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I appreciate your answer, OP, thank you. May I follow up by asking if you use FAM for birth control? Or do you use a artificial method? |
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"Thank you! I didn't know this was English class where everything had to be top notch perfect. I'm getting my point across and I'm understood, why do I need to make sure everything is perfect?? "
Are you joking? Is this the "standard" you set for your kids? |
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Of course. I am a daughter, sister, friend, baker, artist, animal lover, the list could go on! My main priority is to be a great mother to my children and then to be a great wife to my husband but I do enjoy doing things on my own. Every Tuesday a group of my friends get together(just the ladies!) to paint and drink wine. It's incredibly fun 
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No we do not use FAM. We considered it but were not confident in going that route so I just went with a pill. But like I said in another reply, I'm no longer on the pill. I had my tubes tied after the birth of our last child so we are DONE! |
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No we do not use FAM. We considered it but were not confident in going that route so I just went with a pill. But like I said in another reply, I'm no longer on the pill. I had my tubes tied after the birth of our last child so we are DONE! No we do not use FAM. We considered it but were not confident in going that route so I just went with a pill. But like I said in another reply, I'm no longer on the pill. I had my tubes tied after the birth of our last child so we are DONE! "No we do not use FAM. We considered it but were not confident in going that route so I just went with a pill. But like I said in another reply, I'm no longer on the pill. I had my tubes tied after the birth of our last child so we are DONE!" Are "and such" and "like I said" regional expressions? |
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Thank you again, OP. I find your perspective fascinating! I don't know of I have ever met anyone like you. If I understand you correctly, you believe God wants you to use your free will to have as many or as few children as you desire. Most people these days desire zero, one, or two--you just happen to desire eight. You must be a very loving mother, and I wish you well. I appreciate hearing things from your point of view, because I was just having a discussion with my book club friends about being open to life. Most people, like you, choose a certain number of children. We don't. We have our personal desires, and many of us want large families, but some are afraid of the work and the expense. But we are all united in a belief that God, Who created sex, designed it to be unitive and procreative, and it needs to be respected as such. If we are feeling overwhelmed, we can practice periodic chastity, but not artificial or permanent birth control. So some of us have many children. Some could not have children, but adopted. Some had children quickly, and close together, and then just couldn't have more. We all try to make peace with our situations, as they were what resulted when we loved what we believe to be true about sex. If you had lived before the Pill, would you have used FAM, or would you have left the size of your family up to God? |
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| I think most PPs have not witnessed families >5. I can't speak to a wealthy family, but most middle class families I knew with >5 kids were chaotic. Their homes and cars were disgusting. The older children cared for the younger. 'Mom' was half-baked. Pregnancies and sleeplessness is hard on the mind. While the kids were great together, it felt like a tribe of kids without a parent. |
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How is choosing to take birth control any different than choosing to be chaste? If God created man and man created birth control then God created birth control as well as free will, no? Just because the Pope says birth control is against God's will doesn't make it true. |
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Yes that is correct. Thank you so much for being understanding and respectful. I understand and respect your views on the matter as well. If for some reason the pill was not around then we would most likely have used FAM. It's not the ideal route that we would want to take but having just a little control over something as serious as adding another person to this world is something I'd like to have. I commend you and others who leave it up to God but I suppose I am just not comfortable doing so. |
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Well I can tell you one thing, our home and cares aren't disgusting. As for chaotic, yes we can be sometimes but I don't think we are obnoxious, rude, disrespectful, or anything of that nature. We are just us. We always make it very clear as to how they are supposed to treat others and act in public. Yes, there may be a lot of us but that doesn't mean we can run around and take up the whole walkway. Also, we really do not support that theory of having the older ones look after the younger ones. Yes we ask them to help out sometimes and yes we all work together as a family but I can assure you that I am not sitting around drinking coffee while the older kids are being assigned siblings to look after. A lot of times when we do go out, the bigger kids stick together because it's more fun that way! Our kids are 17,15,12,10,8,7,6, and 2. You see, their ages don't range all that much that the little ones need to be cared for by multiple people. I can do just fine with them all by myself. |
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Our kids are 17,15,12,10,8,7,6, and 2. You see, their ages don't range all that much that the little ones need to be cared for by multiple people. I can do just fine with them all by myself. Our kids are 17,15,12,10,8,7,6, and 2. You see, their ages don't range all that much that the little ones need to be cared for by multiple people. I can do just fine with them all by myself. "Our kids are 17,15,12,10,8,7,6, and 2. You see, their ages don't range all that much that the little ones need to be cared for by multiple people. I can do just fine with them all by myself." This doesn't make any sense. |
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How does that not make sense? I understand what she is saying. |
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OP - I just wanted to say that I like you and your family, and especially your answer on making time for each child, and not having the older children care for the younger ones.
My questions: What did you find to be the best age gap from one child to the next? Did you have any C-sections? Do you have family/parents living close to you? Were your kids delivered by the same OB? Do you live in NoVa or further out? Do your kids attend the same school(s), and are they public or private? What did you find your biggest challenge as your number of kids increased? P.S. Ignore the haters. Enough of the spelling and grammar corrections. |