where I see one of these "My love, It has been such an incredible journey and I cannot wait to grow old with you", meanwhile I am close with one of them and had lunch with them last week and they are in marriage therapy and haven't had sex for 6 months. And those are just the ones I KNOW about so basically whenever I see these posts I think ok, that's cute but what are you trying to prove and to whom.

PDA in general doesn't bother me and if the couple is hot I actually enjoy it! But I do associate it more with young kids. Nothing wrong if you want to channel your inner teenager now and then! But there is a particular style of PDA that does annoy me. This is the kind where one partner has his or her hands all over the other in a way that is kind of cloying and possessive, it's hard to explain as I type. I mean holding their neck, grabbing their face when they turn away to turn the lips back toward the kiss... not sure if you know what I mean but I find this unattractive. Makes them look insecure IMO. Just generally sucking face I have no problem and in fact I think it's mandatory in certain bars after consumotion of alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email.

Grandparents are the only couples who can get away with joint email addresses.

Not sure what to tell you. We're not grandparents and we're getting away with it. Should we also get separate PO Boxes?

NP, this is not a good analogy. Physical mail is rarely personal anymore, and when it is, the sender can address you or your spouse independently and when they do, I presume you don't open your spouse's mail and if you did, your spouse would know. Email is much more commonly used to share personal confidences between intimate friends and with some email software your messages are pre-loaded in a viewer. Even if not, it's easy to read and then "mark as read".

I agree this is more common among older people. I do know one or two of our generation (30s) who had this but they got these addresses in the early days of email and they eventually got individual addresses. It totally puts a chill on emailing confidential stuff to friends except in the rare cases where you are equally close to the spouses, and even then you'd probably phrase things differently. PP if you never use email for personal stuff then ok I get it, but do you not have any long-distance friends? Do you text with them too?

I am 100% faithful but I have separate email and do not generally share my email or phone password with spouse and don't ask for the same. Some amount if privacy is healthy.

A pet peeve related to the email thing is couples that always insist on hanging out together, never individually. This is especially true for newer couples. They haven't figured out yet that in order to have a deep relationship with another couple, you need to have the various 1-to-1s and not just the double date every time. Or maybe they just don't want a deeper friendship with us which is ok too!!

Another vote here for the Facebook anniversary gushing. It doesn't annoy me but I cringe a little. There have been a few cases recently where I see one of these "My love, It has been such an incredible journey and I cannot wait to grow old with you", meanwhile I am close with one of them and had lunch with them last week and they are in marriage therapy and haven't had sex for 6 months. And those are just the ones I KNOW about so basically whenever I see these posts I think ok, that's cute but what are you trying to prove and to whom.

PDA in general doesn't bother me and if the couple is hot I actually enjoy it! But I do associate it more with young kids. Nothing wrong if you want to channel your inner teenager now and then! But there is a particular style of PDA that does annoy me. This is the kind where one partner has his or her hands all over the other in a way that is kind of cloying and possessive, it's hard to explain as I type. I mean holding their neck, grabbing their face when they turn away to turn the lips back toward the kiss... not sure if you know what I mean but I find this unattractive. Makes them look insecure IMO. Just generally sucking face I have no problem and in fact I think it's mandatory in certain bars after consumotion of alcohol.

I don't put anything personal in email. Long distance friends typically get phone calls and occasional texts. I agree that some level of intimacy with other friends and family is important (and that can be achieved only through 1-on-1 communication), but I would never hold any secret from my spouse (except for professional duties associated with my job). I also expect the same from my spouse. I do agree that having separate lives from each other is important, but I would never sacrifice full transparency.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couples who constantly bicker. Jesus, get a divorce already.

Couples who try to involve outsiders in their arguments. "X is always doing this, don't you agree Y??" No I don't, leave me out of it.

My response: "Sorry, I don't take sides in household arguments. Did anyone see the latest episode of <name your favorite show>"

Couples who never have sex

Couples who have nothing to say to each other at restaurants. That is sad.

Really sad are the couples who go to restaurants and then spend the entire time looking at their phones and ignoring each other in person. I understand. I will glance at my phone to see what notification came in or to look something up that we are talking about, but to ignore the person entirely? That is sad.

Couples who only have their kids in common

I know. Sometimes you look at the family/kids and try to predict whether they'll divorce before or after the kids go to college.

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Anonymous wrote:Calling each other "Babe" nonstop. The kind of people who do this seem like they are chewing gum, even when they aren't chewing gum.

Ah, you beat me to it. A good friend, who is otherwise a lovely person, does this with her husband. Every single sentence ends in "Babe." Every. single. sentence. Last time we were over there, I thought it would make a great drinking game.

"babe" is the worst endearment ever. the "2 a-holes" sketches with Sudekis and Wiig demonstrated this perfectly.

LOL, I always think of that sketch, too! Or Babe the piglet...

[Anonymous]

i don't like when a couple always has to do things together. they never travel separately, won't go to an event/show/concert that 1 really wants to attend because the other doesn't want to...etc

[Anonymous]

People who refer to their spouses as "my best friend".

Guys who like to brag about how hot their wife is. Just kinda yucky and gross. Especially when he's a lot older than she is, or when he's really educated and she's kinda dumb. Well, yeah, obviously you married her because she was hot. IT wasn't so she would share her Nobel Prize winnings with you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Calling each other "Babe" nonstop. The kind of people who do this seem like they are chewing gum, even when they aren't chewing gum.

Ah, you beat me to it. A good friend, who is otherwise a lovely person, does this with her husband. Every single sentence ends in "Babe." Every. single. sentence. Last time we were over there, I thought it would make a great drinking game.

"babe" is the worst endearment ever. the "2 a-holes" sketches with Sudekis and Wiig demonstrated this perfectly.

LOL, I always think of that sketch, too! Or Babe the piglet...

Oh man, DH and I call each other babe all the time! Whoops!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who refer to their spouses as "my best friend".

Guys who like to brag about how hot their wife is. Just kinda yucky and gross. Especially when he's a lot older than she is, or when he's really educated and she's kinda dumb. Well, yeah, obviously you married her because she was hot. IT wasn't so she would share her Nobel Prize winnings with you!

Oh yes. There was one recently where it was like "my banging wife did so and so so on top of being hot she's also cool and blah blah." I would KILL my husband if he posted on FB about me and referred to me as "my banging wife."