What do you think of a single, childless 40 years old woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gave birth at 54 to twins. It is all good.

I guess you're bummed no one gave you enough attention for this revelation the first time you mentioned it further up in the thread?

[Anonymous]

I used to pity them. But not anymore.

I am 31 and married to a man I love and enjoy but who has been chasing a dream that is not coming true. He makes shit money and we do not live in circumstances that make being married worth it to me, to be quite frank.

Can't afford to have kids, can't afford to create a real home (we are living in a temporary location currently so that he can keep chasing his dying dream).

And this was a guy who was a total CATCH when we met in my mid 20's. No one thought things would have turned out like this for him.

I honestly had a better life when I was single because as a married woman I could do what I wanted when I wanted and could plan for the future on my own terms.

Anyway, I guess the point I am trying to make is that being single wasn't half as bad as I thought it was and I catch myself longing for it DESPITE being lucky enough to actually really love my husband, who is a great person.

So, now when I look at single 40 year old women how I view them depends on how they are feeling about their own life.

If they are thriving, I feel happy for them and also jealous.

If they are sad, I feel bad for them.

So, same exact way I feel about 40 year old married women with kids.