$500 valentine's dinner

[Anonymous]

Not awkward if he can afford it. If he can afford it, then he probably knows how to wine and dine with no expectations.

Maybe you got lucky and you have a date with a guy who knows how to romance a woman!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's always possible that the $ aren't that big a deal to him, and he's happy to have the company with whom to enjoy a nice restaurant.

It's possible.

This was my first thought, because I know somene like this. He's a colleague and friend, and simply really enjoys amazing food and wine. He's been very generous in taking me out to dinner several times, and the bills are astronomical, but it's what he enjoys and he's definitely not trying to impress me or get into my pants.

I realize it's different in OP's case because it's actually a date, but my first thought was that the guy may be similar to my friend.

Man, that guy is deep in the friend zone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's always possible that the $ aren't that big a deal to him, and he's happy to have the company with whom to enjoy a nice restaurant.

It's possible.

This was my first thought, because I know somene like this. He's a colleague and friend, and simply really enjoys amazing food and wine. He's been very generous in taking me out to dinner several times, and the bills are astronomical, but it's what he enjoys and he's definitely not trying to impress me or get into my pants.

I realize it's different in OP's case because it's actually a date, but my first thought was that the guy may be similar to my friend.

It didn't strike me as that odd either. There are lots of people who frequent such places. Moreover, there are lots of places in this range. Remember though that many have less expensive, not as advertised, options, so follow his lead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you eat knowing the guy sitting in front of you is thinking about f'king you? I mean that sounds really wrong to me, no?

I do this all the time. My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you eat knowing the guy sitting in front of you is thinking about f'king you? I mean that sounds really wrong to me, no?

It is not a rare phenomenon. Women get used to it.

[Anonymous]

Does he make a ton of money? I could see a young guy making $250k dropping $500 on dinner on vday because it seems like what you're supposed to do. If it is not a stretch for him I wouldn't think anything of it.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what he makes but we decided to go somewhere less pricey (and with a better menu IMO). I feel much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what he makes but we decided to go somewhere less pricey (and with a better menu IMO). I feel much better.

Hope you don't have an inferiority complex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what he makes but we decided to go somewhere less pricey (and with a better menu IMO). I feel much better.

Hope you don't have an inferiority complex.

What do you mean? I just thought it was a lot to spend on someone he just met.

[Anonymous]

When my DH and I were newly dating he was going to take me to Inn at LW for our first v day. We ended up not going because he had to extend a work trip and that caused us to miss the reservation so I cooked at his house. It was nice anyway.

Back then money was no object. Now, he's left
Big law, and we are happier and freer with our time but no way would money be no object these days.

In short, do it! You never know if you'll go again.

[Anonymous]

If it's this early on in the courtship, you should not be going out on Valentine's Day!!!! Too much pressure, too much to infer, too many expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it's this early on in the courtship, you should not be going out on Valentine's Day!!!! Too much pressure, too much to infer, too many expectations.

Agree, if you have not even kissed yet, you shouldn't be going out anywhere tonight. If I was just a couple dates into it, I would've moved the date to last night or Sunday or something. Having it today is just too much pressure, despite the restaurant you are going to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what he makes but we decided to go somewhere less pricey (and with a better menu IMO). I feel much better.

Where? Ruth's Chris Steakhouse in Bethesda? We'll all be there by 10pm with our toddlers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what he makes but we decided to go somewhere less pricey (and with a better menu IMO). I feel much better.

Expectations downgraded to blowjob/handjob only. 3rd base.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's always possible that the $ aren't that big a deal to him, and he's happy to have the company with whom to enjoy a nice restaurant.

It's possible.

This was my first thought, because I know somene like this. He's a colleague and friend, and simply really enjoys amazing food and wine. He's been very generous in taking me out to dinner several times, and the bills are astronomical, but it's what he enjoys and he's definitely not trying to impress me or get into my pants.

I realize it's different in OP's case because it's actually a date, but my first thought was that the guy may be similar to my friend.

Man, that guy is deep in the friend zone.

Well, I'm married, so yes, he is.