s/o do you judge your friends who divorce

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Anonymous wrote:PP again, I should add that mental illness was a factor. Bipolar disorder. We were married in our early 20's and there were no red flags at that time.

He refuses treatment. Should I really have stayed in a marriage like that?

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no marriage where 100% of the problems are traceable to one person. I don't judge but do hope that the decision, which is always difficult and causes pain was well thought out and that both parties can move to a happier life.

Not true. I was a great wife. He went off the deep end. I did everything to make it work. He walked out. Even my Ex would agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

These judging comments hurt. I'm currently divorcing my husband due to his anxiety disorder that was sucking the life out of me. There was no future in which I could be happy with him. This isn't something I'll share with people though, it's his private business. And for that I'll apparently be judged

You see? and THAT right there is what we judge you for. And the point of this. you knew about his disorder (or should have) before you married him and rather than figuring out a way to make it work, it's all about YOU being HAPPY. I hope you don't have kids. The woman in our neighborhood has older kids, but it's the same attitude: I"M not happy. I can't be happy. ME ME ME unfortunately at the expense of the family.

Who the hell is we? Cause I'm certainly not judging her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP again, I should add that mental illness was a factor. Bipolar disorder. We were married in our early 20's and there were no red flags at that time.

He refuses treatment. Should I really have stayed in a marriage like that?

Of course not.

I can't read this whole thread. But mental illness was a factor for me too. I was married in my late twenties, with no red flags either.

He would NEVER agree to any treatment.

Neither of us could stay.

Anything can happen to anyone at any time. Remember that. I'm only imagining the posts here. But I know the truth. We are all one breath away from something terrible and life-altering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no marriage where 100% of the problems are traceable to one person. I don't judge but do hope that the decision, which is always difficult and causes pain was well thought out and that both parties can move to a happier life.

Not true. I was a great wife. He went off the deep end. I did everything to make it work. He walked out. Even my Ex would agree.

OF COURSE.

PP, I believe that you did everything you could. I did too. I hope you're on your way to a great life. You deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no marriage where 100% of the problems are traceable to one person. I don't judge but do hope that the decision, which is always difficult and causes pain was well thought out and that both parties can move to a happier life.

Not true. I was a great wife. He went off the deep end. I did everything to make it work. He walked out. Even my Ex would agree.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no marriage where 100% of the problems are traceable to one person. I don't judge but do hope that the decision, which is always difficult and causes pain was well thought out and that both parties can move to a happier life.

Not true. I was a great wife. He went off the deep end. I did everything to make it work. He walked out. Even my Ex would agree.

OF COURSE.

PP, I believe that you did everything you could. I did too. I hope you're on your way to a great life. You deserve it.

Thank you. That is really sweet. My kids and I are doing great.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 100% against divorce for ANY reason. Do I judge, no but I think what they did it wrong and I personally believe divorce should be against the law. You divorce, you die simple as that. You made a commitment in front of God. Till death do us part. If you choose to part fine but you both need to die.

Yeah. No. Not everybody made a commitment in front of god. Most people don't believe in god.

Seriously? You don't judge? Look in the mirror to see the judgiest, most obnoxious poster ever.

[Anonymous]

I don't judge people for getting divorced.

I do judge people who don't try to make the process and aftermath as easy as possible for their children.

[Anonymous]

I think people who have young children and divorce, because "they feel like roomates," "they are not in love anymore," and "they don't feel like being married anymore" are selfish assholes. I think this qualifies as judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, but I do wonder why 2/3 of my divorced friends ever married the dipshit in the first place after a million red flags. I am glad they woke up and got a divorce!

Exactly. I don't judge them for getting out of unhappy situation but I do judge them for being stupid when there are so many red flags in front of them and they still marry the person. Honestly I lose a little respect for them when they do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't judge people for getting divorced.

I do judge people who don't try to make the process and aftermath as easy as possible for their children.

This, exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people who have young children and divorce, because "they feel like roomates," "they are not in love anymore," and "they don't feel like being married anymore" are selfish assholes. I think this qualifies as judgement.

Yes. Thank you!

Everything is not about YOU!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 100% against divorce for ANY reason. Do I judge, no but I think what they did it wrong and I personally believe divorce should be against the law. You divorce, you die simple as that. You made a commitment in front of God. Till death do us part. If you choose to part fine but you both need to die.

Yeah. No. Not everybody made a commitment in front of god. Most people don't believe in god.

Seriously? You don't judge? Look in the mirror to see the judgiest, most obnoxious poster ever.

Uh. I didn't say I don't judge, although I tend not to. Hard to judge other people when I've made so many mistakes over my lifetime. What I did say what that most people don't believe in god and I didn't swear before god to forsake all others. I certainly don't think a divorce is grounds for death.

I will take that complement that I'm probably the most obnoxious poster ever, though. Thanks! I like to be best at something. Judgiest, I think you are wrong about, though, sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think people who have young children and divorce, because "they feel like roomates," "they are not in love anymore," and "they don't feel like being married anymore" are selfish assholes. I think this qualifies as judgement.

Yes. Thank you!

Everything is not about YOU!

This is my wife right now!