Playdate ettiquette (esp. re lateness)

[Anonymous]

I would not be annoyed. 15 minutes? Really? That's nothing. I'd probably appreciate the extra time because I'd probably be running late too! Some people are overly rigid. It's just playing at the park.

[Anonymous]

15 minutes late to a park play date is nothing to get upset about. Maybe you sounded really overwhelmed and like you didn't want to do the play date. You should have just texted her and said you were running a couple minutes late. There is no need for a phone call with all the drama.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

[Anonymous]

Do you always see yourself as the victim, OP? You feel sorry for yourself for a situation you created and were 100% in control of. DON'T BE LATE. It's not that hard to understand. PEOPLE DON'T LIKE YOU WHEN YOU ARE LATE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

If you were buying fruit, you would have said. You intentionally said several times, "snack." You said that your child needed constant access to a balanced "snack," not fruit. If you needed a piece of fruit, why wouldn't you have asked the mom if she could throw an apple, pear, banana, mango, in her bag? Why would you internationally take up the mom's time to buy a kiwi?

And where were you going to wash said "fruit." In the grocery store's nasty bathroom. If so, that's longer than running in and out.

I would have ditched you, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not be annoyed. 15 minutes? Really? That's nothing. I'd probably appreciate the extra time because I'd probably be running late too! Some people are overly rigid. It's just playing at the park.

OP, she sounds like a pill.

Thank the stars that you know this now before your kids actually become real friends and not just preschool friends.

Take your daughter to a playground with just the two of you and she will forget all about it.

Try not to schedule things with this mom. Let the kids lead the friendship and don't go out of your way to encourage it.

A mom like that will be VERY high maintenance as things progress. Be glad you know this now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

If you were buying fruit, you would have said. You intentionally said several times, "snack." You said that your child needed constant access to a balanced "snack," not fruit. If you needed a piece of fruit, why wouldn't you have asked the mom if she could throw an apple, pear, banana, mango, in her bag? Why would you internationally take up the mom's time to buy a kiwi?

And where were you going to wash said "fruit." In the grocery store's nasty bathroom. If so, that's longer than running in and out.

I would have ditched you, too.

Also, you said that your DC finished her "snacks" plural! Not, she finished her apple and star fruit salad. You were buying your child some Funions and you're too ashamed to admit it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

At my grocery store, raisins and other dried fruits/nuts are in the check out lane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

At my grocery store, raisins and other dried fruits/nuts are in the check out lane.

Liar, liar, pants on fire.

[Anonymous]

I think you 2 deserve each other!
"Whatever"! and you thinking that your grocery run will take 15 minutes?!
If your kid's health is so important to you, how the hell are you so unprepared that finishing her snack would mess up everything.
I don't think it's your first time to agitate the "whatever" mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the friend has a medical condition that doesn't allow her to be late to play dates? And what "balanced snack" is right beside the door of a grocery store that isn't candy, chips, donuts, etc.?

You mean like fruit? Yep, way in the back.

At my grocery store, raisins and other dried fruits/nuts are in the check out lane.

Who would bring nuts to a first time play date? The child or mom could have a food allergy.

[Anonymous]

The other mom probably had something scheduled right after the playdate. If you are 15 minutes late (or more) for an hour playdate, it becomes not worth the hassle. It is likely that her child was disappointed also and this has started their day on a frustrating note. If your child has a medical condition, she is high maintenance. You need to plan better (have more food in the house) if you do not want other moms to think YOU also are high maintenance and avoid playdates with your child.

[Anonymous]

I would think a parent of a child with a medical condition would have backup options at the ready. They are usually the most organized of parents because so much is at stake.

[Anonymous]

Lol you're both annoyingly high maintenance.