$500 valentine's dinner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

But interested in what??? If I go on multiple dates with someone and they don't even kiss me, I don't see a romantic/physical connection developing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

But interested in what??? If I go on multiple dates with someone and they don't even kiss me, I don't see a romantic/physical connection developing.

He believes all that crap about how women hate guys who are just interested in sex. So he's trying to be a gentlemen. He didn't get the subtext that women want a man to be a gentleman until they don't want him to be a gentleman any more. He didn't recognize if/when the light switched from red to green.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

But interested in what??? If I go on multiple dates with someone and they don't even kiss me, I don't see a romantic/physical connection developing.

He believes all that crap about how women hate guys who are just interested in sex. So he's trying to be a gentlemen. He didn't get the subtext that women want a man to be a gentleman until they don't want him to be a gentleman any more. He didn't recognize if/when the light switched from red to green.

From what the OP said, I'm not sure if the light did switch from green to red for her. But if he keeps this up, and is a gentleman, I think it will.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

But interested in what??? If I go on multiple dates with someone and they don't even kiss me, I don't see a romantic/physical connection developing.

He believes all that crap about how women hate guys who are just interested in sex. So he's trying to be a gentlemen. He didn't get the subtext that women want a man to be a gentleman until they don't want him to be a gentleman any more. He didn't recognize if/when the light switched from red to green.

From what the OP said, I'm not sure if the light did switch from green to red for her. But if he keeps this up, and is a gentleman, I think it will.

Yeah, reading this thread I'm not sure it's clear that Mr. Gentleman Big Bucks has been given the green light from the OP. Given her wariness of the Big Date I'm guessing that maybe she's giving off a tentative vibe? I could be wrong.

But not even going for a goodnight kiss seems a little "too" gentlemanly to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

But interested in what??? If I go on multiple dates with someone and they don't even kiss me, I don't see a romantic/physical connection developing.

He believes all that crap about how women hate guys who are just interested in sex. So he's trying to be a gentlemen. He didn't get the subtext that women want a man to be a gentleman until they don't want him to be a gentleman any more. He didn't recognize if/when the light switched from red to green.

From what the OP said, I'm not sure if the light did switch from green to red for her. But if he keeps this up, and is a gentleman, I think it will.

Yeah, reading this thread I'm not sure it's clear that Mr. Gentleman Big Bucks has been given the green light from the OP. Given her wariness of the Big Date I'm guessing that maybe she's giving off a tentative vibe? I could be wrong.

But not even going for a goodnight kiss seems a little "too" gentlemanly to me.[/quote]

Yes! You want to feel like he's really dying to kiss you, don't you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

But interested in what??? If I go on multiple dates with someone and they don't even kiss me, I don't see a romantic/physical connection developing.

He believes all that crap about how women hate guys who are just interested in sex. So he's trying to be a gentlemen. He didn't get the subtext that women want a man to be a gentleman until they don't want him to be a gentleman any more. He didn't recognize if/when the light switched from red to green.

From what the OP said, I'm not sure if the light did switch from green to red for her. But if he keeps this up, and is a gentleman, I think it will.

Yeah, reading this thread I'm not sure it's clear that Mr. Gentleman Big Bucks has been given the green light from the OP. Given her wariness of the Big Date I'm guessing that maybe she's giving off a tentative vibe? I could be wrong.

But not even going for a goodnight kiss seems a little "too" gentlemanly to me.

Not necessarily. As a female, if I know someone is into me, and I'm not sure about them, it makes me nervous and kind of worried about whether they will try to make a big move, how I will react, etc. When they pull that energy back and dont make a move, it allows me to stop worrying and start focusing on the conversation and just learn about them as a person. In general, that really increases the attraction for me. After I while I might even start getting impatient! Happened with my ex... him backing off and never making a move led me from uncertainty about him to wanting to jump his bones!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested

Exactly.

But interested in what??? If I go on multiple dates with someone and they don't even kiss me, I don't see a romantic/physical connection developing.

He believes all that crap about how women hate guys who are just interested in sex. So he's trying to be a gentlemen. He didn't get the subtext that women want a man to be a gentleman until they don't want him to be a gentleman any more. He didn't recognize if/when the light switched from red to green.

From what the OP said, I'm not sure if the light did switch from green to red for her. But if he keeps this up, and is a gentleman, I think it will.

Yeah, reading this thread I'm not sure it's clear that Mr. Gentleman Big Bucks has been given the green light from the OP. Given her wariness of the Big Date I'm guessing that maybe she's giving off a tentative vibe? I could be wrong.

But not even going for a goodnight kiss seems a little "too" gentlemanly to me.

Not necessarily. As a female, if I know someone is into me, and I'm not sure about them, it makes me nervous and kind of worried about whether they will try to make a big move, how I will react, etc. When they pull that energy back and dont make a move, it allows me to stop worrying and start focusing on the conversation and just learn about them as a person. In general, that really increases the attraction for me. After I while I might even start getting impatient! Happened with my ex... him backing off and never making a move led me from uncertainty about him to wanting to jump his bones!

There you have it. That's why he's Mr. Big Bucks. He's a genius!

His name isn't Christian, is it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

This is so sweet OP! Your post has reaffirmed my faith in men! I suppose there are some good guys out there after all!

Are you attracted to him at all? This guy sounds like fantastic husband material- you just know he would treat you right!

You don't want to marry the guy who looks good on paper but who doesn't get you all hot and bothered. Unfair to you, unfair to him.

Well that's what I've always thought yet I remain single. I'm wondering if I should try something different this time. I've always heard you should marry someone who loves you more.

But you also don't want to marry a man who leaves you hot and bothered but can't commit, isn't a gentleman, etc. I suppose you want a happy medium?

For the record,my husband took me on a bunch of nice dates when we were first dating. I never assumed he was doing so to get some. Now he definitely wanted to get some and as a result of spending time with me, did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:he's expecting buns, hun.

His anaconda don't...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

This is so sweet OP! Your post has reaffirmed my faith in men! I suppose there are some good guys out there after all!

Are you attracted to him at all? This guy sounds like fantastic husband material- you just know he would treat you right!

You don't want to marry the guy who looks good on paper but who doesn't get you all hot and bothered. Unfair to you, unfair to him.

Well that's what I've always thought yet I remain single. I'm wondering if I should try something different this time. I've always heard you should marry someone who loves you more.

if everyone followed that, no one would ever get married.

[Anonymous]

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For the record,my husband took me on a bunch of nice dates when we were first dating. I never assumed he was doing so to get some.

There may be a number of reasons why a man dates a woman. But getting some is, almost without fail, somewhere on that list.

[Anonymous]

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For the record,my husband took me on a bunch of nice dates when we were first dating. I never assumed he was doing so to get some.

There may be a number of reasons why a man dates a woman. But getting some is, almost without fail, somewhere on that list.

If it wasn't somewhere on the list I'd be concerned!