Location sharing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is how I found out my husband was having an affair.

Before, I would have bet my children’s lives that he wasn’t cheating. I would have bet every penny I had.

+1. The week before, we were looking at buying a vacation home, planning a European vacation, making future plans, intimacy, I love yous, etc.
It could happen to absolutely anyone.

+1

I'd have sworn up and down on my first wife's fidelity too. We had regular sex- hugged all the time, went on dates, took vacations, equally coparented, literally no sign of straying at all.

Then one day while she was showering before a 'work' flight, her phone (which was on silent) rang with the breakthrough ring (three calls in two minutes or whatever it was) and I saw it was from 617 (Cambridge Ma.) and it was like a light went off in my head. A guy she worked with SEVEN years earlier was from Cambridge. Literally the only person I ever met from there. The realization was like a swimming pool had been poured on me. He was calling to make slight changes to the trip they weer going on.

She denied denied denied for like a month until she finally broke down. They'd reconnected by happenstance when he was in DC for a conference three years earlier. Bumped into each other at the CVS on 17th in Dupont. Had a drink and began a three year long affair. I never really got the truth about how much of her 'work travel' was real versus two and three day tryts in Richmond...

It's been over a decade and I don't think the sting will ever go away.

[Anonymous]

I would gladly share location but my husband refuses.

[Anonymous]

I am a DW and I will never track DH’s location or share my location with anyone and never will. If I want to know where someone is or what their ETA is, I’ll use my words and ask for an update. If they die or lie, well we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. How else did humans manage through 10,000 years of civilization?

I work with younger Gen Z women who share with their mothers and are frequently tracking her throughout the day and commenting on where she is/isn’t. I can only assume it goes both ways. It gives me a crazy ick, I can’t imagine knowing or wanting or even thinking about that information at 25.

[Anonymous]

My kids and I share with each other. For some reason DH says no to sharing. It would make me suspicious but he is such a homebody that he rarely goes anywhere without me for more than 30 minutes. When the discussion came up DD was literally working in his office and eating lunch with him daily so I’m confident that he’s not having an affair. And he doesn’t exchange locations with the kids either. He has had to help them with a flat tire or dead battery and I have to be on the phone to help him find them. So annoying! He is not a tech guy at all and needs help just sharing a photo or logging into websites so maybe that’s the reason. I have no idea how anybody Gen X can struggle with this. My 85 year old dad is more capable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW and I will never track DH’s location or share my location with anyone and never will. If I want to know where someone is or what their ETA is, I’ll use my words and ask for an update. If they die or lie, well we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. How else did humans manage through 10,000 years of civilization?

I work with younger Gen Z women who share with their mothers and are frequently tracking her throughout the day and commenting on where she is/isn’t. I can only assume it goes both ways. It gives me a crazy ick, I can’t imagine knowing or wanting or even thinking about that information at 25.

My Gen Z kids share with me. They live at home and this way they don’t feel like they have to constantly be in touch. For example if they don’t come home, I can check and quickly determine it’s due to traffic or they are at their SO’s. We’ve also found it helpful when they needed me to meet up with them. They like it because if I am out running errands, they can see my location and ask me to pick something up nearby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW and I will never track DH’s location or share my location with anyone and never will. If I want to know where someone is or what their ETA is, I’ll use my words and ask for an update. If they die or lie, well we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. How else did humans manage through 10,000 years of civilization?

I work with younger Gen Z women who share with their mothers and are frequently tracking her throughout the day and commenting on where she is/isn’t. I can only assume it goes both ways. It gives me a crazy ick, I can’t imagine knowing or wanting or even thinking about that information at 25.

My Gen Z kids share with me. They live at home and this way they don’t feel like they have to constantly be in touch. For example if they don’t come home, I can check and quickly determine it’s due to traffic or they are at their SO’s. We’ve also found it helpful when they needed me to meet up with them. They like it because if I am out running errands, they can see my location and ask me to pick something up nearby.

These examples are literally active surveillance measures and enmeshed lack of boundary dynamics in action. Not just a passive just in case of emergency thing. To each their own, but it just doesn’t seem healthy for your Gen Z adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW and I will never track DH’s location or share my location with anyone and never will. If I want to know where someone is or what their ETA is, I’ll use my words and ask for an update. If they die or lie, well we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. How else did humans manage through 10,000 years of civilization?

I work with younger Gen Z women who share with their mothers and are frequently tracking her throughout the day and commenting on where she is/isn’t. I can only assume it goes both ways. It gives me a crazy ick, I can’t imagine knowing or wanting or even thinking about that information at 25.

Sharing one's location with thir spouse = the collpase of civilization?

You are precisely the flavor of unhinged that keeps me coming back to this place.

[Anonymous]

I don't share locations. I find it oddly enmeshed

[Anonymous]

My husband and I share locations AND we share with our children and my sister and mom. Don't care what people think or say about it- it works for us.

[Anonymous]

NO way I would ever do this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW and I will never track DH’s location or share my location with anyone and never will. If I want to know where someone is or what their ETA is, I’ll use my words and ask for an update. If they die or lie, well we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. How else did humans manage through 10,000 years of civilization?

I work with younger Gen Z women who share with their mothers and are frequently tracking her throughout the day and commenting on where she is/isn’t. I can only assume it goes both ways. It gives me a crazy ick, I can’t imagine knowing or wanting or even thinking about that information at 25.

My Gen Z kids share with me. They live at home and this way they don’t feel like they have to constantly be in touch. For example if they don’t come home, I can check and quickly determine it’s due to traffic or they are at their SO’s. We’ve also found it helpful when they needed me to meet up with them. They like it because if I am out running errands, they can see my location and ask me to pick something up nearby.

They are ADULTS. This is so messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a DW and I will never track DH’s location or share my location with anyone and never will. If I want to know where someone is or what their ETA is, I’ll use my words and ask for an update. If they die or lie, well we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. How else did humans manage through 10,000 years of civilization?

I work with younger Gen Z women who share with their mothers and are frequently tracking her throughout the day and commenting on where she is/isn’t. I can only assume it goes both ways. It gives me a crazy ick, I can’t imagine knowing or wanting or even thinking about that information at 25.

Sharing one's location with thir spouse = the collpase of civilization?

You are precisely the flavor of unhinged that keeps me coming back to this place.

Sorry, I'm with PP. Don't need to stalk other adults, and I'm sorry big tech has made you feel like that's a normal, everyday occurrence.

[Anonymous]

Yes as I think the default settings to iPhone is that devices under one Apple account are listed under “find my”

[Anonymous]

Not sharing. Don't need to. Think it's weird.

[Anonymous]

People that don't share can never really be trusted. Deal braeker for me.