Are you still emotionally/intellectually/sexually interested in your SAHM wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am reading between the lines of your posting OP, and subliminally I am reading that since your wife decided to stay at home w/your child, you no longer see her as interesting since she no longer holds a job outside of the home.

Thus, staying inside the house all day, caring for a child makes one quite dull.

Considering that she is caring for YOUR child as well, I consider your feelings quite unfair and even borderline cruel.

I'm OP. I'm also a 32 y/o woman who is weighing the pros and cons of staying home with my child.

[b]

No, you have already made the decision to go back to work, which is fine. But you have some guilt about it so you took to this board to trash SAHMs. Typical mommy-war b.s. Whatever you decide doesn't make you a bad mom, but being judgmental makes you a bad person.

With the caveat that my friends are all financially stable and our kids are young, I have yet to hear any man complain their wife stays home. You think men upset they don't have to take time off work for doctor visits, b-day present shopping, grocery store runs, and other routine domestic issues that SAHMs take care of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am reading between the lines of your posting OP, and subliminally I am reading that since your wife decided to stay at home w/your child, you no longer see her as interesting since she no longer holds a job outside of the home.

Thus, staying inside the house all day, caring for a child makes one quite dull.

Considering that she is caring for YOUR child as well, I consider your feelings quite unfair and even borderline cruel.

I'm OP. I'm also a 32 y/o woman who is weighing the pros and cons of staying home with my child.

[b]

No, you have already made the decision to go back to work, which is fine. But you have some guilt about it so you took to this board to trash SAHMs. Typical mommy-war b.s. Whatever you decide doesn't make you a bad mom, but being judgmental makes you a bad person.

With the caveat that my friends are all financially stable and our kids are young, I have yet to hear any man complain their wife stays home. You think men upset they don't have to take time off work for doctor visits, b-day present shopping, grocery store runs, and other routine domestic issues that SAHMs take care of?

How far into your ass did you have to reach to find this s**t?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am reading between the lines of your posting OP, and subliminally I am reading that since your wife decided to stay at home w/your child, you no longer see her as interesting since she no longer holds a job outside of the home.

Thus, staying inside the house all day, caring for a child makes one quite dull.

Considering that she is caring for YOUR child as well, I consider your feelings quite unfair and even borderline cruel.

I'm OP. I'm also a 32 y/o woman who is weighing the pros and cons of staying home with my child.

[b]

No, you have already made the decision to go back to work, which is fine. But you have some guilt about it so you took to this board to trash SAHMs. Typical mommy-war b.s. Whatever you decide doesn't make you a bad mom, but being judgmental makes you a bad person.

Bravo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I wonder if the lack of respect for SAHMs comes from a lack of respect of low-income workers such as nannies, daycare workers, restaurant workers.
The work of taking care of little children, planning and implementing enriching activities, and cooking meal after meal from scratch, (and all the cleaning and dirty dishes, three times a day + snacks, using no convenience foods OMG NEVER AGAIN) all while sticking to a pretty small budget - IT IS WORK. If you had to hire someone to do all of this, you would pay dearly.

I've wondered about this, as well. It doesn't make sense when people say that staying at home with kids isn't a job, but they will glad PAY people to do it b/c it's, you know, their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is more important to talk to H with teens.

My friends have a great amount of respect for their wives that stay home with infant and toddlers and that respect decreases exponentially once the kids are in school. they also lose respect for themselves because they feel like they are being used and have not option but put up with it or get divorced.

This is a very good point.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is more important to talk to H with teens.

My friends have a great amount of respect for their wives that stay home with infant and toddlers and that respect decreases exponentially once the kids are in school. they also lose respect for themselves because they feel like they are being used and have not option but put up with it or get divorced.

This is a very good point.

+1

Oh, please, grow up! If you don't want your wife to stay home, talk to her about it. If your a working mom and you wrote this, you have some issues with your own choices that you need to address.

And stop taking OP seriously. He/she wrote this only to criticize SAHMs and make their own pathetic life feel a little less pathetic for a few minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is more important to talk to H with teens.

My friends have a great amount of respect for their wives that stay home with infant and toddlers and that respect decreases exponentially once the kids are in school. they also lose respect for themselves because they feel like they are being used and have not option but put up with it or get divorced.

This is a very good point.

+1

Written by a bitter WOHM. I know bc I work with them.