$500 valentine's dinner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP if he really stood you up--so sorry. But he wasn't right the head in the first place to propose to take you to such an expensive place on a first date. Did you suggest the place, by any chance? Maybe he googled it saw the menu and the price range and just bailed. Lesson learned for both of you though.

ok re-reading your post I see that he suggested it and it wasn't the first date. But by even proposing such a date something is off--he was trying to manipulate you--and then realized he didn't have the cajones to take the rejection if it came--which it would if you haven't even kissed. Guy sounds like he has some major performance issues if he hasn't even tried to kiss you. How old are the two of you? If the guy's over 21 and he can't get up the nerve to kiss you--run the other way, seriously.

[Anonymous]

Guy here: in days gone by before I married, if I took someone to an expensive restaurant there was a clear expectation that she would put out. And she did every single time without exception.

Had some of the best sex ever after such dates - combination of wine, great food and ambiance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP if he really stood you up--so sorry. But he wasn't right the head in the first place to propose to take you to such an expensive place on a first date. Did you suggest the place, by any chance? Maybe he googled it saw the menu and the price range and just bailed. Lesson learned for both of you though.


ok re-reading your post I see that he suggested it and it wasn't the first date. But by even proposing such a date something is off--he was trying to manipulate you--and then realized he didn't have the cajones to take the rejection if it came--which it would if you haven't even kissed. Guy sounds like he has some major performance issues if he hasn't even tried to kiss you. How old are the two of you? If the guy's over 21 and he can't get up the nerve to kiss you--run the other way, seriously.

LOL getting some one to buy you a meal is manipulation. If she ain't into him, why does she go out with him? Why would anyone think it is right to use someone for free stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a proper courting. He wants to impress, let him. You are under no obligation for sex. I say, go, have fun. Live a little.

Exactly. What's the big deal?! Enjoy the evening and be yourself.

x3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The bastard stood me up.

Can you give us more details?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here: in days gone by before I married, if I took someone to an expensive restaurant there was a clear expectation that she would put out. And she did every single time without exception.

Had some of the best sex ever after such dates - combination of wine, great food and ambiance.

Yay you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guy here: in days gone by before I married, if I took someone to an expensive restaurant there was a clear expectation that she would put out. And she did every single time without exception.

Had some of the best sex ever after such dates - combination of wine, great food and ambiance.

Yay you!

Different poster here...agree with the best sex after great dinners. As I said once to a male friend who begged to go to Komi with me, "I've never went with anyone of the opposite gender to Komi and NOT had sex with them, and I don't want to sleep with you, so we aren't going."

[Anonymous]

Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

This is so sweet OP! Your post has reaffirmed my faith in men! I suppose there are some good guys out there after all!

Are you attracted to him at all? This guy sounds like fantastic husband material- you just know he would treat you right!

[Anonymous]

Yay! So happy for you OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

Not loaded but a $500 dinner and paid for a babysitter (guessing that was $50), right.........

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

This is so sweet OP! Your post has reaffirmed my faith in men! I suppose there are some good guys out there after all!

Are you attracted to him at all? This guy sounds like fantastic husband material- you just know he would treat you right!

You don't want to marry the guy who looks good on paper but who doesn't get you all hot and bothered. Unfair to you, unfair to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

This is so sweet OP! Your post has reaffirmed my faith in men! I suppose there are some good guys out there after all!

Are you attracted to him at all? This guy sounds like fantastic husband material- you just know he would treat you right!

You don't want to marry the guy who looks good on paper but who doesn't get you all hot and bothered. Unfair to you, unfair to him.

Well that's what I've always thought yet I remain single. I'm wondering if I should try something different this time. I've always heard you should marry someone who loves you more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um he did NOT stand me up! That was not me.

He picked me up. We went for a lovely dinner. He was kind and well-mannered and polite and generous, complimentary and engaging. We ate and drank a lot and laughed and had a nice time. He did not try to kiss me at the end of the night and he even paid for the babysitter! He is a very nice person, not loaded. He likes me a lot.

-OP

This is so sweet OP! Your post has reaffirmed my faith in men! I suppose there are some good guys out there after all!

Are you attracted to him at all? This guy sounds like fantastic husband material- you just know he would treat you right!

You don't want to marry the guy who looks good on paper but who doesn't get you all hot and bothered. Unfair to you, unfair to him.

Well that's what I've always thought yet I remain single. I'm wondering if I should try something different this time. I've always heard you should marry someone who loves you more.

If he still didn't kiss you, I would think he's just not that into you. Since when is not kissing someone a sign that they like you???

[Anonymous]

Um, I don't think you spend$300 on a valentines dinner if you're not interested