Is it okay to veto "Mom-mom" for a grandmother name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! Mine wanted Mee-maw like on the Big bang theory and I was like NO!

Fine for the show, not for her.

WTH? Why not. My kids already know I will not be called Grandma. I'm going to use what my Mom's Mom was called: Sweets!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op back. A lot of projecting going on in this thread. I'm sorry some of you have strained relationships with your family members. We spoke to MIL last night and she's going with Grammy. No hard feelings.

I'm not insecure. Just want to be the only Mom. DH will be the only Dad. Don't think that's much to ask for.[/quote]

[Anonymous]

I had a mommom and it was not confusing at all. No issues about who was mom esp since early on it was mommom vs mommy. Op, is this really the hill to die on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just heard Mom-mom for the first time the other day.
I thought it was odd.

As mentioned there are many other names. Mom-mom is a ridiculous choice. Just tell her you would prefer another name.

It is a different choice, not a ridiculous one. It is very common in NJ and PA. So common that you can buy a Mother's Day card at the store for your Mom Mom.
OP, you don't have to like it. You can choose this as your battle ground. That is your choice. Just make sure it is worth the fight.

In fact that's how the grandparent-naming system works, in Danish. There's Mothermother (Mormor) and Motherfather (Morfar) for your maternal grandparents, and Fathermother (Farmor), and Fatherfather (Farfar) for your paternal grandparents. Maybe all of the Danes are ridiculous?

Although actually according to this system, the OP's mother-in-law would be Dadmom. I wonder if the OP would prefer that.

[Anonymous]

Funny how some grandmothers have eagerly awaited grandchildren (and with that the coveted title of grandparent) to the point of insanity yet don't want to just be called grandma when the kid is here.

[Anonymous]

OP, newsflash: Your child will know who you are.

[Anonymous]

Do you really think she is choosing this because she thinks it will translate to "mom" eventually, OP?

SMH.

[Anonymous]

If this is a first grandchild and you have siblings, I suggest coming to a consensus with them. My mom is Gigi, Nana, and Grandma to different groups of kids and it's a bit ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Amazing. Some of you are such control freaks. Mom-mom and Mom are not the same or confusing for a child. It's a name between a child and her grandmother, why would you interfere?

It's like if you introduced yourself to a child as "Hi, I'm Kate." and her mother swooped in and said, "I'm sorry, you can't use your name. She has an aunt Kathy and that's too confusing for her, so you'll have to be Mrs. Jones to avoid confusing her."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some grandmothers have eagerly awaited grandchildren (and with that the coveted title of grandparent) to the point of insanity yet don't want to just be called grandma when the kid is here.

PP who will be known as Sweets. I DON'T want grandkids, but when the inevitable comes, we've got the name lined up, LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Amazing. Some of you are such control freaks. Mom-mom and Mom are not the same or confusing for a child. It's a name between a child and her grandmother, why would you interfere?

It's like if you introduced yourself to a child as "Hi, I'm Kate." and her mother swooped in and said, "I'm sorry, you can't use your name. She has an aunt Kathy and that's too confusing for her, so you'll have to be Mrs. Jones to avoid confusing her."

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny how some grandmothers have eagerly awaited grandchildren (and with that the coveted title of grandparent) to the point of insanity yet don't want to just be called grandma when the kid is here.

Families just use different names to address the grandmothers, frequently tied to their culture or family tradition. I actually know very few people who use the term "Grandma" but I am more likely to hear Mamaw, Gran, Grammy, May-May, Nana, Gigi, Grandmom, and so many others, some unique to that family. Families are different and like different names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op back. A lot of projecting going on in this thread. I'm sorry some of you have strained relationships with your family members. We spoke to MIL last night and she's going with Grammy. No hard feelings.

I'm not insecure. Just want to be the only Mom. DH will be the only Dad. Don't think that's much to ask for.

I knew who was my only Mom, and I also knew who "Granny" was. I loved Granny a lot more.

Your control freak stuff only works against you.

[Anonymous]

My DD has 3 grandmothers (Grandma Diane, Grandma Sue etc) and a Mimi. She is not confused as to who is who.

I think it's ok to ask her to come up with something else. Maybe don't bring up that it's too close to "mom" and just suggest something more fun, like ya-ya or gigi or mimi or grammie.

My last point is that I would have been annoyed with this while pregnant my first too. But once your baby is here you realize pretty quickly that no matter what they call other people, you ARE MAMA. Nothing will change that.

Congrats on the baby.

[Anonymous]

I know a family who used the name "mama" for their one grandmother's name. Grandma has 4 children, who all call her mama, and it just became easier for the grandkids to call her that too. They all call their mothers "mommy" or "mom", so zero issues. It works for them. In our family we have:
Memaw
Grammy
Grandma
Nunna
Nana

Just a choosing your child's name is a very personal decision, so is what the grandparents decide to be called. It's a tad selfish on your part to veto something your MIL has been wanting to be called by your children. Very sad.