A mother in law who is jealous of me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you sound deranged.

No she doesn't I completely get what she is saying. Troll

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[Anonymous]

You must think highly of yourself to assume she is jealous. Maybe she just doesn't like you. Maybe she just doesn't agree with you. Maybe she just has an opinion that you don't agree with, don't like to hear, are hurt by. Maybe some of the stuff she says is actually true and that's why it bothers you so much but now you are looking for reassurance from us that you are right, you are awesome and she is horrible. Who knows. But jealous? Why should she be jealous, you said it yourself! She's got no reason to be jealous. So maybe it's something else...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must think highly of yourself to assume she is jealous. Maybe she just doesn't like you. Maybe she just doesn't agree with you. Maybe she just has an opinion that you don't agree with, don't like to hear, are hurt by. Maybe some of the stuff she says is actually true and that's why it bothers you so much but now you are looking for reassurance from us that you are right, you are awesome and she is horrible. Who knows. But jealous? Why should she be jealous, you said it yourself! She's got no reason to be jealous. So maybe it's something else...

She sounds jealous and a little intimidated or both. The examples given to me scream that she feels insecure and needs to reflect the attention back on herself, however she can get it. My own MIL was this way until she met someone 6 years ago and now happily resides in Palm Springs with her new H. Works great for us, we only see her for Christmas, Easter and occasionally one other tine.

She is much happier now so her attitude has really shifted in a good way, normally that kind of behavior indicates a deeper rooted issue within themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You must think highly of yourself to assume she is jealous. Maybe she just doesn't like you. Maybe she just doesn't agree with you. Maybe she just has an opinion that you don't agree with, don't like to hear, are hurt by. Maybe some of the stuff she says is actually true and that's why it bothers you so much but now you are looking for reassurance from us that you are right, you are awesome and she is horrible. Who knows. But jealous? Why should she be jealous, you said it yourself! She's got no reason to be jealous. So maybe it's something else...

She sounds jealous and a little intimidated or both. The examples given to me scream that she feels insecure and needs to reflect the attention back on herself, however she can get it. My own MIL was this way until she met someone 6 years ago and now happily resides in Palm Springs with her new H. Works great for us, we only see her for Christmas, Easter and occasionally one other tine.

She is much happier now so her attitude has really shifted in a good way, normally that kind of behavior indicates a deeper rooted issue within themselves.

+1

On. The. Money.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you sound deranged.

No she doesn't I completely get what she is saying. Troll

Bolded post replicates the OPs problematic grammar.

What the hell is wrong with you? Why do you feel the need to be so mean to the OP? Maybe you are jealous of op too? You and the pp who called op deranged.

And anyone who is so incredibly rude to a complete stranger on the Internet ought to be careful about who they are calling deranged...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't sound like jealousy to me as much as maybe she just doesn't like you.

THIS!

Get over it and don't be so super sensitive to her. My MIL is a gazillion times worse and a complete horror and I manage to get along with her at least.

[Anonymous]

OP there is no doubt that she is both jealous and intimidated but more than anything shes not feeling good about herself. I really believe that. When you feel good about who you are you want to project that onto others and make them feel good too.

And when you don't well..it creates a monster. Sounds like DH needs to have a heart to heart with his deal old mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must think highly of yourself to assume she is jealous. Maybe she just doesn't like you. Maybe she just doesn't agree with you. Maybe she just has an opinion that you don't agree with, don't like to hear, are hurt by. Maybe some of the stuff she says is actually true and that's why it bothers you so much but now you are looking for reassurance from us that you are right, you are awesome and she is horrible. Who knows. But jealous? Why should she be jealous, you said it yourself! She's got no reason to be jealous. So maybe it's something else...

Good God: a s we tell our small children: "you don't have to like them, but you do have to be NICE."

MIL is certainly old enough to know better, OP!

[Anonymous]

I think it is natural for MIL's to feel jealous of the new woman in DH's life.

It is not natural for MILs to handle it in a toxic manner.

Keep your distance if she acts out toward you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you sound deranged.

I do? Really? How so?

Also forgot the clencher!!! I went back to school this past year for my masters. She did not think it was a good idea...never really stated why. The other night at dinner my husband brought up how proud he is of me, etc....and she said "whats the point really" I mean are you actually planning to work, x"? I said yes of course once the kids get older, I would love to go back and restart my career and her words verbatim were " Lets be honest, you married a rich man, will never have a money issue, you don't need to work for money and you and I both know that you are only doing this to prove that you can. I couldn't speak for a full five minutes. My H and I were floored.

mil is not jealous of you. SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU.

I would agree with this but I will also add that since your husband seems equally appalled with her comments and attitude that her not liking you is HER PROBLEM and you all are doing a good job of ignoring it. Don't deal with it, just ignore. And this is from a person who is generally not in favor of the rigid boundaries and what not that many espouse on this board!

[Anonymous]

just be polite, stop trying to be friends with her,

[Anonymous]

Who the heck cares if this psycho MIL "doesn't like you" - no loss there!

I say she is jealous. Ignore her. She is insignificant. If she wants to play nice, that is one thing - but as long as she is being so difficult, she is persona non grata.