Location sharing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We did, and then my husband's (of 25 years) kept going out, and I didn't think much of it. and didn't really ask. I mean he only really went to work, work events and back.
Well, turns out he was having an affair with a married coworker and he ended up leaving our family for her (and she left her husband).

So, now location sharing is a must in my family with my kids and any future partner.

I like how location sharing is a must of your takeaway here. Lol.

No, actually, me and my kids are entirely devastated, emotions shattered and will likely never trust anyone again. Thanks for your concern.
My takeaway is that absolutely no one's marriage or Partner is entirely safe. Every friend in our life was dumbfounded by his betrayal. He completely exited his old life. His distant family across the country didn't care, but never did.

Tracking. Will. Not. Keep. You. Safe. Or. Prevent. Anything.

All it is is a crazy maker. That said, I track my best friend (and she me) so we can see each other ... not for safety, but so I can check in and say OMG you are in California!! Whatcha doing? and she me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t track my husbands location but he tracks mine. My husband doesn’t want me to have his location because, “he’s a grown man”. We both have our 17 and 21 year old daughter’s location, and I’m constantly worried about their safety, but it only helps a little, and I have to spend a lot of my work day checking their locations.

See, that's just wrong.

1) if he tracks you, then you should track him. Or neither.
2) you need to stop tracking your daughters and stop worrying about them and learn to trust that you brought them up smart and they can take care of themselves.

Nobody NEEDS to do anything here just b/c you do it.

No, of course not. But the op said she spends a lot of her workday checking her kids locations and is constantly worried about them. She really does need to make a change. FWIW, I have access to my kids locations (late teens). But I don't track them. I will check in on them if they drove to Baltimore and aren't yet home at 2AM. But during the workday? No. Because I'm not anxious and worried and spending my day worried that they aren't capable of taking care of themselves. That is a problem.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I just wanna go by myself at the bookstore and have coffee and not have anyone know where I am or in my business for an afternoon. Is that so wrong?

[Anonymous]

Having access to information doesn’t mean you have to use it. DH and I’ve complete access and transparency on everything from phones, locations, finances, social media etc but we hardly ever bother to look up unless needed.

However, we’ve been together since our 20’s and married for decades, I wouldn’t recommend it to a new couple until they have full trust of each other.

[Anonymous]

If someone has reservations about these things, usually either they’ve something to hide or they don’t trust their partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds good. If one of you got kidnapped, or murdered, it would help tremendously, why wouldn’t you share locations?

The kidnapper would get rid of your phone immediately.

[Anonymous]

We did not have our locations shared until our oldest kid got an apple watch and then we created a family apple account. Now all 3 of us can track each other. I mainly use it in place of texting "hey have you left yet?" so I can see how close my DH or kid is to home. Other than that it's pretty boring since we are at home or work most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I just wanna go by myself at the bookstore and have coffee and not have anyone know where I am or in my business for an afternoon. Is that so wrong?

No not at all. But my DH would still never know that's what I was doing because he's not checking my location regularly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I would never ever agree to being tracked.

Agree. Why is having autonomy and not wanting to be tracked a bad thing or mean someone is hiding something or doing something bad? If you think this you have bigger problems. We don’t track as have never even thought about it. And I am talking about adults not kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I just wanna go by myself at the bookstore and have coffee and not have anyone know where I am or in my business for an afternoon. Is that so wrong?

No but it says you fear judgement and your partner can be judgmental. In your case, it’s okay for your peace but it highlights a need to improve this relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If someone has reservations about these things, usually either they’ve something to hide or they don’t trust their partner.

This is ridiculous. The fact you think the worst says something about you and/or your relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If someone has reservations about these things, usually either they’ve something to hide or they don’t trust their partner.

This is ridiculous. The fact you think the worst says something about you and/or your relationship.

And tracking won’t fix your relationship or insecurities.

[Anonymous]

Our family shares locations and it’s just not a big deal to us. None of us feel watched or patrolled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I just wanna go by myself at the bookstore and have coffee and not have anyone know where I am or in my business for an afternoon. Is that so wrong?

No not at all. But my DH would still never know that's what I was doing because he's not checking my location regularly.

This^. I have faith that he isn’t a psycho and has other things to do than check on me. Even if he checks, he would be happy I’m doing something for myself. He would also have faith that I didn’t drop more important things for this and if I did, there must be a reason for that.

[Anonymous]

Well, considering quarter of American marriages end up in divorce and a quarter are unhealthy and unhappy, odds are 50-50 on this being a good idea or not. Great for healthy and secure relationships but can be a source of judgement, manipulation or even fraud and abuse for many.