Do you think that its rude for neither parent to stay home to hand out candy?

[Anonymous]

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawn.

[Anonymous]

My child is 3 this year. Last year we took her to maybe 4 houses where we know the neighbors before she was over it, and she was done by 6:15, easy. We were in eyesight of our house the whole time and back before the first kid showed up at our door.

I prefer answering the door and handing out candy anyway, it may be one of my favorite things about living in a house.

This year my plan is that both of us will take her to a few houses, and if she's not over it by then, I'll go back to the house and hand out candy while she keeps going with H. Win-win. After a couple times of seeing her say "trick or treat" and get some candy, it's the same anyway, so I got to see it, then I get to go home and give out candy to other kids.

Of course, we usually get around 50 kids, so it would suck if no one was there to hand out candy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a troll on this thread.

Do what you want. Children will survive with one less piece of candy. I stayed home last year and dh took the kids out and I felt so lonely!

Maybe it's the same poster who thought her precious 3 year old should've been invited to the neighbor's 6-year old bday party and was more upset that she didn't at least get a heads-up.

[Anonymous]

Wow, people are so snotty on this board. OP, do what you want. Don't ask here. You're just asking for people to be a-holes to you. Don't make a decision based on what complete strangers say. It's freaking Halloween!

That said, last year, DH & I both went out with DD and left a bowl. Probably gonna do the same this year. There was some candy left, but not much. But who cares?

[Anonymous]

Walk with your DH and kids for maybe 30 min., then go back and hand out the candy. Or DH goes back and hands out the candy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just go trick or treating with your kids. Parents only trick or treat with their kids for a few years before they outgrow the activity or they want to go on their own with their friends. You were home to hand out candy for the years before you had kids and you will be home for the thirty or forty years after your kids are grown. Don't overthink this.

Yup. In our neighborhood, there are lots of people without kids, parents of older kids, and empty-nesters handing out candy, as well as parents who prefer to stay home while one parent goes out with the trick-or-treaters. Our street is quiet, without many kids, so we leave a bowl and all go out trick-or-treating. The kids enjoy being with us, and we "do our part" by putting out the candy and admiring costumes of kids we see in the neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We both planned to go, but it was only when reading other halloween posts did it occur to me that it might be rude. No, i am not intentionally trying to be a jerk, i was honestly asking. Sure I figured when my youngest was 3 or 4, one parent would start to stay home, but right now we have a toddler old enough to understand that he wants to dress up trick or treat with his siblings, but not old enough to walk long distances and up tall front door steps without being picked up frequently. I honestly thought it was okay, our neighbors know we have toddlers, but am realizing maybe its not okay. really i dont understand the need for the hostility here.

OP you seem to act like your spouse isn't capable of handling the toddler?
Is he one of those dad's? The kind where you are afraid to leave him alone with the kids.

The troll again.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I do think it is rude. We split up. One of us goes out first for a half hour or so with our son, then comes back and switches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We both planned to go, but it was only when reading other halloween posts did it occur to me that it might be rude. No, i am not intentionally trying to be a jerk, i was honestly asking. Sure I figured when my youngest was 3 or 4, one parent would start to stay home, but right now we have a toddler old enough to understand that he wants to dress up trick or treat with his siblings, but not old enough to walk long distances and up tall front door steps without being picked up frequently. I honestly thought it was okay, our neighbors know we have toddlers, but am realizing maybe its not okay. really i dont understand the need for the hostility here.

OP you seem to act like your spouse isn't capable of handling the toddler?
Is he one of those dad's? The kind where you are afraid to leave him alone with the kids.

The troll again.

Not the PP, but just wanted to say: not everyone who disagrees with you is a troll. Some people just happen to disagree. That's all.

[Anonymous]

In our neighborhood, toddlers who cannot walk far are pulled in wagons. Why don't you have DH do this with your young one, OP? Then, you can stay home and give out candy. AS little one's interest and attention will likely wane before the big kids' do, your DH can plan his route to circle back after a certain point to drop off little one back with you, and continue on with the big kids.

[Anonymous]

OP you seem to act like your spouse isn't capable of handling the toddler?
Is he one of those dad's? The kind where you are afraid to leave him alone with the kids.


The troll again.

Not the PP, but just wanted to say: not everyone who disagrees with you is a troll. Some people just happen to disagree. That's all.

Disagreeing is fine, suggesting (based upon nothing) that the poster's husband is a kind of dad where "you are afraid to leave him alone with the kids" is not fine.

[Anonymous]

We just do our street, which has maybe 10 houses on it. I take DD and DH answers the door. We are gone maybe 20 minutes, maybe 30? She's 3 this year and has an early bedtime, so we have to wrap up quickly, before she gets overtired.

We also turn the light out no later than 8-8:30. Leave a bowl. There's nothing wrong with a bowl. And all of you PPs? Step off.

[Anonymous]

We take our children early and then come home and hand out candy after that. I handed out candy before we had children, and I will hand out candy after my children are too old to trick-or-treat. I think the neighborhood can handle us not giving out candy for one hour while we take the kids around the block.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We both planned to go, but it was only when reading other halloween posts did it occur to me that it might be rude. No, i am not intentionally trying to be a jerk, i was honestly asking. Sure I figured when my youngest was 3 or 4, one parent would start to stay home, but right now we have a toddler old enough to understand that he wants to dress up trick or treat with his siblings, but not old enough to walk long distances and up tall front door steps without being picked up frequently. I honestly thought it was okay, our neighbors know we have toddlers, but am realizing maybe its not okay. really i dont understand the need for the hostility here.

OP you seem to act like your spouse isn't capable of handling the toddler?
Is he one of those dad's? The kind where you are afraid to leave him alone with the kids.

The troll again.

Not the PP, but just wanted to say: not everyone who disagrees with you is a troll. Some people just happen to disagree. That's all.

Yes, disagreeing is fine. For what's not fine, see 9:48's response above.

[Anonymous]

^^ Oh, and I'm not the OP. I also didn't see the troll's comment as disagreeing, but as an attempt to insult.