SIL is silently mooching off our Netflix streaming account

[Anonymous]

Yes, by all means, change the password.

And then come tell us if there's any fallout!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the responses so far! The account is mine - in my name, handled by me, so my husband isn't involved in this. I know SIL didn't ask him to use the account, and I'd rather not get him involved in this admittedly small (petty?!) issue. My SIL and I have had a history of tension, with periods of amiability. My kid is in preschool and has no idea about passwords or what Netflix is. SIL is not hurting for money, as she and her husband are both professionals who make good salaries. Her kid is in preschool (it's been interesting to see the huge amount of tv the kid watches, which is apparent from the number of new shows that come up every day on the "Recently Watched" section).

Since PPs asked, here is another small example or two of SIL's cheapness: when she buys coffee by the pound, she gets the most expensive kind but then writes down on the bag the code for the cheapest kind, so the cashier charges her less. She gets upset and angry if she is expected to pay for anything when everyone goes out, such as going out for breakfast, even though the ratio of our treating them to them treating us is about 35:1. SIL admits she is cheap and even takes pride in it.

Had she asked to share the Netflix, then the issue would be more about comfort level in cheating the company, but the first issue is that she just helped herself without asking. If I had to guess, I'd bet she thinks we wouldn't notice she has accessed the account daily since our visit.

Believe me or not, but no knocks here OP. It's just that I knew there was some history here. If you and SIL got along I don't think this would bother you so much. Doesn't cost you anything, doesn't affect your ability to use the service. However, if it bothers you, by all means, just change the password. It would make interesting reading if she said something to you and you posted about it.

[Anonymous]

I'd change the password, and if she asked for it, ask "why?". People like this who get over without paying make those of us who DO pay, pay all the more. It's just tacky.

[Anonymous]

OP, give us an update when you change the password. I would love to know if SIL has the nerve to ask about it.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? I gave my unlimited stream password to ever pregnant co-worker
Your a little stingy OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I gave my unlimited stream password to ever pregnant co-worker
Your a little stingy OP.

And you are stealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh. Have a heart and stop being a bitch.

This. Who cares

[Anonymous]

wow. Just wow. I am amazed at the number of people who think that theft and violating the terms of OP's agreement is ok.

OP, my only issue with your frustration is that you assume she's doing it knowingly. I'd call her and say that you noticed movies that you and your immediate family haven't watched, has she been using your password (one passive aggressive twist would be to ask if she was using your password instead of hers, but that doesn't work if she knows that you know she doesn't have an account) and, if so, please stop or you'll change it. She does not have the right to violate YOUR agreement with Netflix (or anyone).

And I totally agree with the PP who said that this is an example of what's wrong with this country -- the "its ok as long as you don't get caught" mentality. Fair share isn't just for taxes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I gave my unlimited stream password to ever pregnant co-worker
Your a little stingy OP.

That's theft of services.

[Anonymous]

Change the password, ball's in her court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I gave my unlimited stream password to ever pregnant co-worker
Your a little stingy OP.

I assume you'll be there if Neflix takes away OP's access, as is their right.

[Anonymous]

I was in the "irritating, but why lose sleep over it" camp - but after OP's last post about SIL's history, I am firmly in the "cut her off" camp. She's a mooch and a thief. Eff that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the responses so far! The account is mine - in my name, handled by me, so my husband isn't involved in this. I know SIL didn't ask him to use the account, and I'd rather not get him involved in this admittedly small (petty?!) issue. My SIL and I have had a history of tension, with periods of amiability. My kid is in preschool and has no idea about passwords or what Netflix is. SIL is not hurting for money, as she and her husband are both professionals who make good salaries. Her kid is in preschool (it's been interesting to see the huge amount of tv the kid watches, which is apparent from the number of new shows that come up every day on the "Recently Watched" section).

Since PPs asked, here is another small example or two of SIL's cheapness: when she buys coffee by the pound, she gets the most expensive kind but then writes down on the bag the code for the cheapest kind, so the cashier charges her less. She gets upset and angry if she is expected to pay for anything when everyone goes out, such as going out for breakfast, even though the ratio of our treating them to them treating us is about 35:1. SIL admits she is cheap and even takes pride in it.

Had she asked to share the Netflix, then the issue would be more about comfort level in cheating the company, but the first issue is that she just helped herself without asking. If I had to guess, I'd bet she thinks we wouldn't notice she has accessed the account daily since our visit.

Believe me or not, but no knocks here OP. It's just that I knew there was some history here. If you and SIL got along I don't think this would bother you so much. Doesn't cost you anything, doesn't affect your ability to use the service. However, if it bothers you, by all means, just change the password. It would make interesting reading if she said something to you and you posted about it.

It is costing OP something...the cost of the account. It would be different if they regularly shared things but they don't and SIL did not bother to ask.
RUDE!
Change the password and dont' say anything...that takes nerve...if it was my mom's account I would at least say ..hey i'm still using your account...do u mind...?

[Anonymous]

Change the password. Websites want you to change it / ask you to change it every once in a while.

If she asks for the password later, just give it to her. Then change it again in like 6 weeks. Rinse and repeat. She might just wash out of your hair eventually.

But she'll probably stay silent after the first change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? I gave my unlimited stream password to ever pregnant co-worker
Your a little stingy OP.

You're being "generous" with all of the rest of our money, you fool. When people do what you do they raise the rates.