Do you think that its rude for neither parent to stay home to hand out candy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? We have a 9-month-old and will not be taking him trick-or-treating. He goes to bed at 7:00, and we start quiet time at 6:00 and bedtime routine at 6:30, so we were not planning to hand out candy since we don't want to be interrupted by constant knocks on the door. We will be home, but porch lights off. Are we awful neighbors, or is this acceptable? (we did candy last year but this baby's a crap sleeper and I don't want to do anything that will interrupt his nighttime sleep!)

Obviously not. There's no law that says you must buy candy and give it out. Halloween is pretty hypocritical anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? We have a 9-month-old and will not be taking him trick-or-treating. He goes to bed at 7:00, and we start quiet time at 6:00 and bedtime routine at 6:30, so we were not planning to hand out candy since we don't want to be interrupted by constant knocks on the door. We will be home, but porch lights off. Are we awful neighbors, or is this acceptable? (we did candy last year but this baby's a crap sleeper and I don't want to do anything that will interrupt his nighttime sleep!)

Obviously not. There's no law that says you must buy candy and give it out. Halloween is pretty hypocritical anyway.

Oh DCUM... (loud, long sigh)... because if it's not illegal it must not be rude?

But to original quoted PP, I don't think your situation is rude at all. It's fine to opt-out of trick-or-treat. The problem is people who want to take their own child trick-or-treating, but insist on taking both parents, and don't leave a bowl. Those people are freeloading on their neighbor's candy without letting other children trick-or-treat at their house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? We have a 9-month-old and will not be taking him trick-or-treating. He goes to bed at 7:00, and we start quiet time at 6:00 and bedtime routine at 6:30, so we were not planning to hand out candy since we don't want to be interrupted by constant knocks on the door. We will be home, but porch lights off. Are we awful neighbors, or is this acceptable? (we did candy last year but this baby's a crap sleeper and I don't want to do anything that will interrupt his nighttime sleep!)

Obviously not. There's no law that says you must buy candy and give it out. Halloween is pretty hypocritical anyway.

Oh DCUM... (loud, long sigh)... because if it's not illegal it must not be rude?

But to original quoted PP, I don't think your situation is rude at all. It's fine to opt-out of trick-or-treat. The problem is people who want to take their own child trick-or-treating, but insist on taking both parents, and don't leave a bowl. Those people are freeloading on their neighbor's candy without letting other children trick-or-treat at their house.

How about yo and the other butthurt posters but some candy and be done with it?

[Anonymous]

Rude is being home, all your lights on, porch light included, and not answering the damn door. If it's Halloween and your porch light is on, please have some sort of something ready for those who knock. Or turn off the porch light.

As for both parents going out, go for it. Leave a bowl of candy on your porch, or don't. If your kids are small, you won't be gone for that long; chances are you'll be home in time to give out "your share" of the neighborhood haul (as dictated by DCUM).

[Anonymous]

No. It's not like jury duty. You don't have a civic duty to participate in Halloween.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People are craaaaaaaaaaaaazy.

If your neighbors are going to be mad that your house is dark for an hour, you live in a mean neighborhood. Move somewhere normal.

Yep.

Nope. This intentionally misses the point. No one is mad just because your lights are off, maybe you have to work or travel or don't have kids and don't care to participate. That's cool. Honestly, that is what I have always assumed when I saw lights out and not taught twice about it. But it is completely different if you are turning out your lights, and not leaving a bowl, so that two parents can take snowflake to freeload candy from your neighbors.

It is also worth pointing out that having two parents come is completely about the parents, and how they want to experience Halloween. Most kids could care less if Mommy and Daddy about both behind them as they dart from house to house. Trick or treating is not family-focused, quality time.

Wow, you are a crazy bitch. Uh who are you to go around judging parents who go trick or treating with their kids?? This is not family time?? Has it occurred to you that YOU are the one being self absorbed by thinking everyone needs to be home to give out candy for YOUR kid???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are craaaaaaaaaaaaazy.

If your neighbors are going to be mad that your house is dark for an hour, you live in a mean neighborhood. Move somewhere normal.

Yep.

Nope. This intentionally misses the point. No one is mad just because your lights are off, maybe you have to work or travel or don't have kids and don't care to participate. That's cool. Honestly, that is what I have always assumed when I saw lights out and not taught twice about it. But it is completely different if you are turning out your lights, and not leaving a bowl, so that two parents can take snowflake to freeload candy from your neighbors.

It is also worth pointing out that having two parents come is completely about the parents, and how they want to experience Halloween. Most kids could care less if Mommy and Daddy about both behind them as they dart from house to house. Trick or treating is not family-focused, quality time.

Of course it's about the parents. We both want to watch the kids trick-or-treat. I do not owe it to the neighborhood to make sure someone is on duty every second. I think you misunderstand freeloading. Freeloading would be if you take your children trick-or-treating every single year but never hand out candy. Freeloading is NOT deciding to turn on your light an hour later than some other folks do. We gave out candy pre-kids, we will give out candy after our kids are too old, and we give out candy when we get home from watching our children go around the block. People who think this is rude are nuts.

Agree with the last PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, except for single parent case. If everyone did this it would be no fun for the kids. Someone needs to suck it up and stay home.

If your child still needs to be carried, bring a stroller or wagon

DH and I both took the kids out, and we still handed out 320 pcs of candy before and after. I don't feel like I was rude or selfish at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? We have a 9-month-old and will not be taking him trick-or-treating. He goes to bed at 7:00, and we start quiet time at 6:00 and bedtime routine at 6:30, so we were not planning to hand out candy since we don't want to be interrupted by constant knocks on the door. We will be home, but porch lights off. Are we awful neighbors, or is this acceptable? (we did candy last year but this baby's a crap sleeper and I don't want to do anything that will interrupt his nighttime sleep!)

Obviously not. There's no law that says you must buy candy and give it out. Halloween is pretty hypocritical anyway.

Oh DCUM... (loud, long sigh)... because if it's not illegal it must not be rude?

But to original quoted PP, I don't think your situation is rude at all. It's fine to opt-out of trick-or-treat. The problem is people who want to take their own child trick-or-treating, but insist on taking both parents, and don't leave a bowl. Those people are freeloading on their neighbor's candy without letting other children trick-or-treat at their house.

I totally agree. Furthermore, I think anyone who doesn't have kids shouldn't be allowed to hand out any candy at all lest they disturb this imbalance and get tarred and feathered by DCUM.

[Anonymous]

It is also worth pointing out that having two parents come is completely about the parents, and how they want to experience Halloween. Most kids could care less if Mommy and Daddy about both behind them as they dart from house to house. Trick or treating is not family-focused, quality time.

Why is that worth pointing out? Why is it wrong for parents to enjoy seeing their child trick or treat? If isn't some altruistic thing it is morally wrong to do it? Whatever. My family had fun trick or treating for 30 minutes together. My mom was at our house handing out candy. One, that's right, one kid came in the time that we were gone. After we got back, over 50 came. It worked out well.

[Anonymous]

We weren't home - a sports event conflicted with Halloween. We had purchased candy but I didn't want to leave out a bowl because I was afraid that if it got emptied early then people would have trudged up our steps for nothing. So we just turned out all the lights and will donate the candy to the troops at the school collection box. Sorry if you posters think we were rude- it wasn't about you I promise.

[Anonymous]

No. It's a gift. They only count if freely given.