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[Anonymous]

The two twin bed thing is pretty normal for a beach house! We stay at a house like this with friends every year. We bring a long strap and a mattress pad and it's a perfectly good king.

Look for a "lashing strap". Less than $20 and you'll be just fine.

[Anonymous]

Why can't the baby go in with your ILs? Is the DC still waking and nursing? My parents always take our youngest in the pack and play in their room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't the baby go in with your ILs? Is the DC still waking and nursing? My parents always take our youngest in the pack and play in their room.

That would be pretty rude to ask someone else to have a baby in their room, in the house they're paying for, while you pay nothing.

[Anonymous]

My parents' beach house as a similar room as you describe. Rarely are we in the situation where we have to take that room, but here is what we've done.

One twin mattress is removed and stored elsewhere until everyone has gone to bed. Then mattress is put in living room and DH sleeps on it it.

Box spring is propped up against the wall and pack and play is placed in center of bed frame.

Dd and I sleep in the other twin bed.

[Anonymous]

OP again. Thanks all.

No, I'm not worried about twin beds or not sleeping with DH! I am indeed concerned about where any form of portable crib will go. Baby is getting very mobile and I can't just put her down on a twin bed, even with me in it. We're going to have to wing it. The ILs go to bed late (loud tv til midnightish) so the living room isn't a choice either. Baby is a light sleeper, but I'm well aware that that isn't anyone else's concern once we agree to share a house. We have done a shared hotel room with the 4 of us, and while space wasn't a problem we all went to bed ridiculously early, which isn't an option with a house full of people.

So we'll go to honor our commitment and give them time with the grandchildren, and next time DH might listen to me when I suggest that we get all the details before agreeing to anything!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. Thanks all.

No, I'm not worried about twin beds or not sleeping with DH! I am indeed concerned about where any form of portable crib will go. Baby is getting very mobile and I can't just put her down on a twin bed, even with me in it. We're going to have to wing it. The ILs go to bed late (loud tv til midnightish) so the living room isn't a choice either. Baby is a light sleeper, but I'm well aware that that isn't anyone else's concern once we agree to share a house. We have done a shared hotel room with the 4 of us, and while space wasn't a problem we all went to bed ridiculously early, which isn't an option with a house full of people.

So we'll go to honor our commitment and give them time with the grandchildren, and next time DH might listen to me when I suggest that we get all the details before agreeing to anything!

Another pp mentioned this but why not just send DH with your toddler? Win-win for everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yup - new rule for me: free is not worth it cuz it ain't free (just spent 6 days with 11 adults and 5 kids in a 3 bedroom beach condo).

OMG, how could you even

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't the baby go in with your ILs? Is the DC still waking and nursing? My parents always take our youngest in the pack and play in their room.

Are you friggin kidding me???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The two twin bed thing is pretty normal for a beach house! We stay at a house like this with friends every year. We bring a long strap and a mattress pad and it's a perfectly good king.

Look for a "lashing strap". Less than $20 and you'll be just fine.

Don't people hear you using the strap?

[Anonymous]

"Gee Mom and Dad - it sounds like the space is not big enough for all of us no matter how we squish. Can you think of any way to make it work? We hate to disappoint you though so would you want Mike to come with just Mikey?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Gee Mom and Dad - it sounds like the space is not big enough for all of us no matter how we squish. Can you think of any way to make it work? We hate to disappoint you though so would you want Mike to come with just Mikey?"

Incredibly passive aggressive, rude, and perhaps even manipulative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't go. A big part of vacation for me is relaxing in bed so if I can't do that it's not a vacation. Plus one bathroom for 8 people? Hell no. Plus a six hour drive? No fucking way.

That is NOT a vacation!

Amen!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Gee Mom and Dad - it sounds like the space is not big enough for all of us no matter how we squish. Can you think of any way to make it work? We hate to disappoint you though so would you want Mike to come with just Mikey?"

Incredibly passive aggressive, rude, and perhaps even manipulative.

Not really. Very accurate, sticks to the facts of situation with neutral language, and offers a compromise

Grandparents often do no think of the logistics of traveling with little ones. In fairness to them, they haven't had to think about such things in decades.

She asked for details well in advance of the trip, yet had to give a tentative yes before knowing the layout.

12 hrs drive time for 2 days at the beach, which only the toddler will remember seems like a long run for a short slide given the (no)sleeping arrangements.

DH here btw and DH should be the one to politely decline offer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The two twin bed thing is pretty normal for a beach house! We stay at a house like this with friends every year. We bring a long strap and a mattress pad and it's a perfectly good king.

Look for a "lashing strap". Less than $20 and you'll be just fine.

Don't people hear you using the strap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Gee Mom and Dad - it sounds like the space is not big enough for all of us no matter how we squish. Can you think of any way to make it work? We hate to disappoint you though so would you want Mike to come with just Mikey?"

Incredibly passive aggressive, rude, and perhaps even manipulative.

Not really. Very accurate, sticks to the facts of situation with neutral language, and offers a compromise

Grandparents often do no think of the logistics of traveling with little ones. In fairness to them, they haven't had to think about such things in decades.

She asked for details well in advance of the trip, yet had to give a tentative yes before knowing the layout.

12 hrs drive time for 2 days at the beach, which only the toddler will remember seems like a long run for a short slide given the (no)sleeping arrangements.

DH here btw and DH should be the one to politely decline offer

Not at all. You should just straight out ask what you're looking for, instead of being circular and avoiding the direct question you want to ask. "Mom and dad - we'll be uncomfortable in the assigned room. Can we have one of the other rooms? Or can baby sleep with you?"

No need to be evasive - just be direct. But I still think both are incredibly rude when someone's offering you a free room. Either politely decline, or accept the offer as is. Or pay for your own accommodations.