"I/We will never be that couple" - things that annoy you about other couples

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Anonymous wrote:Couples that share 1 email address. I had a friend do this after she got married and it was seriously alienating. I liked her husband but no way was I going to email the both of them the same kind of stuff that i used to email just her. Nothing bad about him - more like updates on my own goings ons - e.g. boyfriend troubles, dieting issues, etc.

Or -- perhaps even worse -- one Facebook account. Yes, I'm talking to you, "LarloAndLarla Smith"!

DH is convinced that this phenomenon is a result of when someone has cheated on the other.

I'm pretty sure he is correct. My AP had has account (we weren't even friends on FB actually) deleted by his wife after she found out.

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1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email.

How old are you? All the couples I know who do this are over 60 years old.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email.

How old are you? All the couples I know who do this are over 60 years old.

35/34. One of us on Facebook the other is not.

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Like an earlier poster -- I can't stand "matchy outfits".

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Anonymous wrote:One email address is generational. My parents for example. It wouldn't occur to them to have separate email addresses.

True. My parents also have a shared email address. But I think they also recently got separate ones as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Like an earlier poster -- I can't stand "matchy outfits".

Me either. In fact, if DH comes down wearing something that remotely matches what I'm wearing, I'll make him go and change-or change myself if he got dressed first and I didn't realize.

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Major displays of affection around everybody. Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:Along with the obnoxious facebook posts - anytime someone says "Love you to the moon and back!" That seems to be the phrase du jour for everyone on my list posting schmoopy things to their spouse. Barf.

+1. Yes! And "Love you more!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm okay with the PDA of others - it makes me remember being swept up in the hormones.

The worst Facebook posts are the ones where the spouse isn't even on Facebook. So Larla will post "happy nine-month anniversary to you, Larlo. You are so amazing, you complete me, and I don't know how I was able to draw a breath before I met you. You hung the stars, the sun, the moon, and the galaxy has you to thank for making it better." Meanwhile, Larlo has no Facebook account. This also applies to similar messages to kids on their birthdays.

See, I sort of agree with you on the spouse/anniversary thing.

However, I disagree with you on the childrens' birthdays. I have many friends and acquaintances whose kids are different ages from my kids. I see them anywhere from once a year to once a month. I've met their kids. I like their kids. But I'm not in the same sphere with their kids and frankly their kids are generally below my radar. But I like to know when the kid has a birthday and maybe one or two details about the birthday so that the next time I see the kid, I have something to say to them, even if it it's just a belated happy birthday. Or can make a quick comment about the kid's birthday party or whatever. To me, this one of the reasons FB was created, a social network, so that we can share social information between friends and acquaintances.

Give me birthday announcements and take off the religious, political and chain mail (Like if you've rubbed your kittty's tummy today!) crap any day.

Quoted PP here. I'm totally fine with FB posts that say something like "It's Larla's 8th birthday - I am so blessed to have her" or anything else. The thing that bugs me is when the poster is addressing the person not on FB - so instead of the example in the last sentence, it would be "Larla - I am so blessed to have you in my life. Your birth on this day 8 years ago was the best and I am sure you will become the most amazing woman ever!" It's just super odd to me to be addressing people who are not even on FB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm okay with the PDA of others - it makes me remember being swept up in the hormones.

The worst Facebook posts are the ones where the spouse isn't even on Facebook. So Larla will post "happy nine-month anniversary to you, Larlo. You are so amazing, you complete me, and I don't know how I was able to draw a breath before I met you. You hung the stars, the sun, the moon, and the galaxy has you to thank for making it better." Meanwhile, Larlo has no Facebook account. This also applies to similar messages to kids on their birthdays.

Also spit out my morning coffee; brava, PP!

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Anonymous wrote:Like an earlier poster -- I can't stand "matchy outfits".

Is it acceptable between father and son? My kid is four, and someone got us shirts with complementing slogans..."Big Dude" and "Little Dude". The few times we've worn them out, there are lots of smiles, but I wonder if people secretly think we're just odd.

Not to mention, I hate it when I accidentally grab that T-shirt (no, I frequently don't look, just grab one out of the drawer and go) and I'm not out with my kid. I do some weightlifting, wearing a shirt that says "Big Dude" while I'm out by myself is embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Like an earlier poster -- I can't stand "matchy outfits".

Is it acceptable between father and son? My kid is four, and someone got us shirts with complementing slogans..."Big Dude" and "Little Dude". The few times we've worn them out, there are lots of smiles, but I wonder if people secretly think we're just odd.

Not to mention, I hate it when I accidentally grab that T-shirt (no, I frequently don't look, just grab one out of the drawer and go) and I'm not out with my kid. I do some weightlifting, wearing a shirt that says "Big Dude" while I'm out by myself is embarrassing.

I would think it was hilarious if I saw some guy just walking around in a "big dude" shirt. You have to be able to laugh at yourself!

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Anonymous wrote:Calling each other "Babe" nonstop. The kind of people who do this seem like they are chewing gum, even when they aren't chewing gum.

Ah, you beat me to it. A good friend, who is otherwise a lovely person, does this with her husband. Every single sentence ends in "Babe." Every. single. sentence. Last time we were over there, I thought it would make a great drinking game.

Do you guys hail from New York or New Jersey?

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Couples who constantly bicker. Jesus, get a divorce already.

Couples who try to involve outsiders in their arguments. "X is always doing this, don't you agree Y??" No I don't, leave me out of it.

Couples who never have sex

Couples who have nothing to say to each other at restaurants. That is sad.

Couples who only have their kids in common