Playdate ettiquette (esp. re lateness)

[Anonymous]

The other mom is probably sick of OP's bullshit. I would be too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm never late and I cannot stand when other people are late. I work hard to get my three kids and huge dog ready to go someplace and arrive on time - and I expect others to do the same. You were WAY WRONG, OP.

You bring your huge dog with you everywhere you go?

15 minutes is NBD. Parents in this area are ridiculously high-maintenance.

Parents where you're from are evidently ridiculously inconsiderate.

I'm from here. Apparently, based on this thread, parents where I'm from think the sun rises and sets on their @ss. I fail to understand how someone being 15 minutes late ruins an entire play date at a park. Are you and your child incapable of entertaining yourselves until the play date arrives? Presumably you go to parks alone sometimes, yes? These responses are somewhat mind-boggling. OP clearly felt there was a health-related reason she had to stop at the store to grab snacks for her child, it's not like she said, "I'll be 15 min late b/c I have to grab a quick pedicure since I'm wearing sandals." You people need to chill out.

OP would arrive 45 minutes late. Not 15 and that assuming she's somehow related to The Flash.

I assume the OP took travel time into account when she told the person she was meeting she would be 15 min late.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the medical condition OP? Why so reluctant to tell us?

It's called special snowflake syndrome. Special snowflake syndrome is very serious, and it kills -- relationships, anyway.

[Anonymous]

OH. MY. GOD.

I had a very hard time deciding on whether to respond to this or DO YOU EVER FIND YOURSELF HAVING A SMUG MARRIED MOMENT? (The starter of THAT thread is a see you next Tuesday)! I chose this. I may go back to that.

You women are witches! Read this thread from page 1 through the end! HONESTLY! I cannot even begin! Is everyone SO SELF-CENTERED?

Okay, first of all I CANNOT STAND PEOPLE WHO ARE TARDY. Maybe OP had a legitimate reason and did not explain herself properly. For one, I am THE ONLY person in my rather extensive group of friends who is ever punctual so I get it. But I would never say "whatever" or leave. I'd wait 15/20 minutes (it's a PLAY DATE for cripes sake - what else are you going to do - go back home and bitch about other moms on DCUM)?

ALL of you who responded sound like 12 year olds - AS does the OP - AS does the woman she was supposed to meet at the park!

I must admit I recently discovered this forum and I am obsessed with it. ONLY because of the IDIOTIC posts I see here every minute! UNBELIEVABLE! I am now driving around town looking at women differently thinking they could be the mean GIRLS posting here!

NASTY, NASTY, NASTY. Why can't anyone on this board be KIND?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess I am in the wrong. She called me back and cancelled.

My kid has a medical condition that means she has to have access to a balanced snack. I prioritized my daughter's health over the plan made so that I could dash into a grocery store to grab something.

If being 15 minutes late to do this is outrageous, I'm glad that I know it now.

You're funny.

You left out the most important part of the story on this thread, so I'm assuming you left it out of your call to the other mom. Instead of saying, essentially, "my daughter already scarfed down all her snacks, so you're going to have to wait for us so I can buy more," you could have said "hey, I am so sorry about this, but my daughter has a medical condition and has to have certain food at certain times of the day, and she went and ate them all at once! I really have to stop at the store for a minute. Will you still be there in 15 minutes!?"

The other mom sounds weird with the "whatever." I'd only say that, and/or cancel, to somebody who repeatedly gives me the shaft (do you do that?). But still, nobody will have any understanding if you're late because your child ate all her snacks already. But they might be more understanding if you explain the situation humbly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OH. MY. GOD.

I had a very hard time deciding on whether to respond to this or DO YOU EVER FIND YOURSELF HAVING A SMUG MARRIED MOMENT? (The starter of THAT thread is a see you next Tuesday)! I chose this. I may go back to that.

You women are witches! Read this thread from page 1 through the end! HONESTLY! I cannot even begin! Is everyone SO SELF-CENTERED?

Okay, first of all I CANNOT STAND PEOPLE WHO ARE TARDY. Maybe OP had a legitimate reason and did not explain herself properly. For one, I am THE ONLY person in my rather extensive group of friends who is ever punctual so I get it. But I would never say "whatever" or leave. I'd wait 15/20 minutes (it's a PLAY DATE for cripes sake - what else are you going to do - go back home and bitch about other moms on DCUM)?

ALL of you who responded sound like 12 year olds - AS does the OP - AS does the woman she was supposed to meet at the park!

