Things you want to tell your spouse but can't or won't

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Anonymous wrote:That I would like to have an affair with a woman.

(I'm a woman who is happily married to a man.)

Why won't you share this with him?

He is not as sexually adventurous as I am, and I'm afraid of being negatively judged for it. I have been considering neutral ways of bringing it up, though.

Put on lesbian porn, see if he likes it? Don't virtually all men get turned on by two women getting it on?

I am the PP again. I brought up the subject with my husband in a neutral way. I did not mention I was personally interested in women, I just wanted his opinion on the general subject. He said it has never been one of those things that turns him on.

First world problem, but I am pretty bummed! Even though he is not judging me (because he doesn't even know about my attraction to women), I feel judged just knowing he wouldn't approve. Also, I had hoped that we could at least play with the fantasy ourselves in bedroom... but I guess that idea is out the window now too.

He may have thought it was a trick question and a trap. If my DW asked me that I'd figure out some way not to answer until she gave me some indication that SHE was into it.

Even a general, "does the idea of two women making out turn you on" question? I am not sure why he would think I would be offended either way, but fair point I guess. I'll try to bring it up again sometime in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:That while my DH's penis still gets rock hard, I think it may not get as big as it did when he was younger.

THIS!

How can I put this gently...perhaps it's not his size that has changed, but yours...

Too funny. I was about to say that my DW is looser than when we got together but I would never tell her that. She probably thinks my penis is smaller (possible that less blood circulates making it seem smaller). Dollars to donuts, the PP is looser and her husband isn't as thick when erect.

Guy here. I was having to problem - still hard but not just as big. My doc prescribed V and it makes me larger than I've ever been and super hard. She actually screamed the first time I went in. It's funny how much more often she wants it now.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That I would like to have an affair with a woman.

(I'm a woman who is happily married to a man.)

Why won't you share this with him?

He is not as sexually adventurous as I am, and I'm afraid of being negatively judged for it. I have been considering neutral ways of bringing it up, though.

Put on lesbian porn, see if he likes it? Don't virtually all men get turned on by two women getting it on?

I am the PP again. I brought up the subject with my husband in a neutral way. I did not mention I was personally interested in women, I just wanted his opinion on the general subject. He said it has never been one of those things that turns him on.

First world problem, but I am pretty bummed! Even though he is not judging me (because he doesn't even know about my attraction to women), I feel judged just knowing he wouldn't approve. Also, I had hoped that we could at least play with the fantasy ourselves in bedroom... but I guess that idea is out the window now too.

He may have thought it was a trick question and a trap. If my DW asked me that I'd figure out some way not to answer until she gave me some indication that SHE was into it.

Even a general, "does the idea of two women making out turn you on" question? I am not sure why he would think I would be offended either way, but fair point I guess. I'll try to bring it up again sometime in the future.

It would be highly out of character for my DW to ask that, so it would set off alarm bells. That said, I've always had a feeling that she might be a bit bi. A recent dream she told me about confirmed it. Just the same, I'd be very cagey about it if she asked without making it pretty clear she was asking because it was something SHE was interested in.