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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1 email address couple, here. No infidelity issues. Don't see the problem with one email address any more than I would see a problem with one mailing address.

We don't use email for too much personal stuff. Yes, for planning and online accounts, but just don't use it to send lots of personal information. More likely to text with or talk to friends than confide over email. [/quote]

Grandparents are the only couples who can get away with joint email addresses. [/quote]

Not sure what to tell you. We're not grandparents and we're getting away with it. Should we also get separate PO Boxes?[/quote]

NP, this is not a good analogy. Physical mail is rarely personal anymore, and when it is, the sender can address you or your spouse independently and when they do, I presume you don't open your spouse's mail and if you did, your spouse would know. Email is much more commonly used to share personal confidences between intimate friends and with some email software your messages are pre-loaded in a viewer. Even if not, it's easy to read and then "mark as read".

I agree this is more common among older people. I do know one or two of our generation (30s) who had this but they got these addresses in the early days of email and they eventually got individual addresses. It totally puts a chill on emailing confidential stuff to friends except in the rare cases where you are equally close to the spouses, and even then you'd probably phrase things differently. PP if you never use email for personal stuff then ok I get it, but do you not have any long-distance friends? Do you text with them too?

I am 100% faithful but I have separate email and do not generally share my email or phone password with spouse and don't ask for the same. Some amount if privacy is healthy.

A pet peeve related to the email thing is couples that always insist on hanging out together, never individually. This is especially true for newer couples. They haven't figured out yet that in order to have a deep relationship with another couple, you need to have the various 1-to-1s and not just the double date every time. Or maybe they just don't want a deeper friendship with us which is ok too!!  :)

Another vote here for the Facebook anniversary gushing. It doesn't annoy me but I cringe a little. There have been a few cases recently where I see one of these "My love, It has been such an incredible journey and I cannot wait to grow old with you", meanwhile I am close with one of them and had lunch with them last week and they are in marriage therapy and haven't had sex for 6 months. And those are just the ones I KNOW about so basically whenever I see these posts I think ok, that's cute but what are you trying to prove and to whom.

PDA in general doesn't bother me and if the couple is hot I actually enjoy it! But I do associate it more with young kids. Nothing wrong if you want to channel your inner teenager now and then! But there is a particular style of PDA that does annoy me. This is the kind where one partner has his or her hands all over the other in a way that is kind of cloying and possessive, it's hard to explain as I type. I mean holding their neck, grabbing their face when they turn away to turn the lips back toward the kiss... not sure if you know what I mean but I find this unattractive. Makes them look insecure IMO. Just generally sucking face I have no problem and in fact I think it's mandatory in certain bars after consumotion of alcohol.

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