I must admit I recently discovered this forum and I am obsessed with it. ONLY because of the IDIOTIC posts I see here every minute! UNBELIEVABLE! I am now driving around town looking at women differently thinking they could be the mean GIRLS posting here!

NASTY, NASTY, NASTY. Why can't anyone on this board be KIND?

Welcome

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

If you were buying fruit, you would have said. You intentionally said several times, "snack." You said that your child needed constant access to a balanced "snack," not fruit. If you needed a piece of fruit, why wouldn't you have asked the mom if she could throw an apple, pear, banana, mango, in her bag? Why would you internationally take up the mom's time to buy a kiwi?

And where were you going to wash said "fruit." In the grocery store's nasty bathroom. If so, that's longer than running in and out.

I would have ditched you, too.

Ha! If a mom I barely knew called me and said "oh by the way, could you please bring some fruit for my child?" to a playdate, I think I might just have to come to DCUM to vent about what an entitled and clueless mom she is. Halfway joking. But no, I'd never ask another mom to bring my kid a snack, unless it was one of my very closest friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OH. MY. GOD.

I had a very hard time deciding on whether to respond to this or DO YOU EVER FIND YOURSELF HAVING A SMUG MARRIED MOMENT? (The starter of THAT thread is a see you next Tuesday)! I chose this. I may go back to that.

You women are witches! Read this thread from page 1 through the end! HONESTLY! I cannot even begin! Is everyone SO SELF-CENTERED?

Okay, first of all I CANNOT STAND PEOPLE WHO ARE TARDY. Maybe OP had a legitimate reason and did not explain herself properly. For one, I am THE ONLY person in my rather extensive group of friends who is ever punctual so I get it. But I would never say "whatever" or leave. I'd wait 15/20 minutes (it's a PLAY DATE for cripes sake - what else are you going to do - go back home and bitch about other moms on DCUM)?

ALL of you who responded sound like 12 year olds - AS does the OP - AS does the woman she was supposed to meet at the park!

I must admit I recently discovered this forum and I am obsessed with it. ONLY because of the IDIOTIC posts I see here every minute! UNBELIEVABLE! I am now driving around town looking at women differently thinking they could be the mean GIRLS posting here!

NASTY, NASTY, NASTY. Why can't anyone on this board be KIND?

Guess you missed the day when they taught irony in high school English, huh? Stick around here long enough you'll learn that and so much more. Enjoy

[Anonymous]

This thread has totally devolved into Crazytown. I seriously doubt OP is even looking anymore, and I don't blame her.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it would not even occur to me to call someone and give them a heads up that I'd be 15 minutes late to meeting them at the park for a playdate.

This isn't a job interview. 15 minutes one way or the other is just wiggle room to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

If you were buying fruit, you would have said. You intentionally said several times, "snack." You said that your child needed constant access to a balanced "snack," not fruit. If you needed a piece of fruit, why wouldn't you have asked the mom if she could throw an apple, pear, banana, mango, in her bag? Why would you internationally take up the mom's time to buy a kiwi?

And where were you going to wash said "fruit." In the grocery store's nasty bathroom. If so, that's longer than running in and out.

I would have ditched you, too.

Ha! If a mom I barely knew called me and said "oh by the way, could you please bring some fruit for my child?" to a playdate, I think I might just have to come to DCUM to vent about what an entitled and clueless mom she is. Halfway joking. But no, I'd never ask another mom to bring my kid a snack, unless it was one of my very closest friends.

Really? I totally would if I was in a bind and I'd be more than happy to do the same if someone asked. Most moms I know are carrying extra snacks all the time anyway. I guess it would be a good thing to ask because if the person acted anything but completely gracious and fully understanding in response, I would know we would never end up being friends. I couldn't enjoy spending time with someone who has her shit so together in every way that she couldn't relate to my running out of snacks, or worse, someone who would begrudge a child a piece of fruit.

[Anonymous]

I need to know... What is this special condition and what is the snack??? You're killing me!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are the special snacks, OP? I'm dying to know what's so critical to your daughter's health yet you don't keep plenty of extra in-stock, ubiquitous enough to be at the front of the grocery store but rare enough that you couldn't ask the other mom to bring one, and that you couldn't possibly replicate quickly with something you had available? Why won't you just identify this elusive magical snack????

Bottom line-- I thing people would be a lot more sympathetic if you weren't so vague. It makes it sound like you're making up excuses. I have a feeling the other mom probably felt that too, and thus lost interest in the play date.

I'm with you...what are these snacks! For the love of god!

[Anonymous]

OMG if I were not CL I'd think this OP is CL. LOL

[Anonymous]

So the medical condition is bullshit and OP's kid just has SSS?