Rich husband or successful career?

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Anonymous wrote:you know what I like? I like my moderately-paid but comfortable career, and my husband's moderately-paid but comfortable career, which gives both of us financial security, intellectual satisfaction, and enough time to spend with our family.

I don't need to be mega rich, and I don't need to work so hard that I have no time to spend with the people I love.

Ah! The voice of sanity of DCUM. Who knew??

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Anonymous wrote:Rich husband. I'd get massages, play tennis & swim while kids are at school. Heaven

A rich husband who loves me and cannot imagine life without me, dependable, reliable, with whom I would feel secure both emotionally and financially. In addition to what PP said, I would also volunteer for causes that I care about or do part time work with NGOs. Or if my husband is fabulously rich, I would become involved in charity donations, so would contribute to donating to causes I care about.

Blech! Having had kids in an elite private school for many years, I saw my share of these moms -- BORRRING!

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So many sad, bitter women.

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I work, am happy to work, will always work. I'm lucky to have a great job that pays reasonably and gives me tons of flexibility and is interesting.

But I'm not going to denigrate people who choose different paths, and I also don't buy this nonsense that rich SAHMs are miserable and doomed to divorce. The richest people I know are pretty happy (fwiw, not SAHM families) and my friends who are really struggling financially are not happy. I wish it were not the case, but money can buy a lot of comfort.

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Anonymous wrote:I work, am happy to work, will always work. I'm lucky to have a great job that pays reasonably and gives me tons of flexibility and is interesting.

But I'm not going to denigrate people who choose different paths, and I also don't buy this nonsense that rich SAHMs are miserable and doomed to divorce. The richest people I know are pretty happy (fwiw, not SAHM families) and my friends who are really struggling financially are not happy. I wish it were not the case, but money can buy a lot of comfort.

So true. There's a reason money is one of the biggest reasons for divorce. Love doesn't pay the bills.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich husband because deep down inside I love my children

Yes ... Because working moms don't love their kids?

Nope. SAHMs especially love their daughters. That's why they set such a great example for them!

I have a Master's Degree and worked hard in my field until I had children. Now I SAH. When my kids hit school age, I carved out a little business for myself that doesn't detract in any way from my children. My daughter (middle child) is now 16, and in choosing her career path, said that she wants a career that will allow her flexibility to be home when the kids are, because it means a lot to her that I put she and her brothers over a high-powered career.

I've set a GREAT example, thank you very much.

And did your husband also set a great example for his sons about having a career that gives him the flexibility to be home when the kids are and choosing his children over a high-powered career?

Or, if not, what great example has your husband set for his sons?

Matter of fact, he did. He has worked at home since my middle child was two and has been a great Dad. That's what happens when you work hard and hone your skills in a much desired technical field. You're in demand.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich husband because deep down inside I love my children

Yes ... Because working moms don't love their kids?

Nope. SAHMs especially love their daughters. That's why they set such a great example for them!

I have a Master's Degree and worked hard in my field until I had children. Now I SAH. When my kids hit school age, I carved out a little business for myself that doesn't detract in any way from my children. My daughter (middle child) is now 16, and in choosing her career path, said that she wants a career that will allow her flexibility to be home when the kids are, because it means a lot to her that I put she and her brothers over a high-powered career.

I've set a GREAT example, thank you very much.

And did your husband also set a great example for his sons about having a career that gives him the flexibility to be home when the kids are and choosing his children over a high-powered career?

Or, if not, what great example has your husband set for his sons?

Exactly. Also, pp, would you encourage your daughter to depend on a man for financial stability?

I encourage all my children to choose well, i.e. pick someone without a lot of financial baggage.

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Love this story! There are so many, many paths in life. Stop judging from the outside.

Walk a mile in someone ele's shoes...

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To me, there's no rich husband or rich wife. It's a rich (or not) couple. Money in a marriage (at least mine) is joint.

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The career! I want to use my brain and feel smart and successful and independent. I don't need a man to give me $.

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Anonymous wrote:The career! I want to use my brain and feel smart and successful and independent. I don't need a man to give me $.

Me too! I applaud your ambition. FF 10 years and let's go crazy and say you have 5 kids. Two ambition driven careers expecting crazy hours is not a work/life balance. Reality. Kids need parenting which usually mean females mommy track or SAH or they marry less ambitious males. Just my opinion.

Advice to young women. Think about this and choose your path.

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I would rather have rich and generous FATHER who could give me $1M a year in allowance. This way I could work or not work when I wish and my husband would always be nice to me in order to avoid messing with my influential dad.

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Pete Campbell situation. No thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:I would rather have rich and generous FATHER who could give me $1M a year in allowance. This way I could work or not work when I wish and my husband would always be nice to me in order to avoid messing with my influential dad.

Yes this is the best idea!

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Anonymous wrote:The career! I want to use my brain and feel smart and successful and independent. I don't need a man to give me $.

Me too! I applaud your ambition. FF 10 years and let's go crazy and say you have 5 kids. Two ambition driven careers expecting crazy hours is not a work/life balance. Reality. Kids need parenting which usually mean females mommy track or SAH or they marry less ambitious males. Just my opinion.

Advice to young women. Think about this and choose your path.

What's your advice to young men? Since they're parents too (if they are parents)?