Rich husband or successful career?

[Anonymous]

I'll take the rich husband so that I can SAH with my kids while they're young, and then have any career I want without financial worry once they're older. Best of both worlds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im going to keep it real. Im a working mom and this working shit sucks. Id rather be at home with my son and our soon to be new addition. We cant afford it though because I dont have a rich DH. Argh!

Absolutely agree. I would most definitely SAH with my kids in a heartbeat if we could afford it, and my DH agrees. We're going to try and make it work in the next year or so.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read 10 pages but why is this even a serious question? Hands down the career. I'd count myself lucky if I had any of these four, let alone all four; successful + high paying + that I enjoyed + highly regarded. I was successful academically, attended two ivys but am at a low paying job I don't quite enjoy that it just so so regarded (federal attorney but not in those coveted agencies).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:IRL I chose the rich husband. It's a really great life! no stress.

You don't find kissing his ass stressful?

Seriously! Do people think being the less powered wife of a rich husband comes with no strings? Naiiiiiiive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually faced this decision and chose the rich husband, then mommy-tracked.

If I could do it all over again I would take the career. It wasn't until I mommy-tracked that my husband became controlling and lazy in the household. When we were earning the same he was very helpful and egalitarian.

This is the reality folks. Not 100% of the time but very common.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would rather have rich and generous FATHER who could give me $1M a year in allowance. This way I could work or not work when I wish and my husband would always be nice to me in order to avoid messing with my influential dad.

Me too. So much easier to suck up to your dad than live daily with a stressed out rich husband (unless they inherited it, becoming rich or having high earnings is very stressful and it spills over to the spouse).

[Anonymous]

Men are too fickle. I rather be rich than marry a rich man.

[Anonymous]

Fortunately, I have both.

[Anonymous]

How about rich wife? I know plenty of people who do this, but why on earth would you assume it is his money? Because you think a Google search reveals everything? Boy, are you stupid.

[Anonymous]

Successful career that helps me and my husband get rich together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually faced this decision and chose the rich husband, then mommy-tracked.

If I could do it all over again I would take the career. It wasn't until I mommy-tracked that my husband became controlling and lazy in the household. When we were earning the same he was very helpful and egalitarian.

This is the reality folks. Not 100% of the time but very common.

Of course. Any woman who doesn't realize this is either very young or a fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not going to lie - rich husband. Never had ambition. Went to college because it's what you are supposed to do. Work because I can't have mony otherwise.

I bet your boss loves you.

[Anonymous]

Rich husband. I could absolutely fill my time with hobbies.

[Anonymous]

Rich husband, but only if he was willing and able to give me enough assets at the outset that would allow me to live comfortably for the rest of my life should we get divorced, structured in a way where it was certain he would be unable to claw back those assets in a divorce ... otherwise, the career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rich husband. I could absolutely fill my time with hobbies.

It's great. Now that the kids are driving I do yoga, kickboxing, gardening, biking, whatever. We have a live-in housekeeper, but I enjoy cooking.