I've noticed single women in their 40s who have not been married and don't have kids..

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Anonymous wrote:The two most important factors in affecting appearance as you age are genetics and lifestyle choices.

They inter-relate your entire life, but it starts to show more as you age.

Stress and responsbiity ages you on the inside, but how that affects the outside is probably more related to the above two than anything else.

For example, the woman with the killer workout regimen probably does not have time to drink heavily between the workouts and the hot husband sex, oh, and with feeling so great about how great she looks and being able to afford expensive face creams and flattering clothes (cringe) she probably just doesnt have a lot of negative thoughts, or possibly any thoughts of any depth whatsoever- but thats just conjecture.

Her mom probably aged well too.

At 46 with a very stressful life, a depressed husband and wonderful young child I get taken for about 10 years younger IF I have had enough rest and IF I am feeling like life is pretty ok despite the stress.

But if I am tired and everthing sucks, I swear I look awful. And I very well might. Or maybe its my negative thoughts...

Why on a thread asking about appearances would you assume that someone who responds about her appearance doesn't have any depth whatsoever? Oh wait, that's conjecture! You're right, you're negative thoughts are aging you. Actually, that's not true, it's how you deal with your negative thoughts that age you. But, what do I know?

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Apparently, you dont know shit. Read her post.

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Anonymous wrote:Those bitches are getting older every day. I would not want to be single in my 50s. (Not even 40s)-- the men their age are looking at younger women.

A single friend of mine who is 45 has given up on trying to meet men her age because of this. She is now involved with a man who is 70.

Ewwww. That's my dad's age...though my dad looks 55 (with his clothes on!

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Anonymous wrote:Here is your typical single women in her 40s

+1 and they wonder why they are single?

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Anonymous wrote: Look the youngest and most relaxed. Seriously, my friends. coworkers and even just people I knew who never married and didn't have or adopt kids look about 10 years younger than the rest of us who married and had kids. I noticed that with my parents' single friends back in the day. I have no regrets with my life choices, I just am always surprised by how striking the difference is. These are not people using botox or getting plastic surgery either.

Have you noticed this?

I agree, and they have no stress, that's why they look so young

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmmmm...I'm 47. Five kids. I am 5'5 and 117 pounds. I work out, take care of myself, and try really hard to look my best every day. I don't think I look old. People are normally really surprised when they find out I am well over 40. But my single friends without kids look pretty damn good too. And I'm positive they look better than I do naked!

I think it's all in how you take care of yourself. Having kids can make finding the time to work out, shop, do make-up and hair....a lot more challenging! But if it's truly important to you, you'll find a way to make it happen.

You also live in middle America or maybe Utah where it's not even close to being as stressful as living in a large city

HA! take that, mid-western Mom.

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I am 42 and a single mom by choice who adopted

I am more relaxed and look younger than my similar aged friends. I attribute this to not having the stress of a husband and giving birth.

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Anonymous wrote:I look great and I'm 33 with a toddler. I regularly get mistaken for mid twenties.

My friend who is 37 and childless actually looks amazing, like she is 30.

I think this is generally true. I feel like I'm an exception here but I definitely have stretch marks and loose skin on my tummy. My tits are still hot, even after 2 years of nursing.

And modest too!

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Anonymous wrote:Hmmmmm...I'm 47. Five kids. I am 5'5 and 117 pounds. I work out, take care of myself, and try really hard to look my best every day. I don't think I look old. People are normally really surprised when they find out I am well over 40. But my single friends without kids look pretty damn good too. And I'm positive they look better than I do naked!

I think it's all in how you take care of yourself. Having kids can make finding the time to work out, shop, do make-up and hair....a lot more challenging! But if it's truly important to you, you'll find a way to make it happen.

You're the SAHM right?

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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please girl, I noticed this when I was 28 at my high school reunion. Everyone who moved away and was still single looked fabulous. The people who stayed in town, got married and had kids looked ten years older than the rest of us. Ten years later, at my 20th reunion, I was still single and childless, and got hit on left and right. Now that I am a mom, I look old and fat like everyone else.[/quote]

You are a granny mom, though. Of course you look old. [/quote]
Better a granny mom than staying in a small town, doing nothing with my life and being an actual granny by age 40.[/quote]

+1

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Anonymous wrote:I have 2 kids under 2. One of my dear friends is 47 (I'm 35). I look at pictures of us from 3 years ago and damn, I was a hot piece. She looked good but I looked GREAT. Now, not so much and she looks EXACTLY the same. I look like I've been ridden hard and put away wet.

....And out comes some of my coffee! Thanks for the laugh

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Anonymous wrote:That's not always the case, I'm 40 and got mistaken for 27 two nights ago, two kids.

Were they really mistaken or just trying to make a 40 year old feel good for a second.

I am 47 and was carded yesterday when I bought a bottle of wine. I had my 9 yo with me.

Sadly, I think she was just a rule follower! lol

I'm 43 and routinely get carded. Pretty positive they are just doing their job. I was always young looking fort age--but 22 years over the age requirement...I am fairly certain no matter how good I look there can be no confusion I'm over 21

I own a bar and our policy is to card literally everyone. The reason is that I don't want my bartenders and servers guessing peoples' ages (and God forbid, overestimating someone's age), but I also don't want people to be offended. I had a customer several years ago accuse us of racism because we carded her (she looked very young - like barely out of high school) and not her much older looking friends. Turns out the woman was in her 30s. But it was a reminder that selectively carding could be perceived as based on race or appearance. I don't want anyone to feel that way.

So whether the customer looks 20 or 60, we card all of our patrons before serving them alcohol.

I knew she was a rule follower!

damn it!

[Anonymous]

Is this what our civilized society has come to? A woman is not good enough if at 40 she looks like 40 instead of 30?

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Anonymous wrote:Those single women in their 40's might look great, but MANY of them live with the daily agony of "what might have been".

I would take my pot belly and wrinkles over having never wed and bred any day!

I disagree. The women I know who are single for the most part seem pleased with their choices and happy. Most are highly successful in the careers and have an active social life. The only single friend I have who is really unhappy regrets not getting a graduate degree and being stuck in a low paying field.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2386400/Kate-Spicer-Any-woman-says-shes-happy-childless-liar-fool.html

SOME women are upset but SOME women are not (many comments to this article). Different for everyone.

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Anonymous wrote:I look great and I'm 33 with a toddler. I regularly get mistaken for mid twenties.

My friend who is 37 and childless actually looks amazing, like she is 30.

I think this is generally true. I feel like I'm an exception here but I definitely have stretch marks and loose skin on my tummy. My tits are still hot, even after 2 years of nursing.

And modest too!

Are people not allowed to feel good about themselves? I think I look great too. Does that make me a bad person?