Husband received hickey from stripper

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, strippers aren't there to please men, they are there to make money. Strippers just don't give out hickies or make out, that is what prostitutes do, or affair partners. There are also rules, dudes aren't allowed to touch etc.

So, your honest and for real belief is that strippers don't let men touch them?

Bless your heart.

No honey. Strippers don't, prostitutes do. Are you really naive enough to think the girl making enough to get a lap dance is gonna go the extra mile for the loser husbands getting blacked out drunk at the club because their lives are so pathetic? But keep believing your guy when he says he just gets touched my strippers.

Strippers are just prostitutes with a higher price point

[Anonymous]

I am sorry OP, but I have to agree. You have been lied to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, strippers aren't there to please men, they are there to make money. Strippers just don't give out hickies or make out, that is what prostitutes do, or affair partners. There are also rules, dudes aren't allowed to touch etc.

So, your honest and for real belief is that strippers don't let men touch them?

Bless your heart.

No honey. Strippers don't, prostitutes do. Are you really naive enough to think the girl making enough to get a lap dance is gonna go the extra mile for the loser husbands getting blacked out drunk at the club because their lives are so pathetic? But keep believing your guy when he says he just gets touched my strippers.

Strippers are just prostitutes with a higher price point

Disagree on this one. I think there are many women who strip to pay the bills, but that is a lot different than having someone pay to sleep with you.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's a horrible thing. But your marriage can survive this. Good luck getting to the resolution that's best for you.

[Anonymous]

I don't think prostitutes would bother giving a john a hickey either.

[Anonymous]

Why is your husband going to strippers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, strippers aren't there to please men, they are there to make money. Strippers just don't give out hickies or make out, that is what prostitutes do, or affair partners. There are also rules, dudes aren't allowed to touch etc.

So, your honest and for real belief is that strippers don't let men touch them?

Bless your heart.

No honey. Strippers don't, prostitutes do. Are you really naive enough to think the girl making enough to get a lap dance is gonna go the extra mile for the loser husbands getting blacked out drunk at the club because their lives are so pathetic? But keep believing your guy when he says he just gets touched my strippers.

Strippers are just prostitutes with a higher price point

I think it is the opposite

[Anonymous]

I don't believe the stripper gave your passed out/unconscious/nearly unconscious husband a hickey. I ran across a stripper discussion site before and they EFFING HATE most of their customers and think they're gross pigs. No way one is going to be soooo turned on by your hot, passed out husband that she'll suck on his neck.

Some strippers do "extras" (sexual favors in return for pay). That's most likely what happened with your husband. Not some woman sucking on his neck for no extra money and without his encouragement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Let's move beyond whether he had an affair or not. I do not believe he did anything more than make out with a random stripper. He's never shown any signs of cheating before so I do think this is a one time thing. It's an incredibly stupid thong and I am not dimishing that. It's still cheating. He admits that there was making out involved with the stripper and he and his friends were buying her drinks. I do believe that he blacked out as he does do this when he drinks a lot. Another indication that he needs to stop drinking.

Now I wonder what to do next. I will give him the benefit of the doubt when he says he wants to be a better man and husband and doesn't want this to happen again. He is a good guy but he did an incredibly stupid thing and I just need to figure out how to move beyond it. How not to look at him and imagine him making out with another woman. How to look at happy families and feel resentment at my husband because i have to fake being happy and trusting with him out in public because of his complete stupidity.

He gonna keep these same friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know mb like to think they are the best but most strippers loathe these guys and at best are only think about money versus oh he's cute let me suck on his sweaty salty stinky neck

Exactly. Women are not falling in love (or even lust) with you at the strip club, men. They're not falling in love/lust with the women who come in and try to get all touchy feely, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless your husband and his friend met up with the stripper after her shift and after they left the club then this did not happen the way your husband describes. She savagely made out with your husband at the club? As they were buying her drinks? This is what you believe? Honey, please wake up! He made you look like a silly little fool by cheating and compounded it by 1000 by then concocting this ridiculous story. Strippers are actually people. Women with lives and boyfriends and children and schedules and bills and responsibilities like the rest of us. Stripping is a job. It is nuts to imagine "some random stripper" as you say, wasting her time om your overly drunk husband. Your desperate willingness to accept your DH's story at face value is sad. I know you want to believe him, I know you don't want to risk your marriage so you're buying into this story, but at what cost?

+1 It's sad you're buying his story, OP. I know DCUM can be harsh and posters have the tendency to assume the worst, but in this case, it would be incredible if your husband weren't having sex with someone else. His tales just don't make sense.

[Anonymous]

What if OP's husband was tipping poorly or acting like a dick? Might she give him a hickey then to teach him a lesson when his wife saw? I don't think she would but my husband thought that might be possible (but not likely) when I told him about this thread.

[Anonymous]

sorry, but I have to agree that this was no stripped and its unlikely friend took him home--why wouldn't he take him to your home, or at least call you? Friend has got to know that staying out all night without contacting wife is a BAD idea. What really happened is he met someone in a bar and slept with her (or did enough to get a hickey) and friend is cover story. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if OP's husband was tipping poorly or acting like a dick? Might she give him a hickey then to teach him a lesson when his wife saw? I don't think she would but my husband thought that might be possible (but not likely) when I told him about this thread.

There's a thought, but I can't imagine sucking on some gross stranger's neck just for revenge.

[Anonymous]

OP, which strip club did they go to? We can then tell you with more certainty the likelihood of his story being true.