1st grade boy never eats his packed lunch...need other viewpoints, pls - DH is so frustrated

[Anonymous]

You're kind of nutty. Give him a freaking pb&j. It's better that he actually eat something. It's like you're just looking for conflict here. Good lord...he's in 1st grade!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm beginning to wonder why DS is so agreeable and not asserting himself with DH. DS seems overly concerned with pleasing dad. Are there deeper dynamics going on?

OP here. Nope. DS is just the world's easiest child with the sunniest disposition ever. Seriously. People are constantly telling me I have the happiest child they've ever met. He is a joy...except he doesn't eat his lunch.

So. An update:
DS got a PB&J on Wednesday and ate every bite.
DH offered a hot dog (why???) on Thursday and DS said yes. DH sent the hot dog. DS did not eat it.

PB&Js from now on!!!

LOL I can just picture your DH's face. Give it up! You will never win!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does the kid say?

The problem is that he's the world's most agreeable child. So every day he says "yes, daddy, I totally want mac & cheese today, I promise I will eat it"...and then he brings it back home with him. But he always eats the PB&J!

I do think the time thing is a major issue. They get like 25 minutes to eat and this kid moves slowly. He also may or may not be talking off the ear of every one of his tablemates.

I am glad to hear that others feel like I do - but I'm open to other viewpoints, too! Thanks!

I took away the things DD loved when we went thru the not eating phase. Don't eat lunch? Bye bye TV. Bye bye IPAD. Worked for me.

Way to encourage an eating disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does the kid say?

The problem is that he's the world's most agreeable child. So every day he says "yes, daddy, I totally want mac & cheese today, I promise I will eat it"...and then he brings it back home with him. But he always eats the PB&J!

I do think the time thing is a major issue. They get like 25 minutes to eat and this kid moves slowly. He also may or may not be talking off the ear of every one of his tablemates.

I am glad to hear that others feel like I do - but I'm open to other viewpoints, too! Thanks!

I took away the things DD loved when we went thru the not eating phase. Don't eat lunch? Bye bye TV. Bye bye IPAD. Worked for me.

Way to encourage an eating disorder.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm beginning to wonder why DS is so agreeable and not asserting himself with DH. DS seems overly concerned with pleasing dad. Are there deeper dynamics going on?

OP here. Nope. DS is just the world's easiest child with the sunniest disposition ever. Seriously. People are constantly telling me I have the happiest child they've ever met. He is a joy...except he doesn't eat his lunch.

So. An update:
DS got a PB&J on Wednesday and ate every bite.
DH offered a hot dog (why???) on Thursday and DS said yes. DH sent the hot dog. DS did not eat it.

PB&Js from now on!!!

LOL I can just picture your DH's face. Give it up! You will never win!

Ewww. A cold hot dog? No wonder he doesn't eat the stuff dad packs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm beginning to wonder why DS is so agreeable and not asserting himself with DH. DS seems overly concerned with pleasing dad. Are there deeper dynamics going on?

OP here. Nope. DS is just the world's easiest child with the sunniest disposition ever. Seriously. People are constantly telling me I have the happiest child they've ever met. He is a joy...except he doesn't eat his lunch.

So. An update:
DS got a PB&J on Wednesday and ate every bite.
DH offered a hot dog (why???) on Thursday and DS said yes. DH sent the hot dog. DS did not eat it.

PB&Js from now on!!!

Your DH is a complete idiot. Would you eat a cold hotdog after 4 or 5 hours of it sitting in your purse? No, you wouldn't. He doesn't need to pack lunches anymore. Give him something else to do, seriously. Idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm beginning to wonder why DS is so agreeable and not asserting himself with DH. DS seems overly concerned with pleasing dad. Are there deeper dynamics going on?

OP here. Nope. DS is just the world's easiest child with the sunniest disposition ever. Seriously. People are constantly telling me I have the happiest child they've ever met. He is a joy...except he doesn't eat his lunch.

So. An update:
DS got a PB&J on Wednesday and ate every bite.
DH offered a hot dog (why???) on Thursday and DS said yes. DH sent the hot dog. DS did not eat it.

PB&Js from now on!!!

Your DH is a complete idiot. Would you eat a cold hotdog after 4 or 5 hours of it sitting in your purse? No, you wouldn't. He doesn't need to pack lunches anymore. Give him something else to do, seriously. Idiot.

DH is seriously uniformed if he thinks a hot dog is healthier than a PBJ. Why does he insist on packing the lunches? (Why he insists on making this such a power struggle is another set of questions entirely.)

[Anonymous]

I wonder if part of the issue isn't thinking PB&J are unhealthy so much as thinking a lack of variety is unhealthy?

But as long as he's getting a varied breakfast & dinner, 5 PB&Js a week isn't going to hurt him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if part of the issue isn't thinking PB&J are unhealthy so much as thinking a lack of variety is unhealthy?

But as long as he's getting a varied breakfast & dinner, 5 PB&Js a week isn't going to hurt him.

And so you throw a hit dog into the mix, just for "variety"?

[Anonymous]

School lunch ! At our school it's very economical, allows kids to choose what they want that day, and avoids having you know what he's wading to avoid frustration.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm beginning to wonder why DS is so agreeable and not asserting himself with DH. DS seems overly concerned with pleasing dad. Are there deeper dynamics going on?

OP here. Nope. DS is just the world's easiest child with the sunniest disposition ever. Seriously. People are constantly telling me I have the happiest child they've ever met. He is a joy...except he doesn't eat his lunch.

So. An update:
DS got a PB&J on Wednesday and ate every bite.
DH offered a hot dog (why???) on Thursday and DS said yes. DH sent the hot dog. DS did not eat it.

PB&Js from now on!!!

Your DH is a complete idiot. Would you eat a cold hotdog after 4 or 5 hours of it sitting in your purse? No, you wouldn't. He doesn't need to pack lunches anymore. Give him something else to do, seriously. Idiot.

+1 Really. WTF? Why is a hot dog a better option than pb&j? He sounds like a bit of a control freak. He wants it his way, even if there is no good reason.

Have him do something else and you pack lunches, OP.