Is it okay to veto "Mom-mom" for a grandmother name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just heard Mom-mom for the first time the other day.
I thought it was odd.

As mentioned there are many other names. Mom-mom is a ridiculous choice. Just tell her you would prefer another name.

It is a different choice, not a ridiculous one. It is very common in NJ and PA. So common that you can buy a Mother's Day card at the store for your Mom Mom.
OP, you don't have to like it. You can choose this as your battle ground. That is your choice. Just make sure it is worth the fight.

Yep. I'm a PP upthread who had a Mommom. We lived in PA; she lived in NJ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just heard Mom-mom for the first time the other day.
I thought it was odd.

As mentioned there are many other names. Mom-mom is a ridiculous choice. Just tell her you would prefer another name.

It is a different choice, not a ridiculous one. It is very common in NJ and PA. So common that you can buy a Mother's Day card at the store for your Mom Mom.
OP, you don't have to like it. You can choose this as your battle ground. That is your choice. Just make sure it is worth the fight.

In fact that's how the grandparent-naming system works, in Danish. There's Mothermother (Mormor) and Motherfather (Morfar) for your maternal grandparents, and Fathermother (Farmor), and Fatherfather (Farfar) for your paternal grandparents. Maybe all of the Danes are ridiculous?

Although actually according to this system, the OP's mother-in-law would be Dadmom. I wonder if the OP would prefer that.

Interesting! Same in my husband's (South Indian) language. His mom is dadmom. My mom would be mommom (although like many American baby boomers, she does NOT want to be called Grandma in ANY language).

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of it as a grandmother name and it would bother me. I think it's okay to veto/redirect it. (e.g., translate it to "mimi" as someone suggested).

[Anonymous]

Yes veto it so it stops now and doesn't irk you for the rest of your life. Give suggestions and stand firm.

[Anonymous]

OP realizes that the kid will call you what they want/can pronounce. I don't think any grandma in our family has been called that in 3 generations, until my DS was born and he doesn't say it. Some other word that isn't really even English I don't think.

[Anonymous]

Any version of "mama" is hard because it's of the first sounds a baby makes and mothers instinctively take it as a call for them. Can't help but be irked if someone else thinks that they have a right to it. Who enjoys forking over their newborn to their MIL or even their own mother unless completely necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes! Mine wanted Mee-maw like on the Big bang theory and I was like NO!

Fine for the show, not for her.

WTH? Why not. My kids already know I will not be called Grandma. I'm going to use what my Mom's Mom was called: Sweets!

That sounds like a stripper name. Classy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely veto. Nobody gets called mom but you.

Offer some other suggestions. Grammy, Gigi, grandma first name, Nonna... Tell her any recognizable grandma name, but nothing that includes "mom."

Does DH back you up? If so, he can tell her. "Mom, please, don't be ridiculous. Pick something that doesn't have 'mom' in it."

+1000

+100000 however most DH don't have a spine. My DH spine is made of jello and he would never stand up against Mother Dearest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely veto. Nobody gets called mom but you.

Offer some other suggestions. Grammy, Gigi, grandma first name, Nonna... Tell her any recognizable grandma name, but nothing that includes "mom."

Does DH back you up? If so, he can tell her. "Mom, please, don't be ridiculous. Pick something that doesn't have 'mom' in it."[/quote]

+1000

+100000 however most DH don't have a spine. My DH spine is made of jello and he would never stand up against Mother Dearest. [/quote] Too many women skipped communications 101 in college. Word choices ladies. They make all the difference in the world for positive interactions with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a family who used the name "mama" for their one grandmother's name. Grandma has 4 children, who all call her mama, and it just became easier for the grandkids to call her that too. They all call their mothers "mommy" or "mom", so zero issues. It works for them. In our family we have:
Memaw
Grammy
Grandma
Nunna
Nana

Just a choosing your child's name is a very personal decision, so is what the grandparents decide to be called. It's a tad selfish on your part to veto something your MIL has been wanting to be called by your children. Very sad.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Ladies, dial back the drama. Nobody is sad, there will be no years of hard feelings and I am not a control freak. No matter how much a few of you complete strangers insist.

My baby will not be calling my MIL Mom and she has her very own name that is different from my mom's name. Win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a family who used the name "mama" for their one grandmother's name. Grandma has 4 children, who all call her mama, and it just became easier for the grandkids to call her that too. They all call their mothers "mommy" or "mom", so zero issues. It works for them. In our family we have:
Memaw
Grammy
Grandma
Nunna
Nana

Just a choosing your child's name is a very personal decision, so is what the grandparents decide to be called. It's a tad selfish on your part to veto something your MIL has been wanting to be called by your children. Very sad.

+1000

Not selfish, some MIL can be obxnious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a family who used the name "mama" for their one grandmother's name. Grandma has 4 children, who all call her mama, and it just became easier for the grandkids to call her that too. They all call their mothers "mommy" or "mom", so zero issues. It works for them. In our family we have:
Memaw
Grammy
Grandma
Nunna
Nana

Just a choosing your child's name is a very personal decision, so is what the grandparents decide to be called. It's a tad selfish on your part to veto something your MIL has been wanting to be called by your children. Very sad.

+1000

Not selfish, some MIL can be obxnious

MIL wants to be called a certain name. We're not talking Auntie or something ridiculous. Seriously OP, there are a TON of battles ahead and this is without question one that's not worth fighting. Let your dang MIL pick the name SHE is called. You're definitely selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes! Mine wanted Mee-maw like on the Big bang theory and I was like NO!

Fine for the show, not for her.

WTH? Why not. My kids already know I will not be called Grandma. I'm going to use what my Mom's Mom was called: Sweets!

That sounds like a stripper name. Classy!

Maybe to you, but when the time comes, I'll own it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ladies, dial back the drama. Nobody is sad, there will be no years of hard feelings and I am not a control freak. No matter how much a few of you complete strangers insist.

My baby will not be calling my MIL Mom and she has her very own name that is different from my mom's name. Win-win.

When DCUM agrees, listen. You may have "won" this one, but you sound neurotic, insecure and a bit of a diva.