Arkansas judge taped beating his teen daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BTW, PP, how do you interpret the 23rd Psalm?

"Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me?"

Do you feel comforted when beaten with a stick?

This was meant for sassy, mouthy men.

[Anonymous]

Dad doesn't think he's done anything wrong. Maybe he's the one posting here in defense of beating a child with a belt?

http://www.npr.org/blogs/thetwo-way/2011/11/03/141976677/daughter-beaten-by-dad-whos-a-texas-judge-it-happened-regularly?ft=1&f=1001

I don't think it's okay to beat ANYONE with a belt. Little kid, medium kid, adult, etc. It's wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dad doesn't think he's done anything wrong. Maybe he's the one posting here in defense of beating a child with a belt?

http://www.npr.org/blogs/thetwo-way/2011/11/03/141976677/daughter-beaten-by-dad-whos-a-texas-judge-it-happened-regularly?ft=1&f=1001

I don't think it's okay to beat ANYONE with a belt. Little kid, medium kid, adult, etc. It's wrong.

Yep, treat others as you'd like to be treated yourself. It's a pretty basic golden rule.

I'm still feeling sick from seeing 3 seconds of that video and reading justifications on this thread from people who think it's okay to use a belt on a child. So, so sick.

[Anonymous]

One of the reasons why ALL corporal punishment should be banned. It's disgusting. Anyone who find this crap "okay" are messed up in the head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am horrified that there are people on this thread justifying hitting a child with a belt.

It is monstrous, and you people have pretty fucked up value systems. I bet you call yourselves Christians.

It's monstrous to spank a child with a belt? Sorry, but I find using your hand much more grievous.

BTW, I find it interesting that the folks against spankings are the most filthy-mouthed, quick-tempered posters....yet they call those who spank monstrous, violent, etc. Oh, the irony.

Last time I checked, using the word "f*ck" didn't result in bruises, pain, scrapes, etc. The real irony is thinking you are a better person - after causing physical harm to your child - because you don't cuss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever thinks beating a teenager with a belt will result in more obedience is stupid.

The guy in the video was probably a "time-out" parent in the teenager's youth and is switching tactics. IME, children who were spanked appropriately in their younger years are respectful of their parents as they aged, so the need to spank teenagers would be rare indeed. I was spanked with a belt as a child and can't remember ever getting disciplined past the age of 10 or 11.

I'm really having a hard time with people like you. You really think that the only way kids behave as they age is to get spanked (and with a belt!) as a child??? God, this is wrong on so many different levels I don't even know what to say. But please, children don't need to feel pain in order to behave. They simply don't. They don't even need the threat of pain to behave.

Spanking (and certainly with a belt) is such an "easy way out" for parenting. As a parent, you don't actually have to invest much time/energy into it. You hurt your child and your child learns to fear you so they do as you say. There are ways to raise respectful, behaving kids without this kind of violence and fear. These ways just take longer and require more consistency. Time outs do in fact work - but often times, at first, you need to keep returning your child to the place of the time out over and over and over. And...there is always such a thing as positive reinforcement. It does work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am horrified that there are people on this thread justifying hitting a child with a belt.

It is monstrous, and you people have pretty fucked up value systems. I bet you call yourselves Christians.

It's monstrous to spank a child with a belt? Sorry, but I find using your hand much more grievous.

BTW, I find it interesting that the folks against spankings are the most filthy-mouthed, quick-tempered posters....yet they call those who spank monstrous, violent, etc. Oh, the irony.

Last time I checked, using the word "f*ck" didn't result in bruises, pain, scrapes, etc. The real irony is thinking you are a better person - after causing physical harm to your child - because you don't cuss.

I am not one who thinks that the beating in the video is in any way justified, however emotional / verbal abuse can be extremely damaging as well. Many deep wounds and scars are not physical in nature.

[Anonymous]

The father said on camera that he didn't do anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

bad parents that are socially awkward and were raised this way beat their children. She's a human being not some animal. You scold her, you take stuff away from her and maybe one spank for her to feel what it tastes like. He hit her multiple times while verbally abusing her. You guys that approve of this probably had it happen to you and you're just as screwed up as this dude that believes an eye for an eye is a smart idea. This guy should be laid over the bed and hit by someone twice his size and strength like this girl was and lets see how he reacts afterwards.

[Anonymous]

you people who have the mentality that this is the 1920s. Not everything we do that is accepted is right. Shit changes. Slavery was considered okay, demoting african americans to second class citizens okay, beating the shit out of your kid for a small reason okay. It changes this kind of beating isnt right you stupid idiots. That was downloading a song; what wouldve happened had she gotten caught underage drinking or in trouble at school. SOmething a little more serious and this guy wouldve killed her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am horrified that there are people on this thread justifying hitting a child with a belt.

It is monstrous, and you people have pretty fucked up value systems. I bet you call yourselves Christians.

It's monstrous to spank a child with a belt? Sorry, but I find using your hand much more grievous.

BTW, I find it interesting that the folks against spankings are the most filthy-mouthed, quick-tempered posters....yet they call those who spank monstrous, violent, etc. Oh, the irony.

Last time I checked, using the word "f*ck" didn't result in bruises, pain, scrapes, etc. The real irony is thinking you are a better person - after causing physical harm to your child - because you don't cuss.

I am not one who thinks that the beating in the video is in any way justified, however emotional / verbal abuse can be extremely damaging as well. Many deep wounds and scars are not physical in nature.

I don't disagree with that. But it isn't emotionally abusive to say "F" in and of itself. It is only abusive if it is directed at a person, as some string of profanity or something. That was the only point I was trying to make...

[Anonymous]

I go back and forth re how I feel about spanking. Honestly, I think it's each parent's job to discipline how they see fit. Doesn't mean I don't find the video shocking and simply sad. Mostly, I wonder where I will be as a parent when my kid is 7. I really just cannot imagine being a person who had the capacity to discipline my child like that. I think that's what I find most disturbing. But, I guess that's easy to say for me since I'm parenting a 3 y/o at the moment.

[Anonymous]

I saw it numerous times before I could find the damn remote to change the channel. OMG sick. Wish I could un-see it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really wish the posters saying that they spanked their kids would get off this thread. It's really making me sick. Physical punishment is abuse. Why use it when there are so many other types of discipline you can use? What century do you live in?

I'm with you. This physically makes me sick.

The father said, "I'll beat you into submission." That's exactly what corporal punishment does. There's no lesson there. It's just one person with all the power using violence to control a weaker human being. It's disgusting. And if you do this to your own child, you're a complete failure as a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am horrified that there are people on this thread justifying hitting a child with a belt.

It is monstrous, and you people have pretty fucked up value systems. I bet you call yourselves Christians.

It's monstrous to spank a child with a belt? Sorry, but I find using your hand much more grievous.

BTW, I find it interesting that the folks against spankings are the most filthy-mouthed, quick-tempered posters....yet they call those who spank monstrous, violent, etc. Oh, the irony.

This is actually quite insightful; thanks. See, for people like yourself, beating your child til they bleed is a-ok, but using a cuss-word to condemn it is out-of-bounds.