Is it okay to veto "Mom-mom" for a grandmother name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people are ridiculous. Let grandma pick the nickname she wants to go by. I've heard Mom-mom before. The last time I heard it it was given by a little toddler who was told that the grandma was "Mom's mom" and she just started calling her Mom-mom. It's perfectly fine. There will not be a confusion over who is the mother and who is the grandmother.

Nope, the parents get to pick the names they want to go by, and if they don’t want a certain grandparent name, that’s what goes. What with this being their child and all. Don’t like it? You don’t have to visit. Or perhaps we will have our child call you by your first name. Let us know if you change your mind.

[Anonymous]

How about gram gram?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the mother of 3 girls. I am Mom-mom to my grands. I am their Mom’s Mom. My daughter gave me the name for that reason.

Whyyyy did you resurrect this old thread????

She had to go back two years to find something and get worked up.

8 years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In lower Delaware (Sussex County) the grandmothers are called Mom-Mom Smith and Mom-Mom Jones.

Mom-Mom is pronounced kind of fast.

It sounds almost like MumMum pronounced fast.

Was gonna say just this. I grew up with someone whose family was from Cape May, and they called their grandma Mom Mom (pronounced MumMum). It’s not as unusual as OP thinks.

[Anonymous]

I like grams.

I don't like mom-mom either, and would definitely veto that. Other people wouldn't get what my kid was talking about when they said mom-mom at school, and I wouldn't want people thinking I was the one doing the weird stuff the grandma did.

In my case I vetoed oma and found a name that wannabe oma grandma liked even better. I was the inlaw, but her kids' kids used it too.

[Anonymous]

My mom is Mom-Mom to my now grown sons. There wasn't ever any confusion at all. As an older mom, I kindly say to get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

As several have mentioned, Mom-Mom is a popular choice for Philadelphia-area families. Generally the grandparent selects their name or the first grandkid just starts calling the grandparent by a name and it sticks!

[Anonymous]

She is going to be a constant problem, this is only the beginning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds insecure and controlling. In my mother tongue, the word for maternal grandmother is literally mom mom.

Also, OP’s kid is 8 now. Hopefully she has learned to let go a little by now.

Perhaps your mother tongue is not the op's mother tongue.

You are the insecure one.

[Anonymous]

My husband called his grandmother "mom-mom" so that is what my kids called her (as did I). They called MIL mom-mom plus her last name to distinguish between the two. After their grandmother passed they eventually started calling MIL "mom mom" without her last name. My kids were never confused about who was their mom.

[Anonymous]

As others have said its regional. My grandma was mommom and my mom is mommom. It never occured to me that it would be confusing or encroaching, but my mom is an angel and an amazing grandma.

[Anonymous]

We are going with Lolly and Pop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As several have mentioned, Mom-Mom is a popular choice for Philadelphia-area families. Generally the grandparent selects their name or the first grandkid just starts calling the grandparent by a name and it sticks!

Yes, Grandmom and Mom-mom are very popular in southeastern Pennsylvania, Delaware, and middle to southern New Jersey.

It’s kind of sad to not allow a grandparent to be called whatever they want to be called. And there’s a big helping of misogyny here in treating an older woman as though her preferences don’t matter.

And, yes, I get that it’s an old OP, but the points remain relevant. Treat people the way you want to be treated and you can be more peaceful with yourself.

[Anonymous]

What’s her name? Say she’s Jane, she could just be Janie or Jane-Jane if it isn’t already her nn. I saw this recently.

[Anonymous]

Boomers need to get over their aversion to the word Grandma. They don't want to feel old so they're trying to get young-sounding names. At least she doesn't want to be Glam-ma! Yes, I have a friend whose MIL wanted to be Glam-ma!! My own MIL refused to be Grandma because it made her sound too old (newsflash, lady, you ARE old), she wanted Gigi, but DH thought that was stupid, so we suggested Nana.