Is it okay to veto "Mom-mom" for a grandmother name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all those saying no to two grandmoms, what about Grandmom Sue and Grandmom Mary or Grandmom T and Grandmom V or something like that?

I grew up calling my grandmothers Grandma Sue and Grandma Flora.

I always said Grandma Smith and Grandma Jones when I needed to differentiate. Rarely happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her that, similarly to how she thinks two "grandmas" would be confusing, "mom-mom" would be confusing, too.

Let her know any name that's not similar to "mom" or "mommy" works for you. You can recommend some (Grammy, Deedee, Nana, Nan, Granny, Gran, etc) if you think she'd be receptive, or you can just leave it at that.

OP again. Thank you! This is exactly how I'll explain it. I'll agree that she's totally right that two grandmas is confusing but I also think having to "mom"s is confusing as well. I'm totally fine with any other name!

I'm sure it's fine if you grew up with Mom mom as a normal grandmother name, but my husband actually calls both his grandmothers "Grandma." So it's not like it's some sort of family tradition she's trying to continue.

To whom is it confusing?

[Anonymous]

She probably has a friend or two with grand kids who call them that and now she wants to be called that too. New grandmas can be like little girls, wanting what their friends have, buying what their friends but grandchildren, comparing who does what, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you've never heard of Mommom as a grandmother name? It's a traditional grandparent nickname.

http://www.grandparents.com/family-and-relationships/grandparent-names/grandparent-names

If anything, this list shows just how much worse it could be!

Not OP, but I've never, ever heard of this. And I know of Omas and Bubbes and Meemaws.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is under the impression that a child can't have two "Grandmas." She has suggested that she would like to be called "Mom-mom." I've never heard of this as a grandmother name - I had two grandmas myself. To me, it would be really confusing to a little kid. Mama/mommy and Mom-mom are so similar.

Am I wrong to want to be the only one with Mom in the beginning of the title for my kids?

It seems like you are arguing it would be confusing (it won't be) as a rationalization - you really "want to be the only one with Mom in the beginning of the title" but you realize that's kinda petty, so you're looking for a separate justification. If that's your reason, own it.

[Anonymous]

My mom goes by Gigi, and tells everyone who will listen it stands for Gorgeous Grandma. It could be worse, OP. That said, I don't love Mom-Mom, not b/c it's confusing but because I don't like the sound of it.
Is she actually asking your opinion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is under the impression that a child can't have two "Grandmas." She has suggested that she would like to be called "Mom-mom." I've never heard of this as a grandmother name - I had two grandmas myself. To me, it would be really confusing to a little kid. Mama/mommy and Mom-mom are so similar.

Am I wrong to want to be the only one with Mom in the beginning of the title for my kids?

LOL! My mom decided she wanted to be called "Mom-mom." I'd never called either of my grandmothers that, so I'm not sure where she got it. We went with it, because that's what she wanted. The kids don't find it confusing in the least. Everyone is happy.

Honestly, some things aren't worth fighting about.

Truer words have never been spoken. In the scheme of life this is a non-issue. It is all about control...and women wonder why they have problems with their mil...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you've never heard of Mommom as a grandmother name? It's a traditional grandparent nickname.

http://www.grandparents.com/family-and-relationships/grandparent-names/grandparent-names

If anything, this list shows just how much worse it could be!

Not OP, but I've never, ever heard of this. And I know of Omas and Bubbes and Meemaws.

Maybe it's regional like another PP suggested. My friend's mother goes by Abuela. That was a new one for me (and I had to Google just now to get the spelling right)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely veto. Nobody gets called mom but you.

Offer some other suggestions. Grammy, Gigi, grandma first name, Nonna... Tell her any recognizable grandma name, but nothing that includes "mom."

Does DH back you up? If so, he can tell her. "Mom, please, don't be ridiculous. Pick something that doesn't have 'mom' in it."

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely veto. Nobody gets called mom but you.

Offer some other suggestions. Grammy, Gigi, grandma first name, Nonna... Tell her any recognizable grandma name, but nothing that includes "mom."

Does DH back you up? If so, he can tell her. "Mom, please, don't be ridiculous. Pick something that doesn't have 'mom' in it."

+1000

Please, Grandmom has the word mom in it. Would you veto that, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom goes by Gigi, and tells everyone who will listen it stands for Gorgeous Grandma. It could be worse, OP. That said, I don't love Mom-Mom, not b/c it's confusing but because I don't like the sound of it.
Is she actually asking your opinion?

OP here. I wouldn't mind Gigi. She said "what do you guys think?" in her email.

For those saying it's not confusing...I'm thinking about a little kid learning to talk. They're not going to be able to differentiate between Mama and Mom Mom.

And yeah, I want to be my kids only "Mom." Call me petty but that's how I feel! She already has two kids to call her Mom.

MIL is not a bitch and we have a fine relationship. This will not cause years of drama so no worries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I called my grandmother Mom-Mom (as did all my cousins), and my daughter calls my mother Mom-Mom (we pronounce it mum-mum, though). There has never been any confusion. If your kid is confused about who his mother is because of this, I would gently suggest you've got bigger fish to fry.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. She can be called what she wants.

+1 mom-mom is a great grandmas name. "Grandma" is so boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom goes by Gigi, and tells everyone who will listen it stands for Gorgeous Grandma. It could be worse, OP. That said, I don't love Mom-Mom, not b/c it's confusing but because I don't like the sound of it.
Is she actually asking your opinion?

OP here. I wouldn't mind Gigi. She said "what do you guys think?" in her email.

For those saying it's not confusing...I'm thinking about a little kid learning to talk. They're not going to be able to differentiate between Mama and Mom Mom.

And yeah, I want to be my kids only "Mom." Call me petty but that's how I feel! She already has two kids to call her Mom.

MIL is not a bitch and we have a fine relationship. This will not cause years of drama so no worries.

she may not be, but you are exhibiting the tendencies if this is something worth complaining about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom goes by Gigi, and tells everyone who will listen it stands for Gorgeous Grandma. It could be worse, OP. That said, I don't love Mom-Mom, not b/c it's confusing but because I don't like the sound of it.
Is she actually asking your opinion?

OP here. I wouldn't mind Gigi. She said "what do you guys think?" in her email.

For those saying it's not confusing...I'm thinking about a little kid learning to talk. They're not going to be able to differentiate between Mama and Mom Mom.

And yeah, I want to be my kids only "Mom." Call me petty but that's how I feel! She already has two kids to call her Mom.

MIL is not a bitch and we have a fine relationship. This will not cause years of drama so no worries.

So why bother posting and asking opinions?