Hey! More beach house drama on DCUM!

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Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

[Anonymous]

I'm amazed at how people can't figure out how to make something like this work. Sure, it's not ideal, but isn't not that big of a deal, either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are entitled to one small bedroom. There are 2 other bedrooms, but they will be occupied by the 2 couples paying for the house. We are not paying - I figured we would end up paying for a grocery run.

You wouldn't be "entitled" to anything. You are being graciously offered something.

Bingo. Op, you sound a little bit like an entitled brat. Sorry. I hope you aren't...a brat.

Op here. The word entitled was in response to a question worded "how many rooms are you entitled to".

I'm actually surprised how this post blew up. It has been the other posters calling MIL selfish or cheap. I have said NO such thing. I am concerned about the logistics. MIL does have a tendency to not think things through fully, especially with regards to the kids. She forgets we have them when she plans things. In regards to this entire situation, I do not think she is rude at all. I think she booked the house and invited us as an after thought. Which is a completely valid thing to do. I asked here for tips on making this work or whether we should back out. We have never taken a trip like this and clearly many of you have, and have opinions on how to or if we should make it work.

I appreciate the feedback, and as I stated previously, we will play it by ear and find a way to make it work. I don't see how that makes me the bad guy. Yes, i would rather larger accommodations. Who wouldn't?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We are entitled to one small bedroom. There are 2 other bedrooms, but they will be occupied by the 2 couples paying for the house. We are not paying - I figured we would end up paying for a grocery run.

You wouldn't be "entitled" to anything. You are being graciously offered something.

Bingo. Op, you sound a little bit like an entitled brat. Sorry. I hope you aren't...a brat.

Op here. The word entitled was in response to a question worded "how many rooms are you entitled to".

I'm actually surprised how this post blew up. It has been the other posters calling MIL selfish or cheap. I have said NO such thing. I am concerned about the logistics. MIL does have a tendency to not think things through fully, especially with regards to the kids. She forgets we have them when she plans things. In regards to this entire situation, I do not think she is rude at all. I think she booked the house and invited us as an after thought. Which is a completely valid thing to do. I asked here for tips on making this work or whether we should back out. We have never taken a trip like this and clearly many of you have, and have opinions on how to or if we should make it work.

I appreciate the feedback, and as I stated previously, we will play it by ear and find a way to make it work. I don't see how that makes me the bad guy. Yes, i would rather larger accommodations. Who wouldn't?

OP, thanks for coming back to this hothouse of insanity to add this very reasonable, rational post. You'll be fine, it will be crowded but you'll have fun...and maybe next year the house will be bigger!

[Anonymous]

OP, have a good time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

Seriously. Most of that was irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

Seriously. Most of that was irrelevant.

It was an example. Which shouldn't bother you unless you are one of those greedy SIL's. You are not alone, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

Seriously. Most of that was irrelevant.

It was an example. Which shouldn't bother you unless you are one of those greedy SIL's. You are not alone, OP.

Are you the taken for granted brother or his slighted wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

Seriously. Most of that was irrelevant.

It was an example. Which shouldn't bother you unless you are one of those greedy SIL's. You are not alone, OP.

Are you the taken for granted brother or his slighted wife?

ROFL!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

Seriously. Most of that was irrelevant.

It was an example. Which shouldn't bother you unless you are one of those greedy SIL's. You are not alone, OP.

Are you the taken for granted brother or his slighted wife?

Why is that funny? Unless you are the spoiled SIL. You kind of blew your cover there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

Seriously. Most of that was irrelevant.

It was an example. Which shouldn't bother you unless you are one of those greedy SIL's. You are not alone, OP.

Are you the taken for granted brother or his slighted wife?

Why is that funny? Unless you are the spoiled SIL. You kind of blew your cover there.

Also not the "smart one" in the family

[Anonymous]

Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op said that she plans to contribute grocery $ but doesn't have the $ for a hotel room. This is understandable somehow but the in-laws not forking out $$ for luxury accommodations is somehow "thoughtless", "selfish".

It's not like the in-laws are asking these people to sleep on the kitchen floor. They are getting their own room in a beach house. I say - go and have fun! Or if you think that you won't be able to deal with it stay home. But please don't act bratty, put upon....

Wait, so the choices are: "suck it up", "sleep on the kitchen floor", or "get your own hotel room"????!!! Are you serious? Do you have a family? Do you have parents? Does anyone give a flying care about you? Because you come across as rather crass, mean spirited, bitter and selfish yourself. OP, decline the "invitation". I'd rather rearrange my sock drawer personally. These people are not doing you any favors.

Just because you have less money, doesn't mean you should be treated like a second class citizen. I know someone who gave their sister a great paying job for ten plus years, yet all she did was whine, complain, gossip and basically, look a gift hours in the mouth. There is no way she would have had such a job without her brother; but she is a spoiled brat, used to getting her way or pitching a complete fit. Did I mention she is 50 (!!!) years old. She is so ungrateful, she makes sure her brother ends up in the crappiest room, and she gets the most beautiful spacious room, every trip. Everyone sees her true spoiled colors. She is fooling no one. Every year the brother considers not going. Every year its the same old crap. Being nice to some people gets you less than zero, OP.

Wow -- pp, was that therapuetic?

Seriously. Most of that was irrelevant.

It was an example. Which shouldn't bother you unless you are one of those greedy SIL's. You are not alone, OP.

Are you the taken for granted brother or his slighted wife?

Why is that funny? Unless you are the spoiled SIL. You kind of blew your cover there.

Ha, there is no in between for you is there? A person is either the victim or the villain, right?

Most of us know that there is plenty of middle ground and that we are all responsible for our own happiness. If you have the right attitude, you will always be able to make do and have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Goodness. You and baby sleep in one bed, dh and preschooler in the other.

That took me all of two seconds to figure out.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

"Most of us know that there is plenty of middle ground and that we are all responsible for our own happiness. If you have the right attitude, you will always be able to make do and have fun."

Signed, bitter, deflecting, spoiled SIL who thinks everything is about her. Grow up.