Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then how about you offer some advice on contacting them? That was the first thing that came to mind.

You guys have been mostly useless. I have one simple question and you guys are going off on tangents. Pull it together. If you don't have advice, go post on another thread.

No, you have been tone deaf. This is not your battle to wage. Your daughter needs the skills to stand up to unwanted attention/contact, since she will likely face that most of her life. That is your role here. Not policing the boy's behavior.

FYI, a slap on the butt is NOT sexual assault. Please don't call it that, and please don't teach your daughter to cry rape every time someone taps her on the shoulder. There are women who have actually experienced sexual assault, and we don't appreciate your minimizing it in that way.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then how about you offer some advice on contacting them? That was the first thing that came to mind.

You guys have been mostly useless. I have one simple question and you guys are going off on tangents. Pull it together. If you don't have advice, go post on another thread.

No, you have been tone deaf. This is not your battle to wage. Your daughter needs the skills to stand up to unwanted attention/contact, since she will likely face that most of her life. That is your role here. Not policing the boy's behavior.

FYI, a slap on the butt is NOT sexual assault. Please don't call it that, and please don't teach your daughter to cry rape every time someone taps her on the shoulder. There are women who have actually experienced sexual assault, and we don't appreciate your minimizing it in that way.

hear hear. keep your eye on the ball here, OP: parenting your daughter to deal with life. You are too focused on punishing this boy when that is not going to solve anything. Even if you knew his address, what then? What is your endgame here with the other parents, and how does it not end with your daughter even more embarrassed than she already is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the principal of the school know and leave it at that. Yes, school is over, but the principal has not fallen off of the face of the earth.

Most 13 year old girls would be horrified for their mothers to go to the principal over something like this. Seriously, let your daughter show done maturity and stand up for herself. You know, your daughter may have been grabbing this kids ass and you could be opening up a can of worms that you wish had been left alone.

[Anonymous]

Are you going to be watching your daughters butt her whole life ready to call someone to handle it for her?

She gets her butt slapped by boys who treat her like she is an object and then she gets her head patted by her mom who thinks she can't do anything for herself...

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure who is crazier - the boys-will-be-boys posters, or the call the police posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the principal of the school know and leave it at that. Yes, school is over, but the principal has not fallen off of the face of the earth.

Most 13 year old girls would be horrified for their mothers to go to the principal over something like this. Seriously, let your daughter show done maturity and stand up for herself. You know, your daughter may have been grabbing this kids ass and you could be opening up a can of worms that you wish had been left alone.

Or she or one of her friends might have mentioned a crush. The boy might have a crush. This was not out of the blue, these are also young forming minds.

Sexual assault? Rape? Are you people for real?

se smith is that you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure who is crazier - the boys-will-be-boys posters, or the call the police posters.

The only people who said "boys will be boys" are the crazy police posters. Others are saying this is pretty normal middle school behavior and is a teachable moment for OPs daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure who is crazier - the boys-will-be-boys posters, or the call the police posters.

+1!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you going to be watching your daughters butt her whole life ready to call someone to handle it for her?

She gets her butt slapped by boys who treat her like she is an object and then she gets her head patted by her mom who thinks she can't do anything for herself...

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes, let's lock up the 12 year old boy. He's a sex offender. How ridiculous. OP, go have a talk with his parents and the principle. That is enough.

That won't happen to a 12 year old boy. He may be investigated. Possibly, but highly unlikely, detained as a juvenile. Which is nowhere near the same as an arrest. I don't agree with the police at this point but don't get so alarmist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the principal of the school know and leave it at that. Yes, school is over, but the principal has not fallen off of the face of the earth.

Most 13 year old girls would be horrified for their mothers to go to the principal over something like this. Seriously, let your daughter show done maturity and stand up for herself. You know, your daughter may have been grabbing this kids ass and you could be opening up a can of worms that you wish had been left alone.

Or she or one of her friends might have mentioned a crush. The boy might have a crush. This was not out of the blue, these are also young forming minds.

Sexual assault? Rape? Are you people for real?

se smith is that you?

Would you like it if your coworker smacked your ass?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yes, let's lock up the 12 year old boy. He's a sex offender. How ridiculous. OP, go have a talk with his parents and the principle. That is enough.

That won't happen to a 12 year old boy. He may be investigated. Possibly, but highly unlikely, detained as a juvenile. Which is nowhere near the same as an arrest. I don't agree with the police at this point but don't get so alarmist.

It was sarcasm.

[Anonymous]

Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the principal of the school know and leave it at that. Yes, school is over, but the principal has not fallen off of the face of the earth.

Most 13 year old girls would be horrified for their mothers to go to the principal over something like this. Seriously, let your daughter show done maturity and stand up for herself. You know, your daughter may have been grabbing this kids ass and you could be opening up a can of worms that you wish had been left alone.

Or she or one of her friends might have mentioned a crush. The boy might have a crush. This was not out of the blue, these are also young forming minds.

Sexual assault? Rape? Are you people for real?

se smith is that you?

Would you like it if your coworker smacked your ass?

Well, I'm a SAHM, so my coworker is my DH. So yes, I would like it.

Also, since when do we hold adult behavior to the standard of middle school behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, don't be so sure that your daughter and her friends haven't been up to their own inappropriate behavior with this boy and his friends.

I found it very suspect that she had no idea who any of the boys were, yet they go to her school.

Your daughter might not be telling the entire truth here.