What do you think of a single, childless 40 years old woman?

[Anonymous]

That was me. I did not meet the right guy until 50. Then I married a great guy and now we have twins. Life is good.

[Anonymous]

The independent thing, I didn't get it until I met my current love. I was used to doing things for myself and didn't know how to leave room for someone to help me. Which didn't mean I needed to be helpless, but my guy likes to see what the situation is with my car and to fix things around the house when they break, it's his love language. And I have found I like not having to do all of the things.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the person. Most of the ones I know are quite intelligent but have some mental issues, but then who doesn't?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it depends if the woman expresses a desire for settling down, marriage or kids. If so, I wonder if her parents were divorced and whether she spent time pursuing men that in their own way were unavailable and she was hoping they would change. I mention divorce because many of my friends are headed down this road and come from broken homes and absent or cheating "father figures" and they seem to pursue the men who ultimately will be emotionally unavailable whether not committing to marriage, kids etc. I try to support them through the impending heartbreak of coming to terms that the relationship will not change, as they are truly warm and caring women. I have also supported several who ended up pregnant and had the boyfriend not be supportive, be abusive/manipulative etc. I do support them in their pursuit of being a mother if they desire children even if due to biological constraints the circumstances are not what they envisioned for the path motherhood. My one friend who had a daughter as a single-parent faced a life-threatening post-birth complication and I knew how hard it was for her feeling alone so I stayed with her in the hospital throughout the night, even though I have multiple young children and family obligations at home, and was ready and willing to do whatever was needed to help take care of her daughter during her hospitalization and afterwards. My friends are like family and especially those that fit the criteria I outlined often need some reassurances that people care about them especially given the social stigma they sometimes face, esp. Re: unwed/pregnant

Seen the same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I agree that I was overly picky or looking for the wrong things until I was at least 37. I just didn't want to settle and I'm glad I didn't. But my choices also mean I probably won't ever have my own kids. Weird thing is that I don't feel too sad about that? Maybe the PPs are right that subconsciously maybe I've just wanted to be alone until now. I spent so many years travelling the world and living a kind of selfish life and I don't regret any of that. Maybe if I'd found the one earlier I'd be regretting not seeing the world. But now I'm ready to meet someone and hope it's still possible. Maybe therapy would help?

I do think you prioritized work above being in a relationship and that was fine if that is what you wanted. I remember having the opportunity to work abroad at 25 and I thought, if I go now and come back in a few years I could miss out on meeting the one for me. I decided not to go and I was right. I met my DH when I was 25 and around the time I met him I was meeting lots of guys - it was raining men. There is a part of me that would still love the chance to live abroad post college but it wasn't more important to me than finding love and being a mom. In my 20's I knew I would rather not be in a relationship than be in a bad relationship and had planned to go the sperm donor route so I could be a mom if I never got married.

I don't know what you would learn in therapy unless it was fear that drove your decision like afraid of getting too close or getting hurt and work, picking people you know it won't work out etc. is your way of making sure no one gets too close. If you honestly did not want to settle back then there is nothing wrong with that. I honestly believe there is a lid for every pot and you have to find the guy that works with your personality. Maybe the guy that is the workaholic or the introvert would work well with your independent provided that you had other shared values.

[Anonymous]

I think travel, a cute house or apartment, freedom, time for exercise and self care, sleeping in, watching whatever she wants on TV. The ability to flirt madly with a stranger if the spirit moves her. I'm jealous in many ways and would love to hear what she's going to do next.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 36, divorced, and childless, and don't want kids. I have a great boyfriend who is 11 years my junior, and sexy as all hell. So, all the "desirable" men are not taken. I don't think anything is wrong with an older woman with no kids and not married. If she's confident, has her shit together work and finance-wise, who cares? A lot of these women are much more stable and happy than younger women, married with kids, whose lives are secretly falling apart behind closed doors.

Does he scream "mommy" when he ejaculates in you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 36, divorced, and childless, and don't want kids. I have a great boyfriend who is 11 years my junior, and sexy as all hell. So, all the "desirable" men are not taken. I don't think anything is wrong with an older woman with no kids and not married. If she's confident, has her shit together work and finance-wise, who cares? A lot of these women are much more stable and happy than younger women, married with kids, whose lives are secretly falling apart behind closed doors.

Does he scream "mommy" when he ejaculates in you?

Oh, honey. Would you even bat an eye if he was 36 and she was 25? You are the queen of double standards. So transparent and nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the person who called troll- I'm the OP and asked this question because I'm 40, single, never married and don't have kids. I saw the 50 years old never married man thread and wondered what people thought of women like me. Not trying to start a fight!

I think one of the bitter truths these seemingly desirable yet unmarried 40.something's have to face up to is if they let their politics dictate their relationships. Ladies if you're going to reject a relationship with a man because he doesn't share your views in things like feminism, climate change, politics generally and similar nonsense, you're going to seriously limit your options. Think of all the women who refused to get involved with a high earning Conservative but all the liberal slobs they dated whose politics s they shared weren't responsible partners. After all a woman without a man Is like a fish without a bicycle right? Men and specifically fathers aren't even necessary. That's what you all purport to believe. If you don't value marriage don't be surprised if a lot of the men you date don't either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 36, divorced, and childless, and don't want kids. I have a great boyfriend who is 11 years my junior, and sexy as all hell. So, all the "desirable" men are not taken. I don't think anything is wrong with an older woman with no kids and not married. If she's confident, has her shit together work and finance-wise, who cares? A lot of these women are much more stable and happy than younger women, married with kids, whose lives are secretly falling apart behind closed doors.

Does he scream "mommy" when he ejaculates in you?

Oh, honey. Would you even bat an eye if he was 36 and she was 25? You are the queen of double standards. So transparent and nasty.

What are you even talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here- I agree that I was overly picky or looking for the wrong things until I was at least 37. I just didn't want to settle and I'm glad I didn't. But my choices also mean I probably won't ever have my own kids. Weird thing is that I don't feel too sad about that? Maybe the PPs are right that subconsciously maybe I've just wanted to be alone until now. I spent so many years travelling the world and living a kind of selfish life and I don't regret any of that. Maybe if I'd found the one earlier I'd be regretting not seeing the world. But now I'm ready to meet someone and hope it's still possible. Maybe therapy would help? [/quote

You don't need therapy. You were sold a bill of goods by feminism to believe that marriage and children were not worthy pursuits. As you traveled the worst L you thought how your life was oh so much better than those lactating cows.


Joke's on you.

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Anonymous wrote:That it is VERY difficult/daunting to meet quality men after college-especially when you are certain careers (teaching, etc.) And, that women nowadays have more options so there is not the stigma of "old maid." For example, I adopted an infant as a single woman in my mid 40's.

I disagree. I think marrying someone from college dating is a huge risk. You're children.

It is. But it's still true it is far easier to date a variety of people in college than it is post college when you are trying to settle into a career.

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Agree as well, there are some things about DH (we met in college) that I would probably not have choosen had I been older and wiser, but I am pretty introverted so I think it would have been hard for me to meet someone later. All in all, I love having my family and kids so glad it worked out as it did even if there may have been a more perfect relationship option had I waited. And there are some good things about meeting young as well, like you sort of grow up together.

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Anonymous wrote:To the person who called troll- I'm the OP and asked this question because I'm 40, single, never married and don't have kids. I saw the 50 years old never married man thread and wondered what people thought of women like me. Not trying to start a fight!

I would not give it much thought. It is your life, and I hope you are content with it. I'm sure you have your share of good and bad days, just like everybody else regardless of marital or parental status.

I'm sure there are people who will judge or pity you. But everybody is judged or pitied by somebody out there, again, regardless of marital or parental status.

So does it matter in the end? Not one bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was me. I did not meet the right guy until 50. Then I married a great guy and now we have twins. Life is good.

Wow. Kudos to you!

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Anonymous wrote:
I think one of the bitter truths these seemingly desirable yet unmarried 40.something's have to face up to is if they let their politics dictate their relationships. Ladies if you're going to reject a relationship with a man because he doesn't share your views in things like feminism, climate change, politics generally and similar nonsense, you're going to seriously limit your options. Think of all the women who refused to get involved with a high earning Conservative but all the liberal slobs they dated whose politics s they shared weren't responsible partners. After all a woman without a man Is like a fish without a bicycle right? Men and specifically fathers aren't even necessary. That's what you all purport to believe. If you don't value marriage don't be surprised if a lot of the men you date don't either.

Please translate into english. Then, remove your head from your rear.