Who is right? Son accidentally took item - disagreement results

[Anonymous]

I think many of you guys are missing the a big point. NO ONE IS THE WRONGED PARTY!! A kid accidentally took another kids swim suit. A Target suit swim suit!

I'm sure the OP wishes now that she had just offered to pay for a new one and then replace the old one latter.

[Anonymous]

She's being riduculous.

[Anonymous]

I admit I have used über to courier things for me- I might have just sent it via über!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was inconvenienced because of your son's fault. That is the fact. It does not matter if you think that her inconvenience was small. That is your opinion.

You are feeling inconvenienced because you are supposed to fix your son's fault. That was your moral obligation. But you did not allow yourself to be inconvenienced to fix your son's fault. That is your selfishness and entitlement. You are not a good role model to your children in doing the right thing. Sorry, but I am not on your side. Even though I have sympathy for your situation.

Sometime doing the right thing is not easy, but not doing the right thing is wrong.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Can't believe most of the posters are putting the obligation on the wronged party and NOT the OP. Unbelievable.

No way. A normal mom wouldn't have had unrealistic expectations of OP.

She didn't. The OP offered and was then put out when the Mom accepted.

[Anonymous]

I am going to post this thread next time someone asks why people hate the DMV. Here it is in a nutshell!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you guys are missing the a big point. NO ONE IS THE WRONGED PARTY!! A kid accidentally took another kids swim suit. A Target suit swim suit!

I'm sure the OP wishes now that she had just offered to pay for a new one and then replace the old one latter.

This shouting prompts me to ask WHO ONLY HAS ONE BATHING SUIT FOR THEIR KID?!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I understand that the lady was crazy.

However, if it was me, I would have made sure that she gets it somehow. Even if I had to send my neighbor on Uber to drop it at her house or something. Mainly because it was my DS's fault. After that I would have never had any communication with that person because best to leave toxic people out of your life. This would be called taking the high road.

Agreed. Her unreasonable request should not outweigh taking responsibility for an unfortunate mistake.

You teach your kids to take responsibility for someone else's mistake?

Huh?

[Anonymous]

For a kids bathing suit.. Yeah she can pick another one up at target on the way to the beach. If it was an adult bathing suit I would be more understanding. I'm a heavier woman and I have exactly 3 bathing suits that don't draw attention to my ass and hips, so yeah I would be pissed if you "stole" one. But a kid... Don't sweat it.


I do think people are tearing into you because of your excuses. Honestly you didn't owe her an excuse. You could have just said no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have driven it to them. Your son took it, his mistake. It sucks but that is what you should have done.

Kind of myopic, bro.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She was inconvenienced because of your son's fault. That is the fact. It does not matter if you think that her inconvenience was small. That is your opinion.

You are feeling inconvenienced because you are supposed to fix your son's fault. That was your moral obligation. But you did not allow yourself to be inconvenienced to fix your son's fault. That is your selfishness and entitlement. You are not a good role model to your children in doing the right thing. Sorry, but I am not on your side. Even though I have sympathy for your situation.

Sometime doing the right thing is not easy, but not doing the right thing is wrong.

Following this logic, if the swimsuit snafu was not discovered until the family was in New Jersey it would be OP's moral obligation to drive the swimsuit to them there to "fix her son's fault." She would be selfish, entitled and a poor role model not to do so.

But, that's not what happened. The Mom is still local and this can easily be made right with a 30 minute trip. So...yeah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you guys are missing the a big point. NO ONE IS THE WRONGED PARTY!! A kid accidentally took another kids swim suit. A Target suit swim suit!

I'm sure the OP wishes now that she had just offered to pay for a new one and then replace the old one latter.

I disagree. The Mom is inconvenienced. And she's certainly wronged now that she's out the swimsuit that OP offered to drive to her.

[Anonymous]

What would gorilla mom do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you guys are missing the a big point. NO ONE IS THE WRONGED PARTY!! A kid accidentally took another kids swim suit. A Target suit swim suit!

I'm sure the OP wishes now that she had just offered to pay for a new one and then replace the old one latter.

This shouting prompts me to ask WHO ONLY HAS ONE BATHING SUIT FOR THEIR KID?!!

I wonder that too. I understood that the pool party took place at the friend's house, although I may have misread that. If that's the case, it's crazy that a child with a pool in the backyard would only have one swim suit. Maybe the dog ate his other swim trunks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many of you guys are missing the a big point. NO ONE IS THE WRONGED PARTY!! A kid accidentally took another kids swim suit. A Target suit swim suit!

I'm sure the OP wishes now that she had just offered to pay for a new one and then replace the old one latter.

I disagree. The Mom is inconvenienced. And she's certainly wronged now that she's out the swimsuit that OP offered to drive to her.

The offer to paypal or venmo the money is brilliant, for emergency Jersey Shore bathing suit mixups like these.

[Anonymous]

Y'all white women and your problems crack me up.