Four-year-old son likes makeup and nail polish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jfc, why some of the harsh comments to OP? We didn't all grow up the same way. Some of us grew up believing not confirming to gender stereotypes was wrong and while we know better, others may not. Stop with the judgment for asking a question.

And some of us grew up believing that taking the Lord’s name in vain is a terrible sin, so your JFC loses credibility with me, because you’ve taking His name in vain, and sworn aside from that.

See how that works?

This thread is 6 years old. A lot has changed since then, or at least I hope a lot has.

Point is.. you’re believing what you want, and ignoring (or being an ass) about the rest of it.

[Anonymous]

Have you any of you had issues with a young child getting hold of bombshell bronzer and wiping it on them and their face and legs turning beat red they were put into the bath immediately, but hoping the redness goes away he does not know it’s even red. He said it doesn’t bother him. It’s not burning so I’m guessing it’s just from him wiping it on his arm you know, baby fine skin.

[Anonymous]

It means nothing. Let him do it. All clothes and toys are for everyone. Restrictive gender norms (and mostly misogyny but that’s another discussion) led to the monster that is gender identity religion.

[Anonymous]

I know this post is from 2012 but it makes me smile remembering my preK son who liked to do all that. I once dropped him off at preK with remnants of red eyelids and lips because he had somehow found my long lasting lipstick and applied it while I was making breakfast. He used to ask me to paint his nails when I did mine. And he'd ask for sparkles or a little fun makeup which he'd wear around the house.

He's about to start 6th grade and those days are long, long gone.

[Anonymous]

If it bothers you, think about it like dressing up in costumes, play, imagination and creative expression. It even wotks as learning about colors with fingernail polish and there are probably other correlations to find. You can pivot towards costumes; put together a box of Halloween costumes like firemen, dinosaur, etc. It's part of imagination and play.

[Anonymous]

Kids should be genderless! Teach girls to cut the grass and boys to paint their nails and apply lipstick. All genders should do everything without question.

[Anonymous]

Let him. He is will out grow it. It means nothing being that he likes being with you. Get him a lip balm.

[Anonymous]

OP's son is starting college this week. Maybe she'll update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly I am in the minority here, but why cant you just say no?

No. You are not. I just posted. Some of the moms I've known from preschool and the parks that let their sons do this are very proud of themselves and I really think it is more about them feeling 'oh-so cool and liberal' to be seen as the mom that lets their boys do this stuff (really she was doing it for them because tehy were too small to do it themselves).

Parents say 'no' to all kinds of silly requests...or at least one time in history they did.

100% accurate. This is mothers virtue signaling to each other.

I have two boys and they have never once asked for this. If they did, I would say "makeup is more of a girl thing" and move on, with the same neutrality as I would say "sit on your bottom at the dinner table" or "you can't wear jammies to school."

Personally I take the responsibility of raising good men seriously, and as a woman, I am not at all attracted to feminine men. Why would I allow or push my boys into feminine things? I know they wouldn't be made fun of in the DC area with all of you libs -- rather, he would get praised -- but in other places, it is seen as a strange thing, because it is.

Go ahead, crucify me! See if I care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly I am in the minority here, but why cant you just say no?

No. You are not. I just posted. Some of the moms I've known from preschool and the parks that let their sons do this are very proud of themselves and I really think it is more about them feeling 'oh-so cool and liberal' to be seen as the mom that lets their boys do this stuff (really she was doing it for them because tehy were too small to do it themselves).

Parents say 'no' to all kinds of silly requests...or at least one time in history they did.

100% accurate. This is mothers virtue signaling to each other.

I have two boys and they have never once asked for this. If they did, I would say "makeup is more of a girl thing" and move on, with the same neutrality as I would say "sit on your bottom at the dinner table" or "you can't wear jammies to school."

Personally I take the responsibility of raising good men seriously, and as a woman, I am not at all attracted to feminine men. Why would I allow or push my boys into feminine things? I know they wouldn't be made fun of in the DC area with all of you libs -- rather, he would get praised -- but in other places, it is seen as a strange thing, because it is.

Go ahead, crucify me! See if I care.

Why do you assume all women are attracted to what you are attracted to? I hate progressives and don’t believe in gender ideology, but I think gender is a harmful social construct. I LOVE long hair on men as long as it’s well maintained. I am convinced Legolas was so popular was because of his sexy hair! Without that hair that actor was kinda meh. I think men should wear dresses if they want to. Restrictive gender norms leads to rebellion and the absurd, truth defying cult that is transgenderism.

I 100% agree with you that most boys you see with painted nails etc is just the moms virtue signaling. But I’ve also known some (straight! Emotionally normal!) men throughout my life who enjoy tights, have long hair, and love pink. Gender nonconformity as long as we stay grounded in the facts of human biology is beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Virtue signalling?? What type of virtue am I signalling to let a child put some paint on their toes? Give me a break. Why can't we all just live our lives how we please?

If my child wants to imitate me and wear nail polish I will let him. It's people like you who have caused us to get to wear we are forced to announce pronouns. Making statements like Boys can't wear nail polish is the same as Girls can't be doctors and is more akin to 1984 that 2024

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Clearly I am in the minority here, but why cant you just say no?

No. You are not. I just posted. Some of the moms I've known from preschool and the parks that let their sons do this are very proud of themselves and I really think it is more about them feeling 'oh-so cool and liberal' to be seen as the mom that lets their boys do this stuff (really she was doing it for them because tehy were too small to do it themselves).

Parents say 'no' to all kinds of silly requests...or at least one time in history they did.

100% accurate. This is mothers virtue signaling to each other.

I have two boys and they have never once asked for this. If they did, I would say "makeup is more of a girl thing" and move on, with the same neutrality as I would say "sit on your bottom at the dinner table" or "you can't wear jammies to school."

Personally I take the responsibility of raising good men seriously, and as a woman, I am not at all attracted to feminine men. Why would I allow or push my boys into feminine things? I know they wouldn't be made fun of in the DC area with all of you libs -- rather, he would get praised -- but in other places, it is seen as a strange thing, because it is.

Go ahead, crucify me! See if I care.

[Anonymous]

Good grief what a crazy thread. I guess because it’s so old. Don’t some of you also have daughters? My son sees my daughter painting her nails and wants to try in his favorite color. There’s no reason to make it about anything else. He got the message from others that “boys don’t do that” but it didn’t come from me and I hope he knows I’ll accept him no matter what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP's son is starting college this week. Maybe she'll update.

No 2012 was 12 years ago so he’s 16.