"Engagement" ring years after the fact? Yay or nay?

[Anonymous]

You aren't asking for an engagement ring. You are already married. Asking for a diamond ring is not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe carve away $$$ from the fund you use for the nice big gifts you get him. By your 20th anniversary, you can have your own custom ring that "he" bought for you.

You've been married long enough... You know how this works. He is not going to want to spend money on a ring now. He is over it.

This is OP. Yeah, well, that very thought makes me boiling mad. He can have his ringless marriage, then, but it will also be "--less" in other ways too.

Um, wow. You sound like a real bitch. Just buy your own damn ring and stop blaming your husband because YOU changed your mind 15 years in.

[Anonymous]

I love how OP never came back!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, you are too harsh to sound reasonable

"cheapskate", "insensitive jerk"?

He asked re: how much you were wanting him to spend to get an idea of what would satisfy you. There are diamonds rings for $1,000 or diamond rings for $10,000. You're mad at the way it was phrased?

This. And the threat of no sex because of this isn't even a funny joke!

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it, because I didn't have an engagement ring either. Years later, I bought one for myself - didn't involve DH, just informed him. It is a three-stone ring, diamond in the center, emeralds on each side. I love it.

I think you should just buy yourself a ring of whatever kind you want. Don't pre-set the price - just go jewelry-shopping and choose what you like and can afford. Done and done.