lawyer moms...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:CAN WE PLEASE GO BACK TO TALKING ABOUT BALANCING LEGAL JOBS AND PARENTING? THIS THREAD IS NOT ABOUT SAHMS.

"Balance" is a myth.

We all know that no one has it all, all the time.

You do, however, get to choose your priority.

That's why OP is considering a home childcare business.

I do have everything I want right now. Of course, my kids are all in full day school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you aren't in the same place as your baby/toddler from, say, 8am-6pm, it is hard to call yourself a ft parent.

So are all dads who WOH "part time parents"?? I never considered my dad to be a part time parent even though for my whole life he has worked (outside the home) full time. He'd be offended by the notion, as would my husband, as am I. Parenting is more than providing childcare.

When there are two contributing parents, usually one is focused on financial support, while the other is managing the home and family well-being. Sure, you can attemp to split the responsibilities down the middle. But as we all know, it almost never works out that way.

This is not a statement of fact.

Isn't the one who earns more $$$, the one more focused on being the "primary breadwinner"? And the other does most of everything else in the family?

What if the parents earn about the same? DH and I each earn about $200K, depending on the year. We can't be that unusual in being fairly evenly matched salary wise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you aren't in the same place as your baby/toddler from, say, 8am-6pm, it is hard to call yourself a ft parent.

So are all dads who WOH "part time parents"?? I never considered my dad to be a part time parent even though for my whole life he has worked (outside the home) full time. He'd be offended by the notion, as would my husband, as am I. Parenting is more than providing childcare.

When there are two contributing parents, usually one is focused on financial support, while the other is managing the home and family well-being. Sure, you can attemp to split the responsibilities down the middle. But as we all know, it almost never works out that way.

This is not a statement of fact.

Isn't the one who earns more $$$, the one more focused on being the "primary breadwinner"? And the other does most of everything else in the family?

What if the parents earn about the same? DH and I
each earn about $200K, depending on the year. We can't be that unusual in being fairly evenly matched salary wise.

You look at your children, and figure out your priorities.

[Anonymous]

Our priorities are to both work full time outside the home while both raising our children.

[Anonymous]

Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

I'm actually quite interested in that area of law and have some limited experience in it (representing veterans pro bono, not the VA). Should I just keep checking USA jobs to see when the jobs become available?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you aren't in the same place as your baby/toddler from, say, 8am-6pm, it is hard to call yourself a ft parent.

So are all dads who WOH "part time parents"?? I never considered my dad to be a part time parent even though for my whole life he has worked (outside the home) full time. He'd be offended by the notion, as would my husband, as am I. Parenting is more than providing childcare.

When there are two contributing parents, usually one is focused on financial support, while the other is managing the home and family well-being. Sure, you can attemp to split the responsibilities down the middle. But as we all know, it almost never works out that way.

This is not a statement of fact.

Isn't the one who earns more $$$, the one more focused on being the "primary breadwinner"? And the other does most of everything else in the family?

What if the parents earn about the same? DH and I
each earn about $200K, depending on the year. We can't be that unusual in being fairly evenly matched salary wise.

You look at your children, and figure out your priorities.

Why are you even in this thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

I'm actually quite interested in that area of law and have some limited experience in it (representing veterans pro bono, not the VA). Should I just keep checking USA jobs to see when the jobs become available?

No. send resume, writing sample, & proof of bar membership to [e-mail] for an associate counsel position by may 17

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

I'm actually quite interested in that area of law and have some limited experience in it (representing veterans pro bono, not the VA). Should I just keep checking USA jobs to see when the jobs become available?

No. send resume, writing sample, & proof of bar membership to [e-mail] for an associate counsel position by may 17

And law school transcripts!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a government job - Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

Not all Federal agencies let you work from home and do a 30 hour a week schedule, just to clarify. Mine definitely does not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:13:25, does your spouse feel he could have what he has without you?

Bingo, until there is a lawyer-dad thread where the men out there describe how they had to cobble together some solution, I will continue to believe that women are not being well served by the law firms and the workplace in general. Good for 13:25 for finding a good solution, but, honestly, that is very, very difficult for so many women to weave together. And, again, men don't seem to have to weave a similar quilt to hold the family up. Not right.

Off topic, but . . .

I don't think women are being worse-served by firms or the workplace than men. I think both men and women lawyers are expected to give too much time to work to manage a household and kids unless they have a partner whose career takes a back seat or a retinue of helpers. Societal pressure (witness the comments on this thread!) pressures women to be the ones to sacrifice their career. Men don't "weave a similar quilt" because most men with demanding careers have less household responsibilities than their wives who work the same jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a government job - Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

Not all Federal agencies let you work from home and do a 30 hour a week schedule, just to clarify. Mine definitely does not.

BVA allows for a p/t schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a government job - Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

Not all Federal agencies let you work from home and do a 30 hour a week schedule, just to clarify. Mine definitely does not.

BVA allows for a p/t schedule.

Is the work at all interesting?? Are these positions where you litigate at all, or just where you write review records and write decisions??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a government job - Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

Not all Federal agencies let you work from home and do a 30 hour a week schedule, just to clarify. Mine definitely does not.

BVA allows for a p/t schedule.

Is the work at all interesting?? Are these positions where you litigate at all, or just where you write review records and write decisions??

There appear to be multiple BVA posters on here, but I find the work "fine." Its not totally boring and not super interesting. There is no litigation. We just review records and write decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our priorities are to both work full time outside the home while both raising our children.

Unless the children are in school FT, it seems to be a logistical impossibility. Someone has to do the work of raising the children. It appears that you have another person to do that work, so you are free to do what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Dept of VA BVA is hiring 100+ lawyers in the next 6 mos. Start pay is maybe GS 11 but goes up 1 GS level every year. And you can work at home after 9+ months and do 30+ hour schedule.

I'm actually quite interested in that area of law and have some limited experience in it (representing veterans pro bono, not the VA). Should I just keep checking USA jobs to see when the jobs become available?

No. send resume, writing sample, & proof of bar membership to [e-mail] for an associate counsel position by may 17

How can you hope to land this job if you can't figure out how to apply for it? Seriously